Do you care about getting married?

[hottytoddy]

I want to, one day-when I find the right person and the time feels right. But I would never get married just because I thought it was time, etc. I think too many people get married for the wrong reasons.

[starang21]

the last one i wanted to marry....

right now, i'm single and the GM of a team...



marriage is the last thing on my mind

[Munchkin03]

I care about getting married, sure. I'd like to have a family, and to me there's no other option than to get married or to be in some sort of committed relationship.

But I care more about a lot of other things, such as:

1. establishing my financial and emotional independence.
2. finishing my education.
3. establishing a career in something I enjoy.
4. traveling when and where I want.
5. experiencing new and diferent things.

...and that's just the beginning...

[TriDeltaGal]

Originally posted by AKA_Monet

I HIGHLY suggest that if you truly know yourself and you do find that magical person that you want to marry that you seriously have "marriage education"...

AKA Monet,
I definitely agree! My fiance and I completed our Catholic "marriage encounter" and I was an amazing experience! It forces couples to discuss so many aspects of their relationship and how each their shared future together like children, religion, parents-in-law, etc. Luckily, my fiance and I have been together for over six years and have discussed all of these things, but I actually met a girl there who's sister went on her weekend retreat and decided not to get married! I also helps couples learn to communicate with one another in a more positive way.

At the end of the weekend, everyone said they felt so emotionally drained!

[astroAPhi]

Do I want to get married? Yes, I want to get married TO someone, and that particular someone is my boyfriend. But I'm not going to get married for the sake of having a family. I want to get married because I love him.

[absoluteZChi]

I've noticed lately that half my friends are getting/are married, with a few rocky spots in the relationship and the other half (I'm in this group) either living together or single and not looking into getting married.

Sometimes I think it has to do with how we're brought up...a friend got married because this was the only way she was able to move out of her house.


I was engaged once at a VERY young age and can't believe that I almost made the biggest mistake ever! Now I feel that I would like to get married, but I sometimes think its more because I want that " fairytell" day...

-big gown
-big party
and of course....ALL EYES ON ME

If I had to be really honest with all of you right now, I'd have to say: ...not getting married is OK with me...just give me an engagment ring.

[Lovely_gurl]

Originally posted by PhoenixAzul
Well, I was the one who initiated the action in this relationship. We have a 5 year age difference, and I definitely had to be aggressive to get him to consider me. But this is the one instance, the only instance, where I will not do the asking. I've always been the initiator, kissing, dating, etc etc. This is ONE TIME I want him to do this on his own. Plus my parents want him to ask for permission. My dad won't give him permission unless he has a ring...my dad proposed to my mom without a ring, and now he's totally against it...kinda odd.

I think you are wise to follow your heart on this one. The shift that is likely to occur in your relationship when he is the one to do the asking (including his decision to talk to your parents) sounds like it is what you are ultimately looking for...or you would have already posed the question. Something is telling you NOT to do this, and it is probably a good idea to listen to that "something"...that tells you this is right for you.
The same is true about giving an "ultimatum". Of course, it is reasonable to set a time for yourself in one relationship before saying "okay...this is clearly not moving forward..." But at that point, it is probably wiser just to end the relationship and move on. After all, if he has to be told "your time is up...pick me or lose me" before making the decision, then, if he proposes after that, you may be faced with a very unsettling feeling of not knowing whether he proposed for the right reasons or simply because he was afraid to be alone.

[Shima-Mizu]

I'm all for it... we've already been ring shopping... and he just recently lavaliered me to his fraternity this past Friday... I love him so very much... he's really the most amazing man I've ever dated... and by far my longest relationship There's just something about us that clicks... we fit together like perfectly matched puzzle pieces...

[sigmagrrl]

Originally posted by PhoenixAzul
Well, I was the one who initiated the action in this relationship. We have a 5 year age difference, and I definitely had to be aggressive to get him to consider me. But this is the one instance, the only instance, where I will not do the asking. I've always been the initiator, kissing, dating, etc etc. This is ONE TIME I want him to do this on his own. Plus my parents want him to ask for permission. My dad won't give him permission unless he has a ring...my dad proposed to my mom without a ring, and now he's totally against it...kinda odd.

I hear ya...You want to be the GIRL!!!

[Rio_Kohitsuji]

Yes, I do care about getting married. I've always wanted to get married, to the right person of course! Which thankfully will happening next summer!

[XOMichelle]

eventually, yes I think I will want to get married. I'd want to be married while raising children. Right now the idea of being with one person for the rest of my life is more scary than comforting.

[shadokat]

At 30, yeah, I am ready to get married. Of course, that would entail meeting the right person, which hasn't happened, so therefore, I wait . And I don't even want to get married to have the children...I just want to spend my life with someone who I love, who loves me, and that we can enjoy that together.

Yes I want to be married someday soon.

[omegamcgee]

I want a wedding, but not a marriage. I love parties, and I want to get all dressed up, say "I don't...but who wants cake!" Actually, I was engaged my senior year of high school. I almost didn't come to college, but thankfully, I applied, we broke up, and I came. My life would be HORRIBLE if I had gotten married and I would have missed out on so much stuff. Currently, I'm terrified of committment, but maybe someday I'll meet someone who makes me get over that real quick!

[_Opi_]

I cherish my independance far too much to be dreaming about getting married. Until I am settled, and do all the things that I want to do....call me selfish or whatnot...then I'll worry about it.