Stupid Question - Page 3

Dionysus · #31 10-19-2004, 11:07 AM

When women act like this it breaks my heart. It hurts that a lot women allow guys to treat them like shit, it is even worse when cool women like you put up with shit.

DON'T GO!

UKDaisy · #32 10-19-2004, 11:37 AM

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Originally posted by AOII_LB93

NOOOOO! Don't do it. Damn, I'm not even your sister and I'm telling ya don't do it. If you want to spend $154 to fly some where, get a girlfriend to go with ya and head to Vegas instead. At least the memories will be more worth it in the long run, and who knows a few good bets and you might even come home with some $$.

Reasons why I think you shouldn't go:

1.) Everyone thinks you are cool *and you went to a Kentucky school - how could you not be cool?* - so you obviously don't deserve this treatment.

2.) I like the idea of using the 154.00 towards a good trip *like AOII_LB93 said above* or a nice spa package! Better yet - jewerly!

3.) It would give him the power in the "relationship"

4.) OohTeenyWahine and James agree on something. This is an automatic sign that you can not go.

Now.....if you do decide to go ....do what Sam on SATC didn't do with Dom whatever. You get the best of him! You make him buy you dinner, wine, flowers, etc. And then you leave for a fun evening with the gals.

"A smart girl makes a man sweat." - Rule #15 - The Southern Belle's Handbook

AlphaGamDiva · #33 10-19-2004, 03:42 PM

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Originally posted by KSig RC
"may"? jesus fucking christ dude

yeah, yeah....this has been a 5 year long ordeal.....ya can't change stupid with the snap of your fingers.

ok....so i talked to my friend who is ready for this adventure with me......the plan for NOW is:

--we go, chill with our sor. sis. in baltimore, her hubby, and my friend's b/f.....we meet up with my idiot, and he has a 10 minute window to not piss me off (trust me, this is plenty of time for him to insert his foot into his mouth)....after those 10 minutes are up, we decide to either chill with him, OR just leave him and go do our own thing.

i'm ALL ready for option B.

then all day sunday, we're going to DC since the last time i was there i was 2 (AF boy leaves sunday am, so there's no chance of meeting up again). this idea/plan/thought has turned now into more of a rachael/monica road trip than a meeting the idiot thing......i rarely get to see rachael, and i haven't seen our baltimore sister in a year, so ya know.....she's excited, i'm excited.....so, we've decided good ideas come out of really stupid ones.

4.) OohTeenyWahine and James agree on something. This is an automatic sign that you can not go.-----ain't that it?

thanks for being brutally honest, guys.....always helps.

KSig RC · #34 10-19-2004, 04:37 PM

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Originally posted by AlphaGamDiva
ok....so i talked to my friend who is ready for this adventure with me......the plan for NOW is:

--we go, chill with our sor. sis. in baltimore, her hubby, and my friend's b/f.....we meet up with my idiot, and he has a 10 minute window to not piss me off (trust me, this is plenty of time for him to insert his foot into his mouth)....after those 10 minutes are up, we decide to either chill with him, OR just leave him and go do our own thing. i'm ALL ready for option B. then all day sunday, we're going to DC since the last time i was there i was 2 (AF boy leaves sunday am, so there's no chance of meeting up again). this idea/plan/thought has turned now into more of a rachael/monica road trip than a meeting the idiot thing......i rarely get to see rachael, and i haven't seen our baltimore sister in a year, so ya know.....she's excited, i'm excited.....so, we've decided good ideas come out of really stupid ones.

so now you either

a.) fall back into a shit hole relationship with a douchebag
b.) allow the douchebag 'ample time' to piss you off and take a dump on your night
c.) BOTH (the most likely scenario, I might add)

OK, so, still not seeing any problems with this plan? But I'm sure you're oh-so-prepared, and more than ready to walk away. That would explain why you concocted this road trip to begin with.

#35 10-19-2004, 04:46 PM

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Originally posted by AlphaGamDiva

4.) OohTeenyWahine and James agree on something. This is an automatic sign that you can not go. ain't that it?

Mon, you know I'll love you no matter what, but you know that when me and James agree on something then it's a sign.

AKA_Monet · #36 10-19-2004, 05:00 PM

AlphaGamDiva,

Like everyone else has stated, it would be very unwise to go...

Even "rationalizing" a road trip with sorority sisters still does not give you justification in going...

Either way, you will have your feelings hurt... Because within 2 seconds of seeing homeboy, all your "lovey-dovey-ness" will be amplified 100000000000 times... And all brain power will go to the toilet...

Homey KNOWS how to play... He WILL be sweet within your "minimizing" time frame--then where would that put you and your feelings?

Since you are more than insistant on going near that fool, then ask yourself this question: Are you going to have fun with girlfriends without rationalization of it? Or are you going to see sparks fly given the sordid history that you all told us? And you are probably going to do both...

So in that instance, you are allowing yourself to be "doormatted"... Accept your "wishy washiness" and have the best fcuk in town... Do not bring ANY $$$... And leave when you need to--meaning if there is dead silence other than sleeping, and the conversation is estranged, then go... Do not stay, you will only get hurt... Do what Kantrelle Blu says, make sure to blow up his credit card and get everything you can--no madda how it looks, come out on top...

My point being, if you gonna allow yourself to be pimped and prostituted (like dat), then do as the playas do, play the role all the way--don't do it half-assed--make that money and clock those dollars...

If you gonna be hardcore, swing it like that... And move on... 'Cuz obviously, you wanna set yourself up and hey, it's gonna hurt anyways--at least minimize the severity of the pain...

AlphaGamDiva · #37 10-21-2004, 03:38 PM

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Originally posted by KSig RC
OK, so, still not seeing any problems with this plan? But I'm sure you're oh-so-prepared, and more than ready to walk away. That would explain why you concocted this road trip to begin with.

so, i'm guessing the ol' "but i LOVE him" thing doesn't really work with you?

lol

the bottom line is, i am a glutton for punishment. anyone who knows me knows this. (paging ilovemyglo) i think i LIKE the whole drama/torture thing b/c i know nothing can come with him......like, he's a "safe" zone for me b/c he's not marriage potential. (which, i believe, i am somewhat afraid of seeing as though i broke off 2 perfectly good relationships for no defined reason) so, really....if i go up there, it doesn't matter if he's a dick or prince charming. i know that a wk later all will be back to "normal" either way. make sense? prob not.....but, ya know. i got nothin better to do that wknd......

OH....and just to throw this in there......there will be no <porn music>......none, natta, zipola.....i done said.

TMI, but there it is.

astroAPhi · #38 10-21-2004, 05:19 PM

I'd still save myself the gas money.

I wouldn't drive that far to see an ex, let alone fly.

wrigley · #39 10-21-2004, 11:03 PM

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Originally posted by AlphaGamDiva
so, i'm guessing the ol' "but i LOVE him" thing doesn't really work with you? lol

the bottom line is, i am a glutton for punishment. anyone who knows me knows this. (paging ilovemyglo) i think i LIKE the whole drama/torture thing b/c i know nothing can come with him......like, he's a "safe" zone for me b/c he's not marriage potential. (which, i believe, i am somewhat afraid of seeing as though i broke off 2 perfectly good relationships for no defined reason) so, really....if i go up there, it doesn't matter if he's a dick or prince charming. i know that a wk later all will be back to "normal" either way. make sense? prob not.....but, ya know. i got nothin better to do that wknd......

I disagree that he's a "safe zone" or that things will go back to "normal". He's toxic to you and as long as you let him back into your life even for five minutes he will effect you. The fact that you have to orchestrate support just in case date night with him turns sour is such a waste of your time as well as your friends who I doubt think highly of him either. You've lived this long without him I think you're onto something.

As for ending your relationships maybe you just need some time away from baby daddy drama boy and figure out what's best for you without being in a relationship.

#40 10-21-2004, 11:48 PM

Mon, apparently not even calling you a desperate skank won't get you to change your mind. You seem pretty adamant in going but I doubt that you're going to convince any of us that what you are doing is a good thing.

So if I were you I'd leave the discussion be just so you don't look any more of an idiot for going.

KSig RC · #41 10-22-2004, 02:30 AM

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Originally posted by OohTeenyWahine

So if I were you I'd leave the discussion be just so you don't look any more of an idiot for going.

Rudey · #42 10-22-2004, 11:41 AM

I don't know what the big deal is. There are lots of girls on Greekchat that fly to meet dudes.

-Rudey

BobbyTheDon · #43 10-22-2004, 03:02 PM

hi

i don't know you. so this advice will be really easy to give. I will go against the grain as I usually do. GO OUT AND SEE HIM! Bang the Bejesus out of him!

Why? because this guy treated you like Shit. He called yo ua skank and a ho? ANd you still are considering it?! Man, I wish I could do that to a chick and get away with it. He must have a 10 inch weener or something. The sex was obviously good for you back then to put up with him.

So do it for the one night. And feel like a champion when you fly back. Or feel sore. and don't feel like a whore. a girls gotta do what a girls gotta do to get some. And if you really do fly out to see this guy, I want you to print this post and have him are read it...and have him send me 100 bucks because I just assissted him. So Go for It!

I am the champion. Yayyyyyyy look at me.

AlphaGamDiva · #44 10-22-2004, 03:24 PM

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Originally posted by BobbyTheDon
hi

i don't know you. so this advice will be really easy to give. I will go against the grain as I usually do. GO OUT AND SEE HIM! Bang the Bejesus out of him!

Why? because this guy treated you like Shit. He called yo ua skank and a ho? ANd you still are considering it?! Man, I wish I could do that to a chick and get away with it. He must have a 10 inch weener or something. The sex was obviously good for you back then to put up with him.

So do it for the one night. And feel like a champion when you fly back. Or feel sore. and don't feel like a whore. a girls gotta do what a girls gotta do to get some. And if you really do fly out to see this guy, I want you to print this post and have him are read it...and have him send me 100 bucks because I just assissted him. So Go for It!

I am the champion. Yayyyyyyy look at me.

lmao.....um....okay....???

i'm glad that i have ppl both looking out for my emotional well-being as well as my physical. thanks, guys. lol

AlphaGamDiva · #45 11-04-2004, 03:33 PM

ok, so to kind of update this lil situation for those who care (bobby, i know you're super interested):

he's called me the past 3 days, but i've missed his call. he left me messages talking about how he's leaving early and will get in fri instead of saturday, and leave saturday instead of sunday, MAYBE. well, last nite he left me a message saying that everything was cool and plans were the same as they were before. i actually talked to him this afternoon, and he said he was getting on his plane. i had mentioned that me and my 2 friends MIGHT be leaving tomorrow nite, but it wouldn't be until they got out of work.....but he got ALL in a tizzie b/c we may miss each other. i'm like, "GRRRRR!" b/c i'm so sorry that the military is crappin up your plans.....but i'm not sorry that i've made other plans while i'm up there and that i'm keepin them whether you're there or not. a$$. so i basically just told him to call me when he gets there and i'll hope for the best. he was AAAAANNNNNGGGGGRY.

have a safe flight, maybe i'll see you saturday.