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Old 08-06-2004, 08:36 PM
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Re: Re: Re: Re: Ex-boyfriend confusion

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Well, did he get all mushy and gushy before or after he saw you with other guys?

If he got all mushy-gushy after he saw you with other guys, then why does he got to be paging you at 12 AMish?

A man respects your time and gives you the time that you need...

It sounds like he's hatin' the player but not the game...

LOL!!!!!!! He hasn't actually seen me with other guys but he knows through our conversation that I have been talking/seeing someone (i kinda am...i'm not looking to get into anything right now).

When he sent me the text...that was the first time we had been in contact since we broke up. He had heard that day through his roommate (a girl whom i'm friends with) that i was doing great and happy.
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Old 08-06-2004, 09:58 PM
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Everyone repeat after me:

"I will not speak to my Ex. I will have no contact. I will block his number, email and IM. I will not pick up an unscreened phone call or a strange number."

Seriously. Its not easy to just stop talking to someone. Its just necessary. Kind of like someone with a drinking problem that has decided to quit drinking.

Don't grab another drink until you don't want another.

And like drinking, we all want another no matter how bad our last hang over was. We forget the pain and remember the pleasure.

ETA: We can only help you if you want to quit, and stop sneaking drinks now and again
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Old 08-06-2004, 10:32 PM
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Everyone repeat after me:

"I will not speak to my Ex. I will have no contact. I will block his number, email and IM. I will not pick up an unscreened phone call or a strange number."

Seriously. Its not easy to just stop talking to someone. Its just necessary. Kind of like someone with a drinking problem that has decided to quit drinking.

Don't grab another drink until you don't want another.

And like drinking, we all want another no matter how bad our last hang over was. We forget the pain and remember the pleasure.

ETA: We can only help you if you want to quit, and stop sneaking drinks now and again
LOL!! Thanks James, I have taken the 'Pledge' and will abide by it.

(that was a very good analogy b/w relationships and drinking!!!)
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Old 08-07-2004, 11:10 AM
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Ok...so i took James' Pledge.....THEN.........

as I was sitting here last night spending time with my mom (who is in town for the weekend), my house phone rings. (i only use my house phone for the internet so therefore I do not have caller id.) i usually do not answer my house phone b/c 9 times out of 10 it is a telemarketer. it was kinda late and so i knew it couldn't have been a telemarketer, so i answered and to my dismay it was the EX!!!!!!!!! UGHHHHHH!!!!!!!!! UGGHH!!!!!

i try to run away and it just keeps following me. yes, i did say that it was kinda late....but no he wasn't calling for a booty call. it has been made clear to him that if he were to attempt something like that it would result in failure. he just wanted to talk....so i talked....its soooo frustrating. i explained to him my frustrations and he understood. we had about a 20 minute conversation. one minute i think i'm being played for as a fool and the next i think he's being sincere....UGHHH!! UGHHH!!! UGHHH!!!!
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Old 08-07-2004, 11:50 AM
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Actually it less like taking another drink and more like getting over a harder addiction, like cocaine or pain killers.

So like you discover a new drug and its wonderful, all highs no lows. And then there highs and lows. Then the lows get kind of bad.

Then you feel really bad about doing something that makes you feel bad, so you decide to quit.

Well whenever you give up something that affects your brain chemistry, crack, heroin, or an Ex-BF . . . the brain and body take a while to adjust. We could addict you to an electric current that affects the pleasure center of your brain, love is a definite brain/body reaction.

And everytime after you quit you take another hit off that crack pipe, or phone call, you feel elated, frustrated, guilty and upset. As well as stress, anxiety and maybe some depression.

Also, every time you take a hit, you delay your rceovery because it brings it all up. Its almost like starting over.

So Peanut, you got to get off the pipe babe.

You could had your mom answer the phone. It was your own unconscious self destructiveness that sold you out.

Kind of like telling yourself you are going to go where all your friends are hanging out but this time you aren't going to take a hit of that pipe.

Just say NO to Crack
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Old 08-07-2004, 01:53 PM
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I shall as well.............
Go us! It's been a week since we have spoken. That means I have three weeks to go.

"I will not speak to my ex for one month (except over the phone to ask his mom to read my medical school essays)."
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Old 08-07-2004, 03:36 PM
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I shall as well.............
yeah, me too...hopefully
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Old 08-08-2004, 05:24 AM
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LOL - I did the same thing- the guy recently broke up with a girl who was cheating on him and we were talking/friends few months before they broke up and a couple of months after the break up - we dated and he wanted me to be his girlfriend and invited me to his family's house to play pool and introduced me to his friends as HIS GIRLFRIEND.That night (afterwards when we were alone) i told him to slow his roll and he should date other girls and have fun since he just recently broke up from a long term relationship in a harsh way (cheating is not good way to end a long term relationship so i dont htink he was over it) and i said to go for other girls and kept pushing him. Few more months - i became "busy" and he finally realized that he should date other girls and he kind of started the break up so ..... but really it was I that started it by pushing him to go out with other girls. then FEW more months later even now a YEAR later he is still trying to hook up with me!! LOL, I dont play that - too bad for him cuz he acted immature and BRAGGED about other girls he was dating especially blonde white girls (no offense but we are both middle eastern so this was a shock) and I realized that i did the right thing cuz he wasnt ready... so remember girl WHY it was over okay .......... its easy to remember the good but remember the BAD - you are not the GUYS BACKUP OKAY!!!
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Old 08-08-2004, 11:23 PM
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Your boy sounds exactly like the boy I just recently got out of a "relationship" with (he told me he had broken up with his girlfriend..but in reality, he hadn't). We had broken up before and he really put a LOT of effort into getting me back. I'm talking apologizing a bajillion times, calling me nightly, and just being soo nice and everything, promised he wouldn't hurt me and all that bull, but then I found out the truth and promptly dumped his butt.

Of course, we had the "I NEVER WANT TO SPEAK WITH YOU EVER AGAIN" argument but then he called me like a week ago "I'm so sorry. I'm not sure if you still want to be friends or not...?" I said I didn't...that's how the whole mess got started after our frist breakup. It's really confusing because I was unblocked for a few days and he IMed me asking me something, but I wasn't there, so then the next day I'm blocked, and now 3 days later, I'm unblocked again, and he went to my website (I have a stat counter)..I dunno I don't understand it because he told me he never wanted to talk to me ever again, and that I wouldn't be able to sleep at night because I would still be thinking of him, but he wouldn't have that problem because he wouldn't be thinking about me (yes he said that)...but here he is all interested in my life still. Grr. Boys suck.

Moral of the story, PLEASE ignore him!! He'll get the hint eventually!!
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Old 08-08-2004, 11:29 PM
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Oh, PS...my guy is from Texas too. I wonder if it's the same dude because he really sounds like the same person.
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Old 08-08-2004, 11:50 PM
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I have had NO contact with my ex since March, and it feels WONDERFUL! Be strong ladies, it will only be better in the end. I promise.
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