PRE-NUPTIAL AGREEMENTS...YAY OR NAY? - Page 3

lovelyivy84 · #31 05-08-2003, 06:19 PM

Wow we got a lot of romantic hopeful people on here, lol.

I would want a pre-nup. Absolutely. Not even because I would want any money that I did not earn, but because in case of the worst case scenario I want my children to be protected. If any of you have ever seen people get divorced you know that they can do amazingly dirty, low-down, underhanded things that you never thought them capable of when their money becomes involved. Work all that out while you still love one another, lol.

Money is one of the top reasons behind divorces in this country. IMO a pre-nup goes pretty far towards putting some of those money fears behind you- there is an agreement in place to protect both parties and you dont need to fear that the person you love will someday try to cheat you.

Marie · #32 05-11-2003, 02:14 PM

At this point in my life, I really can't see myself tolerating a pre-nuptial agreement. I think there is something to be said for going into a marriage with your whole heart and no reservations. When I get married I don't even want the concept of divorce to be on my mind or in my mouth. When I talk to old people who've been married for a long time, say 60+ years, they say that 10 of those years may have been troubled. However, divorce wasn't even a consideration for them. Maybe if I go into my marriage w/this mindset I'll last until 60+ years too. Plus, as has been said b4, I don't have anything to truly protect (at this point).

However, if I had been married previously and divorced, I probably wouldn't be as hopeful and trusting in mariage. If I had gone through a divorce I'd probably be very skeptical. Now I don't think this is the way to go into a marriage, but I could see where a woman might say, "Wow I really love this guy, but I loved so and so just as much, and look what happened then." So maybe in that case, I would consider one. But I hope not.

Marie

royalpinkastry · #33 05-11-2003, 05:15 PM

I am not married but I do plan to get married with the person that I am seeing. We are both at a point in our lives where we are trying to please God, so in doing so, if it was the "will of God' for us to get married, meaning that we are "meant" to be together infinitely ('til death do us part') then no, I do not believe that we will need to sign a pre-nuptial agreement. As you stated there is a equal divide in everything once we stand before God, our families, our friends and each other, there is a commitment, a vow, a promise, a covenant that can only be broken through death. Marriage takes work, going in & maintaining! It is a ministry and can not be taken lightly!

How would I handle it if I was asked ~ first through prayer and submission. God is my first husband so I would ask him is something that he wants me to do, based on the answer given from him, is the answer that I will in turn give my husband, if we do make it down the aisle.

Side Journey ~ The whole topic of prenuptial agreements should come up before the question is asked or answered "will you marry me". Together, you have to prepare for marriage in the beginning so that walking down the aisle and making those vows won't be done with any animosity because one doesn't fully agree with signing a pre-nup.

James · #34 05-11-2003, 09:22 PM

I don't really have something to protect right now lol. But I wouldn't mind a seperation of earnings during the marriage and provisions for the taking care of children financially in case of divorce.

Oh and if she had much more assets to protect I would sign in an instant.

AKA2D '91 · #35 05-12-2003, 08:20 AM

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Originally posted by royalpinkastry
I am not married but I do plan to get married with the person that I am seeing. We are both at a point in our lives where we are trying to please God, so in doing so, if it was the "will of God' for us to get married, meaning that we are "meant" to be together infinitely ('til death do us part') then no, I do not believe that we will need to sign a pre-nuptial agreement. As you stated there is a equal divide in everything once we stand before God, our families, our friends and each other, there is a commitment, a vow, a promise, a covenant that can only be broken through death. Marriage takes work, going in & maintaining! It is a ministry and can not be taken lightly!

How would I handle it if I was asked ~ first through prayer and submission. God is my first husband so I would ask him is something that he wants me to do, based on the answer given from him, is the answer that I will in turn give my husband, if we do make it down the aisle.

Side Journey ~ The whole topic of prenuptial agreements should come up before the question is asked or answered "will you marry me". Together, you have to prepare for marriage in the beginning so that walking down the aisle and making those vows won't be done with any animosity because one doesn't fully agree with signing a pre-nup.

Again...did we ever establish your membership?

I guess it's safe to say you just had to have "pink" in your username.

enlightenment06 · #36 05-12-2003, 08:25 AM

I'm currently single but God willing when I get married I don't want a pre-nup. Why would I want a "just in case" if it's supposed to be for life? I didn't sign any such agreement before I became an Alpha cuz I made the decision to be with this organization for the rest of my life; and when I get married it shall be the same thing. I think people get divorced too easily these days. I know marriage is hard but dag man! EVERYONE in my family has been divorced at least once (except for my sister).

Conskeeted7 · #37 05-12-2003, 06:10 PM

As a married woman, I cannot imagine what I would have done if my husband had asked me to sign a prenup. Not only, do I see that as a bad sign, but it lets me know where I stand as a priority to this man. In the unfortunate case we had to divorce, he would rather make sure that his money is safe than make sure that I am secure and can live on my own afterwards. I don't know of any court that would award spousal support to someone who makes more money than their partner. So, whoever is ordered to pay support, already makes more money than the other person. So, what's wrong with helping them get on their feet for a little bit afterwards? Divorce is a tough transition and if you ever loved that person, you should still care enough for them to understand that they need that kind of help.