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[sunnydays96]

Originally posted by darling1:
sunnydays96, i get the sense that your response was indirectly posed at me. i have been interested for a very long time and i have learned that on the one hand you have to look at seeking membership as a business. if the business has a hiring freeze, i am not going to sit around waiting for the freeze to be over. i would look for something else or stay in my current position. i have talents, assets, goals etc. that i want to reach and i am looking for a 'company' that will allow me to demonstrate them.

I'm just stating my opinion about the question asked and the responses given. If my views coincide with your thoughts then yes, you may say they are indirectly addressed to you and/or other women who think the same way or differently. I don't know you, so I don't know what you would do. I'm just stating what I have seen. You were being honest and so was I.

I don't believe that joining a sorority is like looking for a job- just posting your resume to anything that looks good and hoping that someone will decide to hire you eventually. Joining a sorority in my opinion is a LIFE LONG decision, that's how these orgs. remain ongoing. One can do public service anywhere, however there are more aspects to a sorority than the services provided. That is why they are actively pursued. One should do their research before hand and come to a ULTIMATE decision as far as which one is the right one for them.

It just doesn't sit well with me to have someone say their all about one org, but when things don't go as planned, switch up and say "well _______ (color-pink, red, or blue) looked better on me anyway".

As 12dn94dst stated, there are "tons of other public service organizations" out there in which one could put their assets towards. Hey, interested women can shop around there, but not in my sorority.

[darling1]

sunnydays,

your point is well taken but i do see joining a sorority like joining a corporation and perhaps i should have clarified this, difference being that joining a sorority is a life long commitment. true you wouldn't want any wishy washy people coming seeking membership but the reason i want to join is far from being aesthetic. thanks for the comments, i appreciate your honesty and kindness in the way you expressed them.

[sunnydays96]

Originally posted by darling1:
Ok, you want honesty?? here it is, after the initial shock, anger and sadness, i MAY look at another organization.

MAY?

It's sad to say, but there are some interested women who don't join these org. for the founding ideals. They just join because of that "elitist class" (greek life) status. So, they MAY look-no I don't think so. What I know is that they DO look and join.

I wonder if the interested women would "be honest" and tell the members of both orgs. (the one closed- if they had a chance to show interest-and the new one chosen) this?

[sunnydays96]

Originally posted by darling1:
Ok, you want honesty?? here it is, after the initial shock, anger and sadness, i MAY look at another organization.

MAY?

It's sad to say, but there are some interested women who don't join these orgs. for the founding ideals. They just join because of that "elitist class" (greek life) status. So, they MAY look-no I don't think so. What I know is that they DO look and join.

I wonder if the interested women would "be honest" and tell the members of both orgs. (the one closed- if they had a chance to show interest-and the new one chosen) this?

[CinnamonInsight]

If AKA closed it's doors, I'd be saddened, disappointed, and upset. All I could do is hope that one day the doors would be reopened. I'd support the projects that the sorority would have. There's NO WAY that I'd even think about joining another org. Becoming an AKA has been my dream for what seems like forever and I just couldn't go against my heart and join another org. That would not even be an option!

[This message has been edited by CinnamonInsight (edited January 13, 2001).]

[exquizit]

Originally posted by darling1:
sunnydays,

your point is well taken but i do see joining a sorority like joining a corporation and perhaps i should have clarified this, difference being that joining a sorority is a life long commitment. true you wouldn't want any wishy washy people coming seeking membership but the reason i want to join is far from being aesthetic. thanks for the comments, i appreciate your honesty and kindness in the way you expressed them.

Was something wrong with that viewpoint?

[mrsprissy1]

If the door were closed, I'd have to wait for them to open again. I mean, I would be sad, but good things come to those who wait. I am a part of many organizations and I know we do not take members every year. In fact, if the "house" is not in order, we do not take any new members until we straighten out the wrinkles. The doors will not be closed always and it would give me even more time to get to know the members in my area and participate in open activities with them and also to spend time and share with other interested sisterfriends. I don't know if I will ever be a member, but I know I am thankful for the people I have encountered and the friends I have made along the way. I do not have to be a part of any organization to be a friend or someone's sister, or to help my community.

[southernbelle]

If Alpha Kappa Alpha closed it's doors I would only have one option...WAIT. I'd use that time to get that 4.0 I'm so close to and perform more community service. There's always room for improvement. As for going to the next org.,I don't think so.

[hope01]

First I would contact the organization to see if there is a way I can still volunteer my services and time in conjunction with the programs that AKA stands for without being a member because that is the reason I want to be an AKA in the first place, I believe in the programs and comunity service activities. Then I would if I could participate I would and if I couldn't I would probably very disapointed and upset!

[1 Woman of Virtue]

You know, I've been thinking about this for a while...now I TRULY believe in the power of prayer, and in the favor of God.
If you think about it, all of us who are sisterfriends, are in this situation>> the doors are closed to us, until God opens them. So if the doors were to be "really" closed until whenever, I would just continue to pray and trust God to do what He/She does best, and that's bless us (read: miraculously open those doors!)

[MsFoxyLoxy77]

I have been fortunate enough to be raised in a loving environment and I know that I don't need an organization to mold me into a better person...however I could not would not JUST GET OVER IT. If Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority Inc. decides not to take in any new members my solution would be to cry and pray to God to wake me up from this terrible dream...and I if it wasn't a nightmare then I would play the waiting game and hope to gain membership at the age of 65 or so when the org realizes that the organization realizes that its name will not last for all time without new membership.

[prettyone]

Hello Ladies! In response to the question given, of course I would be upset. I suppose I would look at it as another hurdle in my life that I would have to overcome. To be honest, I have waited so long for the organization of my interest, I would have to just look at it as my blessing has not arrived in the mail yet.... But, as stated before everything happens for a reason. I sincerely doubt also if I would pursue another organization. That opportunity has presented itself many times already and I haven't taken advantage of it yet or never...

[techie_girl_44]

...wait, wait, then wait some more (I'm very patient.) If the organization didn't accept new members in my lifetime, I would die with the organization in my heart. That's worth more to me than succumbing to whatever and joining another organization that doesn't mean anything to me.

[butterfly82]

OF COURSE I WOULD BE DISAPPOINTED, BUT I WOULD NOT TURN TO ANOTHER ORGANIZATION AND LOOK FOR ACCEPTANCE. I BELIEVE THAT IF YOU ARE TRULY CONFIDENT ABOUT THE ORGANIZATION, YOU WAIT UNTIL YOU ARE GRANTED THE CHANCE TO PARTICIPATE IN ANY TYPE OF MEMBERSHIP OPPORTUNITIES. UNTIL THEN, JUST PRAY ON IT!

[shani]

I would do all of the things that I did before, like my community service, and if possible I would even volunteer and try to work closely with the organization. Life is too short to stay mad especially, in situations that you can't control!!