I Don't Date Outside of My Race...

[ladylike]

Originally posted by Obsession8
And, co-sign with all the other picks previously posted (except Nicolas Cage, even though he's Italian and I'm part). I'll also add Wentworth Miller (Prison Break, Mariah Carey's videos for "It's Like That" and "We Belong Together", The Human Stain, etc.). Those eyes...those eyes...

You're not crossing the line too much with Wentworth since he is multiracial (his father has African-American ancestry). Good choice!

Originally posted by 06pilot

Here is my reasoning.
In any relationship (black or white) the woman is "usually" going to do what the man ddoes. SHe goes wher ethe man takes her and gets into whatever the man is into. So, in a White man, blck women relationship, I dont see him enhancing her African American culture. I dont see him taking her to the KIng Center or to see Black culture events. I could be wrong, but I am just aying what I see.

Bless your lil' heart. How old are you chile?

[Dionysus]

Originally posted by Taualumna
is right.

I guess Asiaphiles don't exist in pilot06's world...I find that a lot of non-Asian guys who date Asian women are REALLY into Asian culture...so much so that they only date foreign born Asian women.

Exactly. I know only a few people who dates interracially (or even interculturally), that has zero interest in the background of the people they are dating.

I think this often applies to close platonic friendships also.

[AKA2D '91]

*dayum* All I asked for was who would you date?

(longggggggggg sigh)

It's my fault. I should have deleted the posts from 2000.

[06pilot]

I hear what yu are sayong, but inthis country, we already know much about European culture. Its taught inthe school system. Unfortunantly, we are not taught very much about african american culture. CAse in point, I knew a black girl that dated nothing but upper class white guys. We were talking about Black history monthm and I was appauled at the lack of knowledge she had about her own people. She told me she was never exposed to those things.

Thas why I came to the conclusion I did. Like I said, my views are steadily changing. And, again, livinginthe south, until lately, the only races I mainly come into contact with are blacks and whites. Dont see many asians. But now a days you do.

[mccoyred]

Originally posted by unspokenone25
but if i decided to go down that road...

...Julian McMahon (from Nip/Tuck) on the list as well.

*fanning myself*

I would add Benjamin Bratt (E-Ring, L&O)...whew I gotta sit down

[unspokenone25]

Originally posted by ms_gwyn
my list is long and varied...but some highlights

Brendan Fraser, #1 on my list...."liquid hips" oh man.....
Russell Wong (Kai in Romeo Must Die)
All 4 men in a little group from Ireland that you may have heard of, U2....
Benjamin Bratt

Add Russell Wong, Marcus Chong (even though he went crazy after the whole Matrix fiasco)Benjamin Bratt and Esai Morales (La Bamba and NYPD Blue). Grrrrrrrr!

[mulattogyrl]

Originally posted by AKA2D '91
*dayum* All I asked for was who would you date?

(longggggggggg sigh)

It's my fault. I should have deleted the posts from 2000.

Back to topic:

Brad Pitt
Triple H
Matthew McConaughey
Marc Wahlberg

There's more. I can't think right now.

[Taualumna]

Originally posted by 06pilot
I hear what yu are sayong, but inthis country, we already know much about European culture. Its taught inthe school system. Unfortunantly, we are not taught very much about african american culture. CAse in point, I knew a black girl that dated nothing but upper class white guys. We were talking about Black history monthm and I was appauled at the lack of knowledge she had about her own people. She told me she was never exposed to those things.

Thas why I came to the conclusion I did. Like I said, my views are steadily changing. And, again, livinginthe south, until lately, the only races I mainly come into contact with are blacks and whites.

People know a lot about AMERICANIZED European culture. Do Americans who are NOT of Dutch (or other European descent) descent know much about the Festival of St. Nicolas? What about the Festival of St. Lucia? Did you learn much about that in school? How about Eastern Orthodox cultures? Does the typical American know much about that (other than, perhaps, having different days for Christmas and Easter)? You can't group all European cultures into one and say that they are one and the same. You can't even group American culture together and say that they're one and the same. What's "tradition" in say, the northeast, doesn't mean that it is in the west.

[Honeykiss1974]

Originally posted by 06pilot
I hear what yu are sayong, but inthis country, we already know much about European culture. Its taught inthe school system. Unfortunantly, we are not taught very much about african american culture. CAse in point, I knew a black girl that dated nothing but upper class white guys. We were talking about Black history monthm and I was appauled at the lack of knowledge she had about her own people. She told me she was never exposed to those things.

Thas why I came to the conclusion I did. Like I said, my views are steadily changing. And, again, livinginthe south, until lately, the only races I mainly come into contact with are blacks and whites. Dont see many asians. But now a days you do.

I know many brothers (that only date white girls) that are just as clueless when it comes to things such as the topic of BHM or other things that affect us. They only date non-black girls and really don't have a thing to be with our neighborhood or communities either.

But at the same time, just because Leroy is comfortable bringing Becky to the local black restaurant or to the black club doesn't automatically make her an expert on black culture either.

In your first example, don't you think the sista would probably be the one to expose him more (ex. Understanding of black hair, take him to church with her, bring him around family, cooking , etc.)?

Ok, let me stop hijacking....

Mullaatogyrl...did you say Triple H? Go 'on girl.

[Alouette]

In any relationship (black or white) the woman is "usually" going to do what the man ddoes. SHe goes wher ethe man takes her and gets into whatever the man is into. So, in a White man, blck women relationship, I dont see him enhancing her African American culture. I dont see him taking her to the KIng Center or to see Black culture events. I could be wrong, but I am just aying what I see. [/B]

I know you said usually....I just wanted to share an exception. I met my white husband in a black church! He was the only white guy in the church (there was one other white lady). And he had a leadership position, too.

I figure when he married me he knew what he was getting into, so to speak. And he clearly has an appreciation for black culture, else he wouldn't have been attending the church he was going to, and he certainly wouldn't have married me!

And he's not one of these 'trying to be black' kind of white guys, either. He's from small town New England, where there are hardly any of 'us' there. I think he's a product of his environment, where his minister father truly taught him that all people are created equal and are to be respected and appreciated. And that's rare. He's comfortable enough with my blackness, he actually encourages me to cut off all my permed hair and start over with a natural! Why? Because "that's the way God made you and you are beautiful as you are," he said.

[mulattogyrl]

Originally posted by Honeykiss1974
Mullaatogyrl...did you say Triple H? Go 'on girl.

I surely did!

[teena]

Originally posted by Alouette

He's comfortable enough with my blackness, he actually encourages me to cut off all my permed hair and start over with a natural! Why? Because "that's the way God made you and you are beautiful as you are," he said.

That is awsome!!!!!!!!

[06pilot]

That is awesome Alouette. Like I always say, ther eis an exception to every rule. I wish we could all be as open minded as that.

[preciousjeni]

Originally posted by Alouette
I think he's a product of his environment, where his minister father truly taught him that all people are created equal and are to be respected and appreciated. And that's rare.

Wonderful! And, not so rare as people may think. Many people from ALL parts of the globe and ALL cultures feel this way, but too often they are ridiculed and disbelieved. If only we were less suspicious and tried to give people the benefit of the doubt.

I'm in a relationship with a black man and God. God was the divine matchmaker and we have nothing if not through him. We acknowledge the tension and history and I think that's extremely important. Never forget, but do forgive.

[jojapeach]

Originally posted by ms_gwyn
Brendan Fraser, #1 on my list....

*GASP!* How could I forget Brendan Fraser? I luv he... Julian McMahon is cute, and I love Benjamin Bratt, too.

Nicholas Cage is a true delight to the eyes...with his short hair. I've hated his long hair looks.

I've always had a thing for athletic/muscular Asian men ever since I saw then at UGA. *smh* (at the appeal)