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Originally posted by AMelie03
also...my friend really wants to be a dg (shes said she would only go dg) because i am one and she wants to become my 'sister'. even though i find this flattering i also think this might hurt her. how can i convince her that just because dg is great for me it might not be good for her. every time i urge her to go in with an open mind and open heart she says "what do you now want me in your sorority?" and gets definssive. any advice?
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Just continually impress upon her that just because you are in DG and like your chapter, you might not have made the same choice at Tech...therefore, she shouldn't assume it's where she wants to go either. You don't like all the same clothes, foods and music, why should you like the same sorority?
Impress upon her that if she says like "I want to join because my friend is a DG at so and so school" during rush, it will probably turn the sisters against her. People want to be liked for themselves, not for their associations. That goes for sororities too.
If she keeps getting defensive and upset when you are only having her best interests at heart, I'd ask her if she has anything else on her mind...it sounds like she's got some issues.
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