Pursuing PNMs in rush

[aephi alum]

Originally posted by kddani
If a PNM wants to post her story, that's fine.

If the GCers could learn how to handle themselves in a more "controlled" manner, for lack of better word, then we wouldn't have this kind of problem.

Why punish the masses for the overbearingness of a few?

Agreed! I don't think we should do away with rush threads or with lists (like breathesgelatin's) that just recap things the PNMs have already shared. But I feel that we GC'ers cheering from the sidelines need to exercise some discretion. Let each PNM tell her story, or not, in as much or as little detail as she chooses. As I said before, the rush threads are really for them.

GPhiBLtColonel - what rush addicts' thread would that be???

[GPhiBLtColonel]

AEPhi alum -- you know I am just pokin' fun at that wacky rush addicts thread -- y'all know which one I am talking about!

Now here is something this big old cranky broad wants to get
off her chest: we are all concerned about some GCer's being overbearing, overzealous, overboard, overanything, on PNM rush threads, etc -- but am I the only one who feels bummed about the Who's Rushing This Fall thread short list of the GLO's that have NOT yet gotten a PNM this fall? As the list dwindles down, I feel like everyone who reads it is thinking -- HEY LOOK AT WHO STILL DOESN'T HAVE A NEW MEMBER ON GC YET THIS FALL!!! MAN, WHAT IS WRONG WITH THEM???? It's almost (ALMOST!) enough to make me jump right smack dab in the middle of some poor PNMs thread and post: "Puhleez oh Puhleez little PNM - you simply MUST go Gamma Phi Beta!!!!!! Don't do anything to the thread though Breathesgelatin: I am just being overzealous in my feeble attempt at humor.....although I really do feel bad that no pnm has pledged Gamma Phi Beta yet... snif snif

[daoine]

Originally posted by GPhiBLtColonel
but am I the only one who feels bummed about the Who's Rushing This Fall thread short list of the GLO's that have NOT yet gotten a PNM this fall?

I think, though, that every single NPC organization has been represented in a rush thread. Not quite as cool as getting one new member for each org, but it's a pretty good start!

[33girl]

Originally posted by GPhiBLtColonel
am I the only one who feels bummed about the Who's Rushing This Fall thread short list of the GLO's that have NOT yet gotten a PNM this fall?

Yes.

I don't care if every single PNM on GC pledges the same sorority as long as it is the right group for them.

[SmartBlondeGPhB]

Originally posted by 33girl
Yes.

I don't care if every single PNM on GC pledges the same sorority as long as it is the right group for them.

Very well said and I agree completely.

Who cares if not every GLO is represented...........

I know that our chapters have done very well in recruitment. It just means that they don't know a thing about Greek Chat.

[kddani]

Originally posted by GPhiBLtColonel
but am I the only one who feels bummed about the Who's Rushing This Fall thread short list of the GLO's that have NOT yet gotten a PNM this fall? As the list dwindles down, I feel like everyone who reads it is thinking -- HEY LOOK AT WHO STILL DOESN'T HAVE A NEW MEMBER ON GC YET THIS FALL!!! MAN, WHAT IS WRONG WITH THEM????

I think most of us know better. or at least should. It's not a contest

It's almost (ALMOST!) enough to make me jump right smack dab in the middle of some poor PNMs thread and post: "Puhleez oh Puhleez little PNM - you simply MUST go Gamma Phi Beta!!!!!!

Stuff like that is sorta part of the problem. That just ain't right

[Kristin AGD]

Originally posted by GPhiBLtColonel
It's almost (ALMOST!) enough to make me jump right smack dab in the middle of some poor PNMs thread and post: "Puhleez oh Puhleez little PNM - you simply MUST go Gamma Phi Beta!!!!!!

Originally posted by kddani
Stuff like that is sorta part of the problem. That just ain't right

True, but it sure is funny . I understand wishing a PNM would go XYZ (I am right there with ya ) . But I think we all know the chapters are cutting the PNMs just as often as the PNMs are dropping chapters.

Would love to have a new AGD GC'er. But I am even happier that so many girls are finding groups they want to call home!!

[aephi alum]

Originally posted by GPhiBLtColonel
-- but am I the only one who feels bummed about the Who's Rushing This Fall thread short list of the GLO's that have NOT yet gotten a PNM this fall? As the list dwindles down, I feel like everyone who reads it is thinking -- HEY LOOK AT WHO STILL DOESN'T HAVE A NEW MEMBER ON GC YET THIS FALL!!! MAN, WHAT IS WRONG WITH THEM????

Did I miss something?

I, too, am a little bummed that there are no new AEPhis... but the important thing is that each PNM either finds the sorority that's right for her, or if she drops out / is dropped from recruitment, that she plows forward and considers her other options (COB, colonization, forming a local, AI, joining other orgs, etc).

[MTSUGURL]

WOW. I loved GC's support during rush, and still love the support I've gotten since going Phi Chi. I loved getting pm's or posts saying "I'd love to see you join XYZ" "I'd love for you to be my sister" etc because it made me feel good. Yes, I knew that this didn't guarantee me a bid and I NEVER felt stalked when I got pms, emails, even a phone call from a Gcer wanting to know how things went. I didn't have friends here that wanted to hear about it (my friends and family are antiGreek) so I was THRILLED to have people to talk to about it. I know you gals have lives and aren't sitting in front of a computer ready to end your life if I don't get a bid, and I know you aren't going to jump off a cliff if I never came back to post whether I got a bid or not, even if you post "any updates?" "where are you?" etc. If any PNM's feel like they're being stalked by GCers, I'm genuinely sorry. I won't ask for updates anymore, but I will wish you luck, enjoy your thread, and pray you end up happy!

Originally posted by GPhiBLtColonel
Now here is something this big old cranky broad wants to get
off her chest: we are all concerned about some GCer's being overbearing, overzealous, overboard, overanything, on PNM rush threads, etc -- but am I the only one who feels bummed about the Who's Rushing This Fall thread short list of the GLO's that have NOT yet gotten a PNM this fall? As the list dwindles down, I feel like everyone who reads it is thinking -- HEY LOOK AT WHO STILL DOESN'T HAVE A NEW MEMBER ON GC YET THIS FALL!!! MAN, WHAT IS WRONG WITH THEM????

To echo what kddani said, it's not a freaking contest. Sure, I woulda loved for a GC PNM to go AGD, but I read about the great numbers our AGD chapters are posting everywhere else. And though I get just a teensy bit disappointed when read about a GC PNM getting dropped by/cutting AGD, I know that the new sisters I'm getting at other chapters are worth more to me than one GC PNM. Sorry, but that's just how I feel.

Finally, I think it's awesome how most of our GC PNMs have found their home. Still, DZ, DG, ADPi, KD, Sig Kaps (and the other NPCs represented by a GC PNM) are no better than AGD just because they extended a bid to one of our PNMs.

I really don't see how one could be really bothered by it.

[GPhiBLtColonel]

Hey y'all -- can you please cease and desist with your posts that seem to assume I am some sort of an idiot. I know rush is not a friggin contest, for pete's sake -- it was a tongue-in-cheek post about one possible little reason that some GCer's may get too involved / interested in a PNM's rush....it obviously went over like a lead balloon. Geesh!

Since we all know we GCer's just want PNMs to find their 'homes' regardless of what GLO it is -- I am still left wondering what's the point of a list of GLOs who still have not gotten a GC new member yet this fall is............I don't get it. What am I as a GC member supposed to think or do about that info? Why do I need to know that? What might a newbie PNM who checks that list out think? Will she think negative or positive thoughts about the GLOs listed?

If we are all concerned about being overzealous or overbearing with our posts in a PNM's rush thread and the impact it could have on the PNM, then how about we extend that same level of concern to the potential impact some of our posts in other threads might have on PNMs perusing GC.

[MTSUGURL]

I think it's cool to have a list of the ones that have NMs and those that don't just because I like to see a complete filled list at the end. That and I tend to root for the ones that don't have one yet... I love seeing my letters on that list! Breathesgelatin, You rock girl!

[adpiucf]

I say this with love--- Breathe, everyone, please. Again, much love to all my Greek sisters!

[AXO Alum]

In my never humble opinion, I can say that I think there is a SERIOUS problem when some people are going out and playing detective -- for people to go looking up and posting where people are enrolled at school, and then to get schedules, release lists, etc. is going W-A-Y overboard....if this statement offends you, then YEAH, you probably ARE the one we are talking about!

I know that when I saw pictures of a friend posted on here without her permission, it really made me mad. I would never have looked up someone's pic and posted it -- there are some sickos out there, and sometimes they decide to leave the looney bin and come here to play! We don't need this kind of weirdo stuff going on to give people the creeps!

[absolutuscchick]

Originally posted by MTSUGURL
WOW. I loved GC's support during rush, and still love the support I've gotten since going Phi Chi. I loved getting pm's or posts saying "I'd love to see you join XYZ" "I'd love for you to be my sister" etc because it made me feel good. Yes, I knew that this didn't guarantee me a bid and I NEVER felt stalked when I got pms, emails, even a phone call from a Gcer wanting to know how things went. I didn't have friends here that wanted to hear about it (my friends and family are antiGreek) so I was THRILLED to have people to talk to about it. I know you gals have lives and aren't sitting in front of a computer ready to end your life if I don't get a bid, and I know you aren't going to jump off a cliff if I never came back to post whether I got a bid or not, even if you post "any updates?" "where are you?" etc. If any PNM's feel like they're being stalked by GCers, I'm genuinely sorry. I won't ask for updates anymore, but I will wish you luck, enjoy your thread, and pray you end up happy!

I agree with you, I love the support!