Cosmo Girl Article - Page 3

Lady Pi Phi · #31 08-15-2003, 05:27 PM

While I hate these crappy magazines...I couldn't resist. I wanted to read the article so I sucked up my pride and bought the magazine.

I thought the article was stupid.

The girl gets called to standards board for performing oral sex in a bar bathroom. Alright, I can appreciate the difficulties of standards board, I was a member of my chapters. It's not an easy job, and I do think this is an offense that can have some brought to standards board. It is behaviour unbecoming a lady. However, this girl claims that she was foreced into performing oral sex after a guy followed her into the bathroom.
Why didn't she scream, call for help? Get a bouncer, was she alone in the bathroom?? I highly doubt that there were no other girls walking in an out of there. If she was forced. why didn't she get a bouncer afterwards? Why didn't she go to the police. She claims she wasn't drunk so I am assuming that she had her full faculties.

Secondly, she wakes up half naked in a guys apartment and she doesn't think to tell anyone what happened. A friend, one of her sisters, a doctor, the police.

I don't know what really happened, but it seems to me this girl lacks some serious self-respect and judgment.

Tom Earp · #32 08-15-2003, 05:51 PM

Damn, got to get this magazine!

It sounds tot-asslly BS!

God Snoop Dawg on the case!

Wyman · #33 08-18-2003, 09:24 PM

I am baffled! The title of the article is "One Night of Partying Ruined My Reputation." Well, that is BS! Her reputation was ruined when she admitted to having oral sex in the bar restroom. It wasn't just 'one night or partying'. The girl had an image problem. I admire the ladies of Tri Delta for giving her a chance after her first episode and then asking her to resign after the second incident. She was not representing their sorority well. Another mind boggling characteristic of CosmoGirl's onesided approach to making the Greek System look bad is the fact that she did not go to the emergency room after she 'woke up' and thought herself to have been 'raped' and/or 'drugged'. Any girl in her right mind would have done that first and foremost. It is just way too blatently obvious that she used the terms 'drugged' and 'raped' to save face and her reputation. Trashing the sorority and the boy's fraternity is a low blow. There are better ways to go about getting help, something she is definately in need of.

sugar and spice · #34 08-19-2003, 02:55 PM

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Originally posted by Wyman
approach to making the Greek System look bad is the fact that she did not go to the emergency room after she 'woke up' and thought herself to have been 'raped' and/or 'drugged'. Any girl in her right mind would have done that first and foremost. It is just way too blatently obvious that she used the terms 'drugged' and 'raped' to save face and her reputation.

As a Tri Delt I'm obviously not thrilled with the article or the way my sorority is treated in it, but as a woman who has had multiple friends deal with rape or sexual assault, I can tell you that many, many women who are raped or think they MIGHT have been raped would be hesitant to go to the emergency room.

I agree with y'all that there was no reason for the sorority name to be in this article, but I think that condemning her for lying about the fact that she might have been raped when we know almost none of the facts of the situation is the wrong thing to do.

Munchkin03 · #35 08-19-2003, 03:11 PM

I read it in line at the grocery store a few days ago. I also believe that the fact that she was in a sorority AT ALL had nothing at all to do with what happened to her. It was a pretty terribly written article.

FYI, Wyman, authorities estimate that the majority of rape victims never go to the doctor or police afterwards.

Lady Pi Phi · #36 08-19-2003, 07:33 PM

I agree, Tri Delta had nothing to do with the article. It was just another way to bash greeks.

I do have serious questions about her judgment though. Not about her waking up half naked in some guys bed...because I can't say for sure what happened. I wasn't there. For all we know she was drugged and raped...and Munchkin03 is right, there are many women who don't see a doctor or go to the police after a rape. They feel ashamed, they feel that no one will believe them or they feel that it was their fault. There are many reason why women don't seek the help they need.

But as for this girl in the article, I have a problem with her bathroom oral sex story. She says she was forced, but no where in the article (and I am assuming that she is telling her story to the writer) does she say that she feared for her life, or that this guy had a weapon, or he threatened to ruin her life by telling people, or something like that. She admits that she was sober. So, for me it raises some serious questions about her judgement or the lack of it.

ETA: Although, who really knows, it seems that this was a very onesided article, and didn't provide any postive aspects on this girls life at college.