I went to pref parties at Phi Mu and KD and ended up suiciding Phi Mu. It is so true when PNMs are told on GC to look around the room during pref to see who their pledge sisters could be...but you also need to see who your role models/ big sister could be.
The KDs were very nice to me, but I could not see myself being close to the majority of the women in the chapter.
Since I am still involved with Phi Mu many years later, looks like I made the right choice!!!!