To name or not to name that is the question! - Page 3

aephi alum · #31 07-24-2003, 01:22 PM

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Originally posted by FuzzieAlum
Unless, of course, you're rushing somewhere with four chapters, in which case I insist you use the Hogswarts' houses!

Who gets to be Slytherin?

justamom · #32 07-24-2003, 01:36 PM

I just hope all the PNMs stay with us!!! I HATE it when one disappears and never visits again. The thing that solves all the problems is when the familiar threads pop up-
WHAT DID YOU LIKE ABOUT RUSH or WHAT DIDN'T YOU LIKE...
We get the funny stories after it's all over...when it's safe to be more honest and open.

I honestly think this world is too small and with friends and cousins spread out at different universities, it's not hard to realize NO college rush is really "safe" as far as "inquiring minds"
wanting to know. I really don't see anything wrong with posting the story AFTER it's over. If someone has a question, they can always ask without tipping their hand.
It IS their decision, but I like the use of ANYthing other than numbers because it's easier to follow.

#33 07-24-2003, 02:03 PM

I could seriously go either way, because I see the fun and harm in both. While it is more mysterious to say ABC, the cookies etc, to a point someone may be able to figure out what house that is after the first day too. Especially if you know what school that person is going through recruitment at. For example, if a PNM said, "The Oreos did a really cute skit. The girls wore these black dress and the theme was something like this..." (We know this happens in rush threads), plus the PNM listed where they went to school at in the beginning of the thread or in other post. It's not to hard to guess the house, if you go to that school or know someone at it.
I guess the main thing is this....

PMN can decide whether they want to use actual names or not. So whether an actual name is used or not...
PMN's.... Take caution with what you are writing
Actives/Alums.... Take caution in what you are reading

PMN's you never know who is reading what you wrote, and then may act childishly, immature, obsessively about it. Actives/Alums shouldn't throw a hissy if a PNM may say something about a chapter that may not be nice. It;s their opinion, just as it was your's when you went through. Furthermore, if its your org and they like it at start, dont get too happy because opinions can sway quickly

KappaKittyCat · #34 07-24-2003, 02:09 PM

Of course the PNMs can and should do what they want, but that's always my preference. Sugar and Spice, I actually think that threads with numbers are more exciting-- I love the suspense that comes towards the end and the final revealing.

But these are for the PNMs, and they should do what makes them comfortable.

MTSUGURL · #35 07-24-2003, 02:10 PM

I plan on posting my reactions as I go through rush, and I will be definitely not be naming names. I may for Philanthropy night, so I can actually let you wonderful people know what each chapter did, but I probably won't post my reactions for that round. I know there are women from my campus on GC, and the last thing I want to do is cause hurt feelings, cause myself to get cut, etc.

amandamarie · #36 07-24-2003, 05:27 PM

I thought I would pipe in my $.02 since I'm a PNM who plans on religiously posting during my rush. I'm planning on using group 1, 2, etc when I'm talking about the different parties (thought the Hogwarts houses aren't a bad idea). However, when I say who I'm going back to, I will put real names. I think that way it creates some sort of anonymity, but still gives enough info so you guys are all clued in. I really am thinking abouth the hogwarts houses, though I'd be afraid to name someone Slytherin :-p There's four chapters here, so I may go with that!

MTSUGURL · #37 07-24-2003, 07:54 PM

Things would be much easier if we could just get hold of a Sorting Hat...

Aphigal · #38 07-24-2003, 08:03 PM

I love knowing names! Even if its not till after then that would be great too! Good or bad I am never unahppy to read what someone honestly thought of Alpha Phi! Not every chapter of Alpha Phi will fit every pnm's style and vice versa. I can respect that and hope pnm's can too!

adpiucf · #39 07-24-2003, 08:32 PM

I think it is better for the sorority names to be anonymous. The PNM feels less pressure and no one feels offended that you didn't like their house. I love ADPi, and I know I would feel sad if someone outright hated the chapter at their school when they were going through. I might even feel a little awkward about posting to that person after they became a sorority sister, just b/c of what they said about my sorority. Make sense?

To make it fun, I would like to propose this to our Rush Moderator:
Let's have a role call of all PNM's. They can all pick a theme for themselves (candy, colors, flowers, etc.) And then, they can personally assign each house something to do with their theme-- ie: if they are Candy, there is the Mallomar House, Hershey House, Sweettarts House, etc....

sueali · #40 07-24-2003, 08:33 PM

I think Slytherin may be appropriate for Sigma Kappa since the snake unofficially is one of our symbols.

GMUBunny · #41 07-24-2003, 09:13 PM

I say let them choose what they want to do. If someone says something bad about a ZTA chapter for example, that's their perogative (sp?). I know that on another campus I might have hated ZTA, so I don't expect every girl to love the chapter on their campus. I don't take it personally... just my $.02

amandamarie · #42 07-24-2003, 09:59 PM

SK would be cool for Slytherin, but there's not one on my campus :-( I'm not opposed to each PNM having their own theme to draw from. I could do luxury cars :-p Lexus house...Mercedes house...etc

Glitter650 · #43 07-24-2003, 10:12 PM

I vote for names...

This is because even using numbers or ABCs it's not usually hard to figure out which group a PNM is talking about... only one house probably did the grease skit or wore these really cool shirts with khaki pants... or had the really cool star decorations or whatever. The women from that university are going to know which group is which... and sometimes even people from the same GLO across the country could tell.. I remember last year a PNM said explained in something about our pref and I KNOW that "ABC" was Phi Sigma Sigma... so unless they're going to eliminate ALL details that could possibly identify one groups party.. clothes, themes, decor, where the party was held, then let's get make it more understandable and stop with the alphabet soup

I think most PNMs that have already found GC are savy enough not to say anything so derogatory that it would prevent her from getting a bid from a house she truly wanted...
truly it is up to the woman telling us her story... but if I were to be giving them advice I would say go ahead and use names because I don't think it would hurt you.

GtownGirl98 · #44 07-24-2003, 11:17 PM

I have loved reading all of these and I love the ideas that everyone has had... THE REASON that this thread was started was because I was so confused and tired of reading a PNM's RUSH thread and this same discussion was going on in the middle of it. So no this isn't a big deal in the big picture of things but it was turning into one.

I personally am all for the PNM's freedom of choice.... I just think that we need to let the topic remain here and not on the PNM's Rush thread.

"I don't understand why this is an issue anyways? I thought the person who created this thread was a mod for some reason, which is why I asked about the ban thing. Hahaha"

"Basically what it comes down to is this:

- rush stories with names are more fun for the readers
- rush stories with numbers are safer for the PNMs (less chance of them getting cut for something they say on GC) and don't hurt anybody's feelings"

S&S is right, this is the true jist of this question/issue.

So I think we have all come to the same conclusion, PNMs do as you wish, as a Greek I ask that you all just help us out. If you name names then please be positive and smart about what you post. IF you don't name names then be creative and pick a theme, as some have pointed out be consitent with your names and let us know what groups are located on your campus on the very first page of your thread, along with letting us know which ones you are returning to (not the ones your not going to, if we really want to know then let us do the work).

The truly main thing is that you enjoy your experience and let us act as a place for you to share your excitment.

Thanks everyone for participating....Greek love and Hopefully blessings for the PNMs!

GeekyPenguin · #45 07-25-2003, 12:16 AM

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Originally posted by amandamarie
I thought I would pipe in my $.02 since I'm a PNM who plans on religiously posting during my rush. I'm planning on using group 1, 2, etc when I'm talking about the different parties (thought the Hogwarts houses aren't a bad idea). However, when I say who I'm going back to, I will put real names. I think that way it creates some sort of anonymity, but still gives enough info so you guys are all clued in. I really am thinking abouth the hogwarts houses, though I'd be afraid to name someone Slytherin :-p There's four chapters here, so I may go with that!

This is my favorite approach - at least we know if you are going back to the house we're rooting for, and you can still be anonymous enough that no "incidents" will occur.