Pre Mid Life Crisis?

[valkyrie]

Originally posted by shultzz
Do any of the divorced women of GC live in a house with 40 cats?

Shultzz, you rock my world. I have 8 cats right now -- but in my defense, 4 of them are newborns who be finding new homes when they're old enough, and my boyfriend lives here too.

[justamom]

shultzz-get over to the good, bad and ugly thread! We were just TALKING about needing someone like you!

[deltaphi94]

I only have one cat. I've also remarried and gained 2 dogs blending the family.

[carnation]

Originally posted by Munchkin03




Ack, I can only begin to imagine the insane stress that something like that can cause. I can imagine that it could drive someone into something like an early midlife crisis--if he was the family's sole provider, having three tiny mouths to feed (all under three!) was certainly overwhelming. I mean, one of my grandmothers had 13 kids, and at no time did she have three toddlers or babies running around at the same time. That could put insane stress on the strongest of marriages. Think about it--three years ago, it was just them. They could essentially do anything they wanted, whenever. In a relatively short amount of time, their lives and economic situation changed drastically. Now, they won't have the old freedom for at least 18 years--if at all. Just thinking about that scares me!

Hahahahaa! Been there! In 1984, we had a 2-year-old and the infamous twins (followed by babies in 1986, 1987, and 1988 and luckily the rest didn't come for almost 3 more years). I don't remember 1984.

You have to cling together in times like this and remember that there is light at the end of the tunnel. Now we didn't have any marital problems but I can see how a troubled marriage might crack from the stress of 3 babies under 3.

[Sverige]

Originally posted by Kristin AGD
I apologize if this is way long. But do guys go through some kind of crisis in their mid to late 30’s?

A close friend of mine has twin girls; she just has a new baby last week. So she now has three kids under three! Here husband went to work on Monday and didn’t come home. She tracked him down to his mothers, and he stated he has not been happy for a while and does not want to be married anymore. Ugh! They are both in their mid thirties.

Two years ago a friend of mine who was in her thirties had the same thing happen to her. Luckily there were no kids involved in this case. (She has since re-married to her soul mate, so this one had a good ending).

Both of these couples were really successful. Good jobs. Nice brand new homes. The men were helpful, nice, supposedly one of the good guys. Yet the men decided they “just didn’t want to be married anymore”. Is this a trend? Do men, or maybe it is just married men, hit 35 and wonder why they aren’t single?

OK, I'm going to explain something to you. Guys that go through this stage in their mid to late 30's, it's not a mid life crisis. See, they are going through the things that some of us went through in college. Some guys are dorks in primary and secondary education, that is high school and college for those across the ocean, but while in college or else right after they end up meeeting someone who they like and get married to. However, they havent been through all the stuff that other guys have. These guys usually look like the "good guy" that got away. While being married they usually find out all the stuff the some of us find out while being in relationships that lasted for a number of years in our younger days, kinda like being married to a girl. After a number of years, a shit load of knowledge of women later and a few kids, they wake up and realize what they've missed out on earlier in life and thus decide not to waste any more time before they get too old. So, what happens? They get a divorce and decide they aren't happy with the whole family thing. This inturn sparks just another downfall for these types of men. They already have kids, been divorced and are starting to resemble guys they knew back in college. This works to their disadvantage only because sooner or later they'll finally catch up with the rest of us guys and want to get married again. By this time they usually shack up with another woman whose got kids and between the two of them, things usually get pretty damn hectic later down the road. Usually those types of men end up being married 2 or 3 times before their drama filled lives come to a halt.

I don't understand why some people can't figure it all out.

On the other hand all the guy that girls think were players in college and those who were bad news then, they're the ones who usually end up getting married when they're in their late 20's and early 30's. They're also the ones who usually end up being the better husbands because they've already got all the craziness out of their system. We've already had the orgies, the crazy parties and fullfilled most of our fantasies with females. We've already learned most of what is to learn about women by that stage of our life. By the time we're ready to start a family we've already sowed our wild oats and got all the partying out of our systems. It's not hard to understand. In the words of sigEp_stud, there's not a lot of "studs" in this world. That would explain why few marriages last, not many guys are "studs" and fall into the category of men who later make good husbands who stick around.