Just because your mom thinks you're cute... - Page 3

AXOLiz · #31 10-11-2002, 01:32 PM

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Originally posted by FuzzieAlum

Well, Liz, my friend seems to have a thing for AXOs, so I could hook you up with him ... heheh.

HAHA. I'm going to Chicago this weekend. If I still have no luck, I might just take you up on that offer.

Wait....is this one of your cool guy friends or the Star Trek Barbie guy? Because I prefer Star Wars and therefore we could never be.

sororitygirl2 · #32 10-11-2002, 01:34 PM

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Originally posted by lovelyivy84:
OK I think I know what you mean now, kinda like a taint on guys I guess.

How can a FUPA be like a taint?! A FUPA is on the front, a taint is non-visible, non-fatty and on the back side!

valkyrie · #33 10-11-2002, 01:58 PM

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Originally posted by AXOLiz
Granted there's some leeway, but for the most part, you'll rarely see someone who's super-hot with someone who not only hit every branch on the ugly tree on the way down but bounced around through the ugly forest for a while too.

CTFU!!!! OMG, that is the funniest thing I've heard all day!!!

I have to say that I'm very, very picky about looks. I really can't be with a guy if I don't think he's totally hot. That said, I have sort of a quirky taste, and I don't go for guys who are stereotypically hot, if that makes sense. But I have to think that he is DA BOMB, or I just can't do it. I also care more about the face than the body, although the body can't be gross. The face is more important to me because that's really what you're looking at all the time, unless you're a couple weirdos sitting around jiggling each other's FUPAs. Eeesh.

I also have to think he's damn cool, too -- it's not only about looks, but he has to have the whole package. Ha, I said *package*.

KSig RC · #34 10-11-2002, 02:45 PM

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Originally posted by lovelyivy84

The area that is generall known as the venus mound- the top of the labis up the happy trail.

I just KNEW it wasn't the lower abs though.

And this is my LAST post on the subject.

BINGO.

PS - whoever asked how it gets that way, I have no clue - I think that little mystery is best unsolved though.

AXOLiz · #35 10-11-2002, 03:09 PM

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Originally posted by valkyrie
I have to say that I'm very, very picky about looks. I really can't be with a guy if I don't think he's totally hot. That said, I have sort of a quirky taste, and I don't go for guys who are stereotypically hot, if that makes sense.

That makes total sense to me. Everyone has their own version of what they think is "hot." Sometimes that only falls in line with the widely accepted hotness, sometimes it doesn't. All the guys I go for usually have a similar look and personality. There's some I'm flat-out attracted to that ARE stereotypically hot, but those aren't the ones I go for although I probably wouldn't turn them down if they showed up at my door (to take me out somewhere because I still live at home and chillin' with my parents isn't what I had in mind).

I'm attracted to many guys who aren't hot by society's standards, but I think they're great because of the whole package, like you said. I'm all about the package. heehee

My brain's fried from work, if you can't tell. The only thing keeping me together is being able to check this thread every 30 minutes or so. We have this huge project that needs to get out the door and I've been pulling 16 hour days.

sigmagrrl · #36 10-11-2002, 04:00 PM

Women,

There is a website that I go to when I need to understand the male beasties. It's askmen.com. It's good because you see how men "think", but it's bad because it's also telling men how to think and fulfilling the stereotypes and perpetuating the behavior we are SO frustrated with....

Here are two articles I want to show you. The title of the first one is Could George Costanza Succeed With Women? It's about why what's on the inside (of a MAN) is what truly matters:

http://www.askmen.com/dating/doclove...ip_expert.html

BUT THEN, not only two links away on the SAME DAMN PAGE is an article that assures you that, once you learn what makes a gorgeous woman tick, "you'll always have a trophy by your side"!! WTF!!!!!!!!!

http://www.askmen.com/dating/doclove...ip_expert.html

THIS IS WHAT DRIVES US CRAZY!!!!!!!!!!!!!! MOTHER FUKKER, I cannot take the message that men can look like total crap, but women have to be beautiful! IT'S ENOUGH TO DRIVE US TO DANGEROUS BEHAVIORS! OH WAIT, IT ALREADY DOES!!!!!!!!!

I know that a few posts ago, I sounded more calm, but I hate HATE conflicting arguements like the one I posted above!

sigmagrrl · #37 10-11-2002, 04:14 PM

SURE, "looks", in a very scientific sense, matter. And I mean, scientifically. We are wired, by nature, to accept certain things. It's been proven that symmetrical are more pleasing, thus more in demand, than asymmetrical faces. Men are wired to look for a healthy waist to hip ratio. Women are wired to look for healthy hair and skin, for this lets our "bodies" know who will be best to "perpetuate the species".

Also, women think differently than men. We cannot punish men for being left brain thinkers (more facts and figures based) as opposed to us being right brained (more lingual, emotional, and thought based). BUT, what I actually hate more is the rampant shallowness that is permeating our society.

I am going to take a moment and self-boast: I think I am very intelligent, damn funny, cute, kind, passionate, and an overall well rounded woman. BUT, because I weighed almost 500 lbs, no man would get passed that. Honestly, I can't blame them....totally. No one is cookie cutter, no one looks the same. But, for goodness sake's, you don't have to be attracted to someone to be a friend.

There in lies my gripe. This is not everyone's issue, but I find that the more looks obsessed you are, the more likely you are to filter friends via the same criteria you filter lovers. That's a problem that I want to devote my life to resolving!

AXOLiz · #38 10-11-2002, 04:17 PM

Guys are supposed to practice their skills on the more unattractive women solely because it'll give them the confidence to get the 10?

JESUS CHRIST, THAT IS THE BIGGEST LOAD OF CRAP I HAVE EVER HEARD IN MY LIFE!!!

I'm sorry, but confidence isn't going to get you the 10. Confidence and a nice financial portfolio maybe, but not confidence alone. And using people to build confidence? That's awful, and very middle school-ish.

The secret they don't tell the guys is that once you bust in on that 10, IF you do, you're not going to be Mr. Right. You're Mr. Right Now, or Mr. As Long As You Have Cash. Seems like most guys who'd like to think they're big players end up getting played in the end, so that makes me feel a little better.

Guys are ridiculous sometimes.

FuzzieAlum · #39 10-11-2002, 05:21 PM

If someone sees me and Mr. FuzzieAlum (not that he exists) out in public, and they don't know either of us, they can't judge how smart, funny or kind-hearted he is. All they know is his looks. A good-looking guy will increase my cache. Your girlfriend might be a psychohosebeast, but other men will be looking at you with envy.

I think most of us aim too high or settle too low when looking for dates. Eventually you find someone at your level, and then you're happy. They may not be at your level in all areas, but you average out the same. I know a few guys who aim ridiculously low - although admittedly not as many as those who aim too high. And they all wonder why their relationships never last.

But since I'm holding out for George Clooney, who am I to talk?

P.S. Liz, yeah, sorry, he does have the Barbies. But he's not really a Trekkie, I promise. I'm assuming it wouldn't bother you at all that his voice sounds JUST like Butt-head's?

justamom · #40 10-12-2002, 07:08 AM

It's interesting to hear people say he or she is "out of my league".
I never let that enter my thinking, I know what you mean though and wonder if we don't adjust our taste to what subconsciously we "expect". The funny thing is how my taste has changed over the years, and I'm not talking about anything age related as I am not dead, I have eyes, and I can appreciate physical beauty in a male or female.

When I see a young man I always wonder if my daughter would think he was attractive because our tastes are very similar-with a few exceptions. Yet turn the clock back and chances are I NEVER would have found the same guy as attractive then as I do now. So is it a matter of repeated exposure to an overall image? If TV, movies, MTV bombards us with a "look", do we eventually buy into it?

When I watch VH1, I look at some of the entertainers that were considered "hot" yet I never saw the attraction. Now, I can look at them and say, "Boy, she was beautiful" or "Damn, he was cute!" Maybe being my "age" and looking at a man (my Hubby) HIS age for the past 30 years makes EVERYBODY attractive!

sigmagrrl · #41 10-12-2002, 08:00 AM

Tastes do indeed change.

I used to find pale faced,long haired, grunge rockers types hot (Think Eddie Vedder). Now I find I like men with short, black hair, nicely scultped, who dress nicely.
I love intellectual types. You usually get a second glance from me if you have a bit of a belly, wear glasses, and have a gorgeous, shy smile and nice, warm eyes.
It's all about a feeling of sensitivity for me, I don't like arrogance or someone who can't offer affection, sweet kisses, and a warm, conforting hug! So, as you can see, we all change!!!!!!

justamom · #42 10-12-2002, 08:17 AM

I used to find pale faced,long haired, grunge rockers types hot LOL! Me too, to a degree!

For me it was a flannel shirt, jeans, long hair and blue eyes...

BIG SIGH-I just described my Hubby the first moment I saw him.

James · #43 01-08-2005, 02:01 PM

Well. I think the article means that guys are supposed to practice their techniques on women that aren't intimidating them. Meaning women they are not feeling a strong obvious attraction for.

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Originally posted by AXOLiz
Guys are supposed to practice their skills on the more unattractive women solely because it'll give them the confidence to get the 10?

JESUS CHRIST, THAT IS THE BIGGEST LOAD OF CRAP I HAVE EVER HEARD IN MY LIFE!!!

I'm sorry, but confidence isn't going to get you the 10. Confidence and a nice financial portfolio maybe, but not confidence alone. And using people to build confidence? That's awful, and very middle school-ish.

The secret they don't tell the guys is that once you bust in on that 10, IF you do, you're not going to be Mr. Right. You're Mr. Right Now, or Mr. As Long As You Have Cash. Seems like most guys who'd like to think they're big players end up getting played in the end, so that makes me feel a little better.

Guys are ridiculous sometimes.

CutiePie2000 · #44 01-08-2005, 08:41 PM

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Originally posted by FuzzieAlum
Of course half our friends are convinced he's secretly gay ... his apartment is coordinated, he owns Star Trek Barbie & Ken, and he loves to shop ... so maybe that's what's scaring the chicks off!

After reading this, I'm trying to understand where is the SECRET part? LOL