MelissaS's rush at URI - Page 3

mmcat · #1 09-20-2002, 10:40 PM

you are terrific...
you bring a ton to the table....
don't let the computer bs and table talk and tent talk (as the south calls it) bring you down.
you ready to go...this is what you want....go for it.
lol

AOIIalum · #2 09-20-2002, 10:45 PM

Melissa, please don't let anyone else stop you from what you want to do! It's not at all funny for you to want to be in a sorority. IMHO, it's darned rude of your roomie for not closing her IM program before leaving

! As for the teammate already in a sorority, well, she certainly didn't show much respect to you or her own sorority with such a comment

.

There are a lot of sororities at URI to choose from. So what if you didn't get in via COB before? It happens. Sometimes in COB there's only a few spaces and a lot of girls, or whatever. But, formal recruitment works differently. At many schools, and hopefully this is true for URI, quota is set so that there is a space for every PNM somewhere. It may not be your first choice, and sometimes may not even be your second, but there's a space for every PNM somewhere. Just because you didn't get a bid in COB does not mean you won't get one in formal.

We're here for you. We may not know you, and we can't make promises that you will get a bid. However--we can listen, give advice based on our knowledge and experiences, encourage you and cheer you on. Your postings have shown a young woman who knew what she wanted to do and had done all she could to ensure her success. Don't let anyone stop you from your dreams. Anyone who would try to do such a thing truly isn't worth your time and effort.

Hugs,
Christin

AXO_MOM_3 · #3 09-20-2002, 11:38 PM

Well said, AOPi alum! We had SEVERAL girls come through this year for the second year in a row, and all of them found a home. I think it takes great character to go through recruitment twice, and many people respect that in a girl! It shows that it is something that you really want to do, and I know many chapters would love to have a girl with that kind of dedication to greek life! I hope you will still give recruitment a chance!

Peaches-n-Cream · #4 09-21-2002, 12:07 AM

These two girls (and I use the word girls because they aren't behaving like women) are just being bratty. Ignore what you read. I know people who have gone through rush a couple of times before they found the right fit. The mutual selection process can be brutal. Go into rush with a positive, confident attitude and an open mind. Don't allow these girls to affect the course of your life. I wish you a positive, enjoyable rush experience.

ZTAMich · #5 09-21-2002, 01:08 AM

I went through formal my freshmen year and was cut before Pref. I went through COB the next fall and wasn't given a bid after the first party. It took a lot of guts but I was told they just wanted to meet me again so I went to their second party. The sister who came and delivered my bid became my Big and I have gained so much from the sorority. Don't let people get you down about doing something YOU want to do. I'm sure ppl were saying stuff about me when I went through AGAIN but by now I really don't care. Follow your heart and good luck!

MelissaS · #6 09-21-2002, 03:57 AM

Well, I decided I am going to go in the morning. My feelings were just really hurt, but now I'm more angry than anything. I mean, this particular sorority girl is someone I've spoken maybe 2 sentences to in my entire life, and I don't even talk to my roommate often because we're almost never in the room at the same time. I think it's really unfair of them to pass judgement like that. I'm also a little confused about why they'd say that. If I do say so myself, I think I would make a good addition to a sorority...I have good grades, I'm involved in dance and volunteer work, I'm fun-loving, and I'm a good friend. If XYZ doesn't want me for superficial reasons, that's their loss.

Thank you SO MUCH for all the replies. You're all so encouraging. I feel very lucky to have such supportive people behind me!

RockChalk · #7 09-21-2002, 10:02 AM

You go, Melissa! Don't let the bastards get you down!

maggieaxid · #8 09-21-2002, 10:50 AM

Ok, so obviously you are too cool to even be around these girls. don't sweat whatever they do, and if you do, when you see your roomate have the attitude "ill show them!". Plus, your roomate maybe jealous.
When I rushed and joined AZD, one of my good friends who didn't go through rush was a total bia*ch to me and would talk such shit about me all the time after i joined. people act strange when they are jealous.

greekalumna · #9 09-21-2002, 12:10 PM

I also vote for ignoring the silly girls and holding your head high through the rest of rush. Your roommate and her friend are most likely feeling threatened right now. Sadly there are a few (but much, much fewer than it is often assumed) young women who do use the fact that they're in a sorority as an excuse to look down upon women who for various reasons aren't involved in the sorority system.
Good luck with the rest of rush! I hope you find the best place for you!

justamom · #10 09-21-2002, 03:27 PM

Honey, girls like that only feel good about themselves when they put others down. There isn't enough substance in their own lives
so they have to stick thir noses into other people's business. It's really so sad, no, pathetic, but there are a ton of them and a few are bound to cross your path. You do what is right for YOU! Blow them off and think no more of them than you would a pile of dog $*&! on the sidewalk-step around it and keep on your way!

Well, I WAS going to edit this due to courseness............but I really like the descriptiveness and the accuracy.

MelissaS · #11 09-21-2002, 05:41 PM

Well, I am back! This morning was the PNM convocation, where we met our RC's, listened to 3 speakers, learned a little bit about rush, and got into our rush groups. There are 328 PNM's signed up for rush, but only about 200 or so showed up. That's unfortunate for the sororities, but I hope it works to my advantage! After we met our groups, we all went our separate ways, and we met back up an hour later to go to the first 3 parties of round 1. I'm tempted to say which sororities I went to, but I'll wait until prefs to use names. OH, and I wore the outfit with the pencil skirt and cream-colored top in case you were wondering.

House 1: When the RC's knocked on the door I thought I might go deaf! These girls were clapping, singing, and cheering so loudly and were SO enthusiastic. They were all wearing their letters, but some had t-shirts, some had sweatshirts, and they all had different colors on, so it wasn't exactly uniform. I walked in and one sister sat me down and I started talking to her. She was nice, but there were a few pauses in the conversation. Another sister came over a few minutes later and took me across the room to sit and talk with her. She was nice and we had a good conversation, but a few times I'd be talking about something and she'd interrupt me to introduce me to another sister. After that I went on a house tour with another sister, and we talked more about the sorority. Then we went back to the living room and they had cheese, crackers, and fruit for us to eat and Shirley Temples to drink. I sat and talked with yet another sister, and we watched a video. I wasn't too sure about that video because it seemed pretty similar to the house tour I'd just been on...basically it just followed one woman through the house and talked to some of the sisters about different things they do in the house. When we left there was more loud clapping and cheering. I'm not really sure if I could see myself in this house. The girls were very nice, but I didn't click with any of them especially well, and I met a lot of the sisters. The conversations were kind of uncomfortable and forced, and I only talked about the sorority with these women and not about little random fun things which would have made things easier. Overall, they didn't do anything that really impressed me and made me say "wow!" But I wouldn't be completely against giving them another chance in round 2.

House 2: The first thing I noticed about the sisters in this house was that they are all absolutely gorgeous. They all had matching shirts with their letters and colors, and they looked just perfect. That intimidated me a little bit! But once I started talking to them, they were so sweet and friendly that I felt a lot better! It was kind of a coincidence because I got a house tour from 2 girls, and one is my suitemate! So it was comfortable, and we had things to talk about since we already know each other. The first thing we did was the house tour, and that was fun. The house is really pretty, and the sisters all really made an effort to come up and introduce themselves to me. At one point two sisters actually were "fighting" (playfully of course) over who got to say hi to me next! It was cute, and I was flattered. We went into the living room after the tour to watch a slideshow, and they had cookies, chips, and iced tea for us. I didn't even pay that much attention to the slideshow because I was too busy talking to the girl who rushed me! We talked about summer vacations, spring break, and the hot guys at the gym. Conversation flowed easily, and I felt comfortable. I really like this house and I hope I get invited back, but it's one of those houses that everyone wants so if I get cut, I'll understand. I did make sure to tell the woman rushing me that I'd had a great time at the house.

House 3: I was also taken on a house tour by 2 sisters in this house. They were really cool and REALLY laid back. They joked around with me and with each other, and we never ran out of things to talk about. Some of the other sisters introduced themselves during the tour, but not as many as in house 2. They all looked cute in black shirts with their letters in rhinestones, and blue jeans. The word I'd use to best describe the personality of the sisters I met in this house is "real." They didn't seem at all superficial or fake, but they seemed genuinely interested in getting to know us and giving us all the information they could about their sorority. They also seemed like really nice, fun girls who like to just goof off and have a good time. After the house tour we sat in the kitchen to watch the video, and they had cookies, lemonade, and water for us. The video was cute, but the sound quality wasn't the greatest so at some points I had trouble hearing. We got to talk a little more after the video, and I was sitting at a table with about 5 or 6 sisters. There were definitely more sisters than PNM's at all the parties! I was a little intimidated by this at first, but they were all nice so that helped me relax. We talked about classes and about the clubs up in Providence. I was very comfortable in this house, and I think I have a good chance of getting invited back.

So right now I really like houses 2 and 3 and would love to go back to both. I don't know which one I liked more. I'm not too excited about house 1, but I am willing to give them another chance if they invite me back.

Tomorrow I am going to the house that my roommate's teammate is in!! I'm a little nervous about that, but I'm going to approach it as though I don't know anything about it and put my best face forward. After all, it would be pretty funny if her sisters ended up loving me and inviting me back.

Well I will be sure to keep you all posted on how things go, and definitely tell me if there's anything else you want to know!

doubleblue&gold · #12 09-21-2002, 06:46 PM

I'm so glad you stuck with it. See.....it wasn't so bad and I'm glad it went well. You may be right.....the group you're worried about may be the place for you! Wouldn't that be funny in the end?? Just keep an open mind and follow your heart.

Oh, the interruptions by other sisters is a GOOD thing (as long as it isn't rude)......you want to meet as many as possible and you want them to remember you.

rubyrose · #13 09-21-2002, 07:00 PM

Melissa, Your attitude shows that you are truly a class act! Have a blast tomorrow!

maggieaxid · #14 09-21-2002, 08:55 PM

See Melissa, your awesome and other people noticed! (they even fought over you lol!) good luck and keep us posted!

mmcat · #15 09-22-2002, 12:23 AM

terrific posts...good observations....
you just continue having a good time. don't let anyone give you any ration of garbage.
you deserve the best and it sounds like today shows you some.
good luck tomorrow....
lol