uh, sex question

[Rio_Kohitsuji]

TeeHee
I was 18, good and legal, during my first semester @college, to the frat boy who is a frisbee to my best buds sorority. (Yeah, I made a really good choice eh?) I was previously engaged to my ex for 2 years w/no sex, and 2 weeks exactly after we called it quits for good, I lost the great V to the random frat boy. *giggles* But hey, it'll be a year here in a month, and now I'm wearing his letters. It was the best choice I had ever made in relationships! *nods* Who knew?

[Katey Alpha Gam]

Originally posted by phikappapsiman
This is SO Bill Clintonish of me, but...

Question to the women...

Do you consider "having sex" to mean JUST the traditional baby making way (don't want to get graphic here), or are other sexual acts considered sex as well? The reason that I ask is because I once dated a woman who was "saving herself" until marriage, but she did most evertything else! And she was very good at it (and no, it wasn't Monica!). Yet she considers herself a "virgin". So, is she?

We call a person like that a "That kind of virgin" at EMU. There are a LOT of girls who will give blow jobs to a row of fraternity guys but don't think they are sluts b/c they aren't actually having sex, which I actually think is just dumb not only for the obvious reasons, but you aren't getting anything out of it-C'mon!!! As for the question at hand; I was 17 and it was with this guy who was in my little group of friends and all my other friends thought he was cute and I got him! I was so proud of myself until I found out he still had a girlfriend when he told me they broke up (oh so little we know at 17). After that I didn't have sex again until I was with my boyfriend who I was with for 4 years (he was a virgin when we got together). I think all you have to do about having little experience is just be like "listen, I wanted to be smart about it. It's not that I was too nasty to sleep with (I'm sure your adorable) or anything like that. I just wanted to wait until it felt right" I'm sure if anyone questions it, that is a sufficient answer and if someone is enough of a jerk to give you crap about it, then you don't need that kind of drama.

[TaraHopeful]

I wished i had waited longer than i did but anyways...i think that guys would rather have a relationship with a girl who has only had sex with one guy rather than had sex with multiple guys. I know i would rather date a guy who didn't have a long list of past sexual partners....that just screams STD's STD's STD's.

I'm a little tipsy right now so i'm sorry if i;m not makiin sense right now

[Shine]

Originally posted by TLAW
When it comes to intimacy and number of partners, more does not always mean better.

Exactly. I once found out after sleeping with a man that he had almost 30 partners before me!!! (Yes, I was tested after that). But he was the worst lay possible. No technique, no nothing.

[orchid2]

I'm a 19-year old virgin, too

Yes, we do exist!

[XOAlumXO]

I don't think guys will think it's wierd that you waited until you were 21 to have sex...and if they do, you don't need them!! I think it's great you waited til you were ready. I was 19 and was with my boyfriend of 2 years. We're no longer together, but I have no regrets since we were committed to each other. By waiting, it shows that you have self-respect and what guy wouldn't want a girl like that!?

[HotDamnImAPhiMu]

You all are awesome :-) Thanks so much for the support!