advice for an oos at an SEC school

[HQWest]

Originally Posted by iamamom

Thanks for reassuring me about the shoes - I didn't want it to be a "bless her heart" moment behind her back.

One of my good friends was in a sorority and has known her since K. It's a great idea to have them talk about it.

So is it time now to mail these recs now? She obviously doesn't have her final transcript yet - do I give everyone a copy to mail in through this first semester or do we wait until she registers in June?

One of her friends mom's also told her she'd write her a rec, and she has family down in that area. Would it be obnoxious if my d asked her if she knew people from that area who could help?

Finally - can current students in sororities in other schools write recs?

Since for Auburn - 17 groups is a lot, it is surely ok to ask women you know to help you find recs for the other groups, just be aware that a rec from someone who knows her or knows you is always going to be better than a transcript rec.

I would say if they are sending in their recs in June that would be fine. Most groups want you to have it in by July 1.

Some NPC groups allow current collegians to write recs some don't, and I haven't been able to keep track of which do. Some individual chapters may give a rec more weight if it comes from an alum too. I would say it would be better than no rec, and if it is from a really good friend it wouldn't hurt?

[FSUZeta]

Agree with everyone else not to mention why she is not wearing heels. In all my considerable years being involved in recruitment, I cannot recall one comment ever about a PNM never wearing heels during rush week. I have heard comments about how darling someone's shoes were, however. As long as her shoes are in good repair and complement her clothes(and are comfortable!!!!), she should be fine.

[Titchou]

REcs really are best when written by someone who knows the PNM. Make a list of all the groups at her school. The ask everyone if they know anyone in those groups. If you have a friend in XYZ, she may know someone in the other groups. Greeks tend to have Greek friends. And check to see if there is an alumnae panhellenic in your area and make sure she signs up with them. If her campus has a PH Preview Day or something along those lines, she really needs to attend.

[FSUZeta]

I second Titchou on your daughter attending Panhellenic preview day if her campus has one.