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AnotherKD · #31 02-25-2012, 03:32 PM

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Originally Posted by adeleilori

ok, let me just be clear.. LOL! I'm not trying to come up with something that does NOT already exist! I'm not trying to go national people, I'm trying to form a small group for just me and my daughter? If I hadn't come here (and maybe I shouldn't have...), You all woudl have never known about it!

oh.. and I did do google searches on both of them!

Oh, well if that's the case and this isn't just for pretend, that will not happen. Step away from this idea now.

adeleilori · #32 02-25-2012, 03:34 PM

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Originally Posted by AnotherKD

Dude, the part that makes me upset is you're taking another group's letters, no matter what your reasoning is. If you came on here saying you wanted to name yours Delta Delta Delta to mean "darling daughter Diane", I'd have the same issue. It's just weird and disrespectful, especially if you now know that it already exists.

Oh, I had no idea that that would be so offensive.. seriously! Is it still seen as disrespectful if it's a tiny group that will get no public viewing? I wish someone would have just said "wow! You know, even though it's just two of you, I think a sorority may be offended if you have the same letters!" That might have come across a little better..

33girl · #33 02-25-2012, 03:36 PM

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Originally Posted by adeleilori

Oh, I had no idea that that would be so offensive.. seriously! Is it still seen as disrespectful if it's a tiny group that will get no public viewing? I wish someone would have just said "wow! You know, even though it's just two of you, I think a sorority may be offended if you have the same letters!" That might have come across a little better..

Yes, it is offensive because you're just kind of doing this randomly and not bothering to research in the least. Why don't you just call it the adeleilori and little girl club? Why does everything have to have Greek letters attached to it? Those Greek letters we wear are not just for fun or a joke, they MEAN something to us.

AnotherKD · #34 02-25-2012, 03:37 PM

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Originally Posted by adeleilori

Oh, I had no idea that that would be so offensive.. seriously! Is it still seen as disrespectful if it's a tiny group that will get no public viewing? I wish someone would have just said "wow! You know, even though it's just two of you, I think a sorority may be offended if you have the same letters!" That might have come across a little better..

Yes. Not only is it offensive, it is patently ridiculous. I cant tell people I'm a doctor cause I didn't go to med school, so I don't have a MD I can use after my name. I wasn't in the military, so I can't say I have a silver star. You weren't initiated into whatever group you decide to pick out of a hat, so you can't say you were.

adeleilori · #35 02-25-2012, 03:37 PM

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Originally Posted by princessamy

Is it me or does she sound like a mom that will do ANYTHING so that her daughter can be in a "sorority"? Kind of like that lifetime movie "Willing to Kill".

LOL! oh no, complete oppostie actually.. which is why this is such a stretch for me! But I know SHE likes that, so I am willing to do it for her..

princessamy · #36 02-25-2012, 03:41 PM

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Originally Posted by adeleilori

LOL! oh no, complete oppostie actually.. which is why this is such a stretch for me! But I know SHE likes that, so I am willing to do it for her..

I would be concerned if my mom would do this much for me and I'm in college. My mom would tell me to get over myself and find something else to do with my time aka focus on my education. Another question, how old is your daughter?

AZTheta · #37 02-25-2012, 03:45 PM

You home school your daughter, correct? So she's with you pretty much 24/7. Not sure how much closer you can get, unless you pop her back into your uterus.

Got my soda, who's in charge of popcorn?

AlphaFrog · #38 02-25-2012, 03:47 PM

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Originally Posted by princessamy

I would be concerned if my mom would do this much for me and I'm in college. My mom would tell me to get over myself and find something else to do with my time aka focus on my education. Another question, how old is your daughter?

She said she was 9 - which is why I'm not convinced that a NINE year old is interested in a sorority and the mother is being dragged into it.

"You could always AI"

princessamy · #39 02-25-2012, 03:47 PM

AZ you want butter or kettle corn?

33girl · #40 02-25-2012, 03:47 PM

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Originally Posted by princessamy

I would be concerned if my mom would do this much for me and I'm in college. My mom would tell me to get over myself and find something else to do with my time aka focus on my education. Another question, how old is your daughter?

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Originally Posted by adeleilori

Greek, I love what you've done! I am a mom who thinks outside of the box, and I love surprising people, including my daughter! She is a very girly girl, and at 9 has so much to learn about becoming a lady! We hold old values dear in our home and she learns to cook, clean, etc. She loves to hang out and do girl things, and she has 2 brothers - little brothers and often times she gets lost in the chaos that is homeschooling with a 4 yr old and a 1 yr old. She is a HUGE help and I want to reward her. She has been a member of other girls clubs and loves them, but I guess 9 is about that age, when mommy becomes very important and she's wanting us to do things together. We've always done dates, etc. But I know what she likes and she would absolutely LOVE to feel like her and mommy have something cute, exculsive and seperate from the boys! lol! She adores the Proverbs 31 woman description, so I came up with Pi Delta Alpha, since Pi is the first letter of Proverbs in greek, the Delta triangle to me represents the trinity (Father, Son, Holy ghost) and# 3 (I'm thinking of changing it to Gamma though), and Alpha for The God head and # 1 = Pi, Proverbs; Delta[or gamma], 3; Alpha, 1. I think we'll be incorporating some of these things as well: http://www.p31girl.com/P31/P31_Welcome.html, and we're just looking forward to having a good time together.

Heavens to betsy, now that I've spewed some details.. let me brace myself for the comments from the others.. :/ !

Call me crazy, but aren't most 9 year olds wanting to be in clubs and such to establish a separate identity from their parents?

princessamy · #41 02-25-2012, 03:49 PM

I must have over read that. Sorry.

adeleilori · #42 02-25-2012, 03:50 PM

You know, I don't typically like confrontation.. but I'm also a journalist and dont like for replies to go un-answered. But looking over the posts, maybe I just read things like this as a mean statement:

"Eh, if some greek letters on a t-shirt make her feel closer to her daughter, whatever." As insulting, where someone else would have seen them as a compliment or nothing at all. (but typically talking about someone like their not a part of the conversation is seen as rude).

All in all, I just came here for some advice, and instead of people saying "well, using someones letters, even the two of you, will make people upset?" Or asking questions like "Oh, that's different, why do that?" I got a whole slew of (what seemed to me) condiscending "why? seriously? for real?" and "Eh, if some greek letters on a t-shirt make her feel closer to her daughter, whatever." It could have all been my perception, I'm fine with that. It's clearly obvious that I know NOTHING about sorority's, never wanted to be in one, never have been in one, never have even looked into one! But thought it woudl have been neat for my 9 yr old.. this situation was my very first experience with a group of people in sororities and although it was not at all a good one, I'm gonna chalk it up to just THIS place, misunderstanding, whatever.. I'll make sure we emphasis some kindness, and helpfulness in my daughters little group though.. I'll tell her all about this encounter I had, and I'll make sure to find letters that are not being used by anyone!

Thanks ya'll

AlphaFrog · #43 02-25-2012, 03:50 PM

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Originally Posted by adeleilori

http://www.p31girl.com/P31/P31_Welcome.html!

This website looks like pink threw up. If you're interested in P31, try this one: http://www.proverbs31.org/ My good friend LeAnn is the Executive Director and they are all awesome.

adeleilori · #44 02-25-2012, 03:55 PM

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Originally Posted by AzTheta

You home school your daughter, correct? So she's with you pretty much 24/7. Not sure how much closer you can get, unless you pop her back into your uterus.

Got my soda, who's in charge of popcorn?

Yes, we are together 24/7, but with her little brothers. I am either working (I work 4 hours from home), which she is doing her independent work, or we are doign school work with the boys, or she is watching them, or doing her chores, or playing with them. Our one on one time is VERY limited with a 4 and 1 yr old around.

adeleilori · #45 02-25-2012, 03:57 PM

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Originally Posted by 33girl

Call me crazy, but aren't most 9 year olds wanting to be in clubs and such to establish a separate identity from their parents?

oh no, not her! She literally CRAVES my attention! It can be a little bit daunting at times, because I am so busy homeschooling the three of them, cooking cleaning, taking care of the 1 yr old and working 4 hours every day from home. lol! The boys dont care as much, but she wants some "no boy" time.. lol!