How often do greek life people have outsider BF's/GF's

[33girl]

Originally Posted by DubaiSis

To the question do we get sick of Greek life by the time we graduate? In my case, HELL YES. But I think that's part of the growing process. I personally could not have gone on to any graduate school without some sort of newsworthy violence happening eventually. Others have a greater tolerance for crowds, groups, social requirements, etc. And some just refuse to ever grow up, and instead of being the pathetic guy who never moves beyond high school becomes the pathetic guy who never moves beyond college. The 2nd semester of my senior year was painful, and probably twice as painful for my sorority sisters who had to tolerate me.

There's a big difference between being sick of the requirements of Greek life, and being sick of your brothers or sisters. I'm sure the same thing happens with athletes, student senators, etc etc. The OP seems to be asking/hoping if the moment we graduate, do we just leave Greek life on the floor like dirty underwear and never revisit it or the people we met in it again.

[DrPhil]

This also varies by council and conference. What it means to "get over it" and "grow up" tends to be different for members of NPHC orgs. The structure and membership dynamics of NPHC orgs tend to be based on the expectation of a lifetime commitment that hopefully means lifetime involvement for post-college adults.

[flopchop]

I don't really feel like backreading, but I would say that a fraternity member dating a sorority member is more common than a frat member dating someone who is unaffiliated. It is not frowned upon though at my college.

One issue that pops up a lot though that I've not only noticed but experienced with dating unaffiliated girls is a jealousy/trust issue. A lot of girls think that just because you're in a fraternity you're always getting tail. So they never want to leave you alone when there are other girls/liquor involved which can be a problem in any relationship but also when there are mixers with sororities, etc.

It also gets kind of tough when you're trying to balance a relationship, academics and fraternity life. If you choose to attend a brotherhood event rather than hanging out with your squeeze then she won't be too happy. If you continually hang out with your girl instead of your frat bros then they'll start not liking the girl then eventually be a little pissed with you.

If you date a sorority girl, she understands all of this and she is facing the same sort of stuff so I feel like the relationship is a lot more smooth.

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by flopchop

I don't really feel like backreading, but I would say that a fraternity member dating a sorority member is more common than a frat member dating someone who is unaffiliated. It is not frowned upon though at my college.

One issue that pops up a lot though that I've not only noticed but experienced with dating unaffiliated girls is a jealousy/trust issue. A lot of girls think that just because you're in a fraternity you're always getting tail. So they never want to leave you alone when there are other girls/liquor involved which can be a problem in any relationship but also when there are mixers with sororities, etc.

It also gets kind of tough when you're trying to balance a relationship, academics and fraternity life. If you choose to attend a brotherhood event rather than hanging out with your squeeze then she won't be too happy. If you continually hang out with your girl instead of your frat bros then they'll start not liking the girl then eventually be a little pissed with you.

If you date a sorority girl, she understands all of this and she is facing the same sort of stuff so I feel like the relationship is a lot more smooth.

uFail. iLaugh.

[flopchop]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

uFail. iLaugh.

umm ok...cool

[jazing]

Originally Posted by flopchop

umm ok...cool

I'll give you points for honesty, her and everywhere especially.

[Psi U MC Vito]

Originally Posted by flopchop

umm ok...cool

Dude if you had bothered to read the thread you would have relized what you said had nothing to do with the actual subject.

[knight_shadow]

Originally Posted by Psi U MC Vito

Dude if you had bothered to read the thread you would have relized what you said had nothing to do with the actual subject.

I thought it was on-topic. We went on a tangent, but his response was not off-base.