"Fat Girl" Sorority

[Old_Row]

If your roommates' opinions are so important to you that you will do anything you can to impress them then you should definitely stay a geed. Letting other people dictate what you do with your life is an awesome way to live so this will be a good start.

[Xidelt]

I love how the OP's roommates are talking shit about 3 of the 4 sororities on campus, none of which they are in. I find it highly unlikely that 75% of the girl Greek scene on this campus is made of complete and total rejects. These girls' perspective of themselves and their sense of self-importance must be seriously skewed. Take the bid and get some new roommates.

[Optimus Prime]

Every sorority will have a reputation of some sort given by some other group. At least this is what I've experienced on my campus. Non greeks always labeled each sorority/fraternity and it was always something bad or negative. You just have to try to ignore them if you can, and enjoy your sisterhood.

[AXOrushadvisor]

I think you have gotten some very sound advice here. I just keep going back to you have pros- there are things you like about this group. You have nothing to loose by taking the bid and getting to know your new sisters and pledge class. There may be some real opportunity here for you to grow, get involved and make a difference. Like one of the other posters said if you get close to initiation and it is not for you then you just turn in your pledge pin and walk away. I do want you to remember that you only have 2 years left at University and membership is for a lifetime. Some of my closet friends are not girls I pledged with or even lived with in the sorority house they are from the local alumni group in my home town- who would have known?!

[ForeverRoses]

oh, come on. No one has given her the worst advice ever with the "maybe you should look into AI"?

[DubaiSis]

Um, it's a local. I can't imagine a local having an AI program. But yes, that WOULD be the worst advice ever.

[Jill1228]

Originally Posted by DubaiSis

Um, it's a local. I can't imagine a local having an AI program. But yes, that WOULD be the worst advice ever.

These are NOT locals. These are NPCs (their recruitment came a little earlier this year)...
Yes, I know the school well

[crescent&pearls]

The point is that whether you accept a bid from a "top" chapter after a "perfect" rush or a bumpy, emotional one, or a bid from your second fave, or a bid from you least favorite that you thought you "didn't connect with" or "couldn't see yourself there" or a bid offered from a chapter during informal recruitment...YOU DON'T REALLY KNOW THESE WOMEN, AND THEY DON'T REALLY KNOW YOU. Taking that bid and trying to make a go of it is a leap of faith. They are taking a chance on you, and you take a chance on them. You could do yourself a favor and do some research on the national organization and learn something about what it has to offer you outside the bubble of your "on campus" experience and maybe that might a difference to you..maybe not.

On the other hand, the OP lives with a bunch of girls who have proven themselves to be twits with their catty, juvenile and unbecoming behavior.

Hmmm...two options: take a chance on lifetime of opportunities waiting for you or let yourself be influenced by twits. Such difficult choices!

[DubaiSis]

Originally Posted by Jill1228

These are NOT locals. These are NPCs (their recruitment came a little earlier this year)...
Yes, I know the school well

Sorry, my bad. I read no official connection to school as NPC not allowed, but I can think of 1 school (not this one) that works that way so I suppose there are more.

[scrapcat]

funny thing about "labels". My eldest daughter joined the "real girl" sorority. They had every shape, size, color of girls. Were they the top house? Nope. but guess what.. In 4 small years that "average girl" house went from zero to hero. This year they took in 42 pnms! Making them one of the top houses! Go figure.