A disconnect with legacies?

[gaangel5]

Originally Posted by NutBrnHair

We enjoy seeing toddlers wearing the t-shirts exclaiming, "I'm a Chi Omega Legacy."

Can you imagine what Carnation's granddaughters would be wearing for a legacy t-shirt? There wouldn't be enough room on that toddler's shirt to list all of the sororities. LOL

[carnation]

That's a running joke around here! None of the grandbabies have any "Future ABC" clothes but the 2 granddaughters do have lots of panda and owl clothes, respectively.

My husband thinks that the Greek needlework is going to pull the wall down, though.

[NUBlue&Blue]

I was chatting with my former neighbor this morning while we volunteered at open house at school (lots of chat time!) and she told me that her daughter's chapter has 78 legacies coming through THAT THEY KNOW ABOUT! I think at this school, they are expecting quota to be around 70.

I'm really glad that my girls chose to attend a school where there was no Kappa chapter (unless they attended my alma mater, of course) because the pressure was totally off. However, it was hard for my younger daughter because she was an in house legacy, so she got dropped by almost everybody after the second day. Sometimes sisters are alike and sometimes they are totally different, so often the younger sister at the same school doesn't have a whole lot of options, especially if she is nothing like her older sister.

[AUBoosMom]

My daughter is participating in Auburn's recruitment this week.

Question: because so many sororities at Auburn are in the same boat (with more legacies going through than they could possibly absorb), do these chapters drop PNMs because they assume they are want to pledge their legacy sororities? Or do they "get" the fact that many of the girls can't join those chapters because it's mathematically impossible?

It never occurred to me to tell my daughter NOT to list her legacy information on her recruitment application.

But then, we're from a different area of the country. Silly, naive out-of-staters!!

[GPhiBLtColonel]

In the recs I've written where the girls are legacies but completely open to joining a different sorority, I say so in the rec.

[Benzgirl]

Originally Posted by AUBoosMom

My daughter is participating in Auburn's recruitment this week.

Question: because so many sororities at Auburn are in the same boat (with more legacies going through than they could possibly absorb), do these chapters drop PNMs because they assume they are want to pledge their legacy sororities? Or do they "get" the fact that many of the girls can't join those chapters because it's mathematically impossible?

It never occurred to me to tell my daughter NOT to list her legacy information on her recruitment application.

But then, we're from a different area of the country. Silly, naive out-of-staters!!

While we are not privvy to each of the chapter's selection processes at AU, we cannot tell you. However, I have never heard during membership selection that we should, Drop the PNM because she is a legacy of ABC and XYZ, because she will probably go there anyway. However, if you have a PNM saying, "I'm a legacy of ABC and XYZ and I only want those two chapters", I would encourage the chapter to move on to someone who wants us. We make sure the info is first-hand, though, and not a rumor.


ITA: Also, someone mentioned "legacy poaching". While we don't promote it, if the PNM loves your chapter and you love her, it's always a thrill to get her over the legacy chapter.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by AUBoosMom

Question: because so many sororities at Auburn are in the same boat (with more legacies going through than they could possibly absorb), do these chapters drop PNMs because they assume they are want to pledge their legacy sororities? Or do they "get" the fact that many of the girls can't join those chapters because it's mathematically impossible?

I think a lot of them are thinking "OMG, we have to cut x number of girls 1) due to RFM 2) because we have a boatload of legacies we have to think about. Jackie is a legacy to another group? Great, we can cut her and not feel guilty because surely they'll take her." I think math kind of goes out the window at that point. (by "that point" I mean 1 am in the morning after a full day of parties)

p.s. your username is cute.

[DubaiSis]

I've written and deleted about a gazillion different posts, stating differing opinions. This is really one of those discussions where most of us could pick a side, EITHER side and fight for it. I think that in general it works the way it should. Chapters seem to give legacies extra attention, and appreciate them for the additional gift of family that they provide. Yes, bad stuff happens from time to time on either side of the argument, but I don't think that's too often.

But now I'm obsessed with what kind of cookie I am. I am certainly no mint milano, but I can't say I'm a nilla wafer either. I'm some kinda cookie that's got fruit and is nutty, but nothing fancy. Mix it together and drop by spoonsful onto the pan. Eat in small doses or I become too much.

[Lady Pi]

Originally Posted by DubaiSis

But now I'm obsessed with what kind of cookie I am. I am certainly no mint milano, but I can't say I'm a nilla wafer either. I'm some kinda cookie that's got fruit and is nutty, but nothing fancy. Mix it together and drop by spoonsful onto the pan. Eat in small doses or I become too much.

Fig Newton?

[DubaiSis]

Originally Posted by Lady Pi

Fig Newton?

I think fig newton might be the perfect description for me. I'm a tasty treat that not everyone appreciates. Sweet but with a little bite. Flakey on the outside, gooey on the inside!

[FSUZeta]

okay, MC. you have proved that some cookies DO NOT belong in the same cookie jar-lol!

[Munchkin03]

Originally Posted by FSUZeta

okay, MC. you have proved that some cookies DO NOT belong in the same cookie jar-lol!

Yuck! When I was little, I'd get upset when my mom would mix cookies in the cookie jar. I do NOT want Oreo dust on my Chips Ahoy!, and vice-versa. It makes me sick just thinking about it.

On a serious note, this is a place where those of us in NPC groups could learn from the NPHC. From my experience with NPHC friends and family members, legacies may have aspirations and even expectations of being in their mother or grandmother's sorority, they always learn that membership in the legacy group is not promised. That of course, doesn't prevent mothers and grandmothers from going nuts when their kid doesn't get in, but NPHC legacies, for the most part, know they have to work as hard as, and in some cases harder than, everyone else.

I think this philosophy has to be brought home a lot more, especially as demand for NPC membership grows. Because of Bright Futures and HOPE, the sororities are having to make deep cuts earlier than they had to when we were in school. We have to make sure alumnae are aware of these changes.

[Lady Pi]

Okay, the undie cookies would be really cute for a Bachelorette Party.

The other cookies... scare me. I can think of a weird past PNM to go with all of them though. Desserts for the Disturbed?


Recipe for the finger cookies, from one of Martha Stewart's Halloween Specials.: http://www.food.com/recipe/severed-f...cookies-135850

[Low C Sharp]

http://www.linkedin.com/in/cinnamonbaker

This is a real person.

[agzg]

LOL at Literal Lady Fingers.