sex question

[Tom Earp]

I would love to have sex!
After giving up on women, and yes I am straight, It is importent to remember that for men, having orgasim, helps from getting prostrait cancer!

In the early years for a male of the species, it is a conquest. Ads time goes by it means something else!

It is like Sex of newlyweds!

When first get married you do it everywhere!!!!

When have kids you have bedroom sex, locked doors!

When kids are gone, you have hall way sex,

YOU walk down the hall and when you see each other you say F---you!

"Inside every old man is a young one wonderng what the hell happened!"

[SH80er]

*Face is redder than apple after reading all of this*

Call me sexphobic. Although I may think of sex pretty often (I'm sure you observed this on GC), but the thought of actually doing it........

Am I the only f*cking virgin on GC?

[James]

Some random thoughts on the subject . . .

There is such a thing as too much honesty. If withholding certain types of information that is non-harmful increases your chances of building a relationship, withhold away. So telling someone on your first date about your hundred and five sexual partners might turn a lot of people off. The more important information would be if you had an incurable STD. Otherwise the information is as much their business as when you started masturbating: Only if you want to tell them and its not really relevant to them.

If your last boyfriend was the deepest possible chapter of your sexual history, you don't need to share that information with your new boyfriend. We don't need to know that you have absoilutely no virgin territory left to explore, and that you have even done it on the church alter covered with sacramental wine and using all kinds of props Although if you have please send me the story by PM, I'd get a kick out of it.

Number of past partners really doesn't matter, although some guys will feel insecure about it for two reasons: One- we feel we should be studs and should sleep with a significant amount of women, so if your number is the same or higher . . . we feel shamed as men; Two- We believe in the duality of relationship prospects: In other words we sit among our friends and say there are women you date, but never marry, and ofcourse the ones you DO take home to meet the parents. And they are often not the same woman.

And I hate to say it, but often its OTHER women that affect our thoughts about things like this. You women sell eachother out all the time. I have never met a women with a rep that wasn't given to them by other women first.

Note: The greatest turn on the world is a woman totally comfie with her sexuality (cause she can really enjoy herself), and I don't think I would ever stay involved with a woman uptight about her sexuality, way boring, and too many future problems.

Note: One of the the most laughable things are technical virgins. Lets see, they will do EVERYTHING else but intercourse? And usually for religious reasons. Wake-up call, if the God you believe is the standard Christian God he is going to call you on having sex. Look people, if it leads to orgasm . . . its sex. Although I will admit we have mystified the intimacy of intercourse . . . but I can't help but think that it doesn't get much more intimate than going down on a girl . . . especially if I pack a lunch and stay for the day . I mean after that, we really kind of know eachother .

Note: The more sexually experienced the girl the more we (guys) kind of hate you for making us wait too long. If you are a virgin and we wait a while (a few weeks or something ), its understandable, but if you are pretty sexually active and you make us wait a seemingly long time, then you get tedious. I know, I know, I am being insensitive, but so is the girl. I know you have to be ready, but lets face it her body is telling us she is ready (which means she has to be mentally into it also) and she isn't a virgin . . . so why is she making us beg for it?

Sh80er, hey girl, there are 12 thousand people registered (although they can't all be active) there are probably 1 or 2 others equally uncomfortable with their sexuality and therfore still virgins.

Sigmachicard, you sound a little bitter man, Did this girl play you as "that guy"?

Nice posts everybody .

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally posted by James
Some random thoughts on the subject . . .

Note: One of the the most laughable things are technical virgins. Lets see, they will do EVERYTHING else but intercourse? And usually for religious reasons. Wake-up call, if the God you believe is the standard Christian God he is going to call you on having sex. Look people, if it leads to orgasm . . . its sex. Although I will admit we have mystified the intimacy of intercourse . . . but I can't help but think that it doesn't get much more intimate than going down on a girl . . . especially if we pack a lunch and stay for the day . I mean after that, you really kind of know eachother .

Oh, thank you! I can't stand the girls who judge me for having sex in a monogomous relationship, when they are in bed with a new guy every night. If it looks like a duck, and walks like a duck, it's probably a duck.

[alphachiohmy]

Originally posted by James
Some random thoughts on the subject . . .


Note: One of the the most laughable things are technical virgins. Lets see, they will do EVERYTHING else but intercourse? And usually for religious reasons. Wake-up call, if the God you believe is the standard Christian God he is going to call you on having sex. Look people, if it leads to orgasm . . . its sex. Although I will admit we have mystified the intimacy of intercourse . . . but I can't help but think that it doesn't get much more intimate than going down on a girl . . . especially if I pack a lunch and stay for the day . I mean after that, we really kind of know eachother .

Nice posts everybody .

Let me clarify - my "everything else" is along the lines of Vicki and Kevin pre-book of sexual secrets a la American Pie. It doesn't quite fall into your (James') sexplanation of sex. (Hey, its a pun get it?) So, there is a lot I have to learn, which will come in time. But I do not want to come across as "laughable."

I am not the kind of person who holds a big sign saying look at me I am a virgin. People have stereotypes that all people choosing to not have sex at a certain point in their life as bible-pushing fanatics who curse everyone whose not like them. Just as other stereptypes about people who have sex are groundless.

Bottom line: its a personal choice to be made when a person is ready. I don't look at people any way or another by how many people they have/have not slept with. Its just another aspect - potentially awesone - in relationships between men and women.

Thanks for all the disussion on this - I find everyone on Greekchat to be intelligent with strong opinions and wise and witty things to say!!

[HeidiHo]

Originally posted by James
but I can't help but think that it doesn't get much more intimate than going down on a girl . . . especially if I pack a lunch and stay for the day . I mean after that, we really kind of know eachother .

That is too funny, where's the best quotes thread?

Amycat- at first when you said you're 30+ I thought you meant 30+ guys you've slept with... I'm a ditz

If you want to do it, do it. If not, who cares? I just worry about random hook-ups when the people have different expectations. It gets messy when the one thinks that last night was the beginning of a long term relationship & the other person doesn't want to see them ever again.
Heidi

[SoCalGirl]

Originally posted by James
Some random thoughts on the subject . . .

We don't need to know that you have absoilutely no virgin territory left to explore, and that you have even done it on the church alter covered with sacramental wine and using all kinds of props Although if you have please send me the story by PM, I'd get a kick out of it.

Look people, if it leads to orgasm . . . its sex. Although I will admit we have mystified the intimacy of intercourse . . . but I can't help but think that it doesn't get much more intimate than going down on a girl . . . especially if I pack a lunch and stay for the day . I mean after that, we really kind of know eachother .

Lifesaver, you sound a little bitter man, was this one of the girls playing you as "that guy"?

Nice posts everybody .

James-
I always love your posts. It's all true, but I swear I couldn't be more red right now!

Help me out here, did Lifesaver even post in this thread yet? I can find it! Why's he bitter? I've looked three times and still don't see it.


AlphaChiOhMy-
I'm in the same boat as you! No angel but definitely no "technical virgin" either.

There's way to much disease out there, plus I have way to many commitment issues. I swear I always end up treating guys like dirt or let them treat me like dirt. I have got to find a balance before I throw sex in the mess!

[KSig RC]

Look, it's very simple . . .

From an evolutionary standpoint, we developed orgasms to make sex enjoyable, and therefore more accessible. These things are the pinnacle of pleasurable feeling - that's not a coincidence . . .

Why do we care about number of partners? It's the fantasy of being "the one" . . . especially men, but also women, want to be the only one. It almost never happens - let's be honest - but it's a fun fantasy. So why even worry about this sort of crap? It only demolishes fantasies, and proves counterproductive.

Here's a simple solution set to the problem:

1. If you desire sexual fulfillment on the intercourse level: HAVE SEX. DON'T TALK ABOUT IT WITH RANDOM PEOPLE IN PUBLIC PLACES. very easy - take care of you, and perhaps others at the same time.

2. If you desire a relationship, perhaps with sexual aspects to it - THINK ABOUT HAVING SEX. BE FAITHFUL - that's what you want, so do it. And don't bitch.

3. If you don't want to have sex - FINE. Maybe it's the right reasons, often it's the wrong reasons (fear, shyness, random feelings of superiority) . . . but either way, do your thing, and let others do the same.

4. If you want to have sex with anything that moves - GOOD JOB BUDDY, DO WHAT YOU WANT. It's your life - do jah thing. That's certainly allowed.

Seriously - this should be a non-issue . . . sex is only taboo b/c people would rather piss themselves than talk honestly about it, and thus expose themselves to potentially 'intimate' details.

Here's the deal - live your life, get laid (if you want to), have fun. Send me a PM if you want to talk further, but realistically - roll. Just roll. Sex is something so personal, it's nearly public - but it's only an issue b/c we make it one. So don't make it one - just like smoking; do it, don't do it, I don't care at all. Just be prepared to defend your stance either way.

[LeslieAGD]

Originally posted by alphachiohmy

I don't see sex as an easy decision. It's not as if I could say, "H'mm what do I want for lunch today: Chicken or Sex?"

LMAO...ha!

[amycat412]

Originally posted by James


...You women sell each other out all the time. I have never met a women with a rep that wasn't given to them by other women first.

Note: The greatest turn on the world is a woman totally comfie with her sexuality (cause she can really enjoy herself), and I don't think I would ever stay involved with a woman uptight about her sexuality, way boring, and too many future problems.

. . . but I can't help but think that it doesn't get much more intimate than going down on a girl . . .

James-
Great post, esp the parts I quoted above. I could not agree with you more!
Amy

[James]

SoCalGirl, what experience did I memory trigger that you turned red in the face? Inquiring minds want to know .

I stand corrected, it was SigmChiCard that made the statements I chose to interept as slightly bitter and condescending, I have corrected my post to reflect that.

Committment issues are not really issues unless they keep you from enjoying life. I wouldn't worry too much about the shoulds of relationships . . . to easy to think badly of yourself. Although, if you are getting guys that treat you badly, I would ask you a question: Do you go out of your way to ask men out? Or do you wait to be asked? Because if you wait to be asked you are at the mercy of what comes your way.

As far as disease goes, its a crapshoot with the odds very much in your favor, especially with a condom.

Originally posted by SoCalGirl


James-
I always love your posts. It's all true, but I swear I couldn't be more red right now!

Help me out here, did Lifesaver even post in this thread yet? I can find it! Why's he bitter? I've looked three times and still don't see it.


AlphaChiOhMy-
I'm in the same boat as you! No angel but definitely no "technical virgin" either.

There's way to much disease out there, plus I have way to many commitment issues. I swear I always end up treating guys like dirt or let them treat me like dirt. I have got to find a balance before I throw sex in the mess!

[shultzz]

Originally posted by SH80er
A guy has to slide a ring on my finger, before he lays me!

Who believes that?

[lifesaver]

I was avoiding this thread outta embarassment. I think the virginity thing is cool. I didnt take my junk outta the wrapper till I was 23, because I wasnt emotionally ready to deal with it until then.

<lifesaver takes a moment to tell the really embarassing story of how he always thought his first time would be; sensitive and special and meaningful and NOT the drunken spankfest on a balcony overlooking Burbon Street in New Orleans during MardiGras with a 42 year old what I think was a hooker who took my watch freakshow that it was. At least the shot of Cipro took care of the gift SHE gave me.>

Just kidding folks. She didnt take my watch.

[Dejajeva]

hahahah

You rock

[DeltAlum]

I'm sorry in advance that this post will be just a tad crude...

So, I'm sitting here after a very long mentally taxing day, reading this thread.

Now, the older I get, the more I question my wisdom. I used to be right almost all the time...now, I'm not quite so self confident.

Well, because of my concern about saying things that are worthwhile, I haven't been posting as much lately -- and I've been reading other posts more carefully before commenting.

But, as I read this thread, and my eyes started to glaze over I just misread part of DeltaBetaBaby's post (see above), and I damned near fell off my chair. In the terms of the day ROTFLMAO.

To wit:

"If it looks like a dick..." etc.

Back to my nap.