Tell Me Please!!!

[prdlocal]

I agree with you 100% Gracie! What's difficult, though, is knowing you have all of these strong bonds with people that aren't based on your sexual preference, but will change as soon as you come out of the closet. Those friendships may never be the same, even if they are completely platonic (i think i spelled that right!).

[dc1]

Originally posted by prdlocal:
I agree with you 100% Gracie! What's difficult, though, is knowing you have all of these strong bonds with people that aren't based on your sexual preference, but will change as soon as you come out of the closet. Those friendships may never be the same, even if they are completely platonic (i think i spelled that right!).

Let me add something to this too:
Some get offended if I don't tell them that I'm gay until later on... they feel that I have lied to them or held something back.
Some get offended if I tell them from the start... they feel that I am shoving my sexuality in their face... so where is the middle ground?



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[N2]

". Well, actually it works both ways, doesn't it. Guys aren't really excited about dating girls who aren't straight......"

Well, speak for yourself. I can remember many fun times had with "dikes".

[Billy Optimist]

Originally posted by dc1:
Let me add something to this too:
Some get offended if I don't tell them that I'm gay until later on... they feel that I have lied to them or held something back.
Some get offended if I tell them from the start... they feel that I am shoving my sexuality in their face... so where is the middle ground?

hhhmmm...I guess a good way, would to just be to let it come up naturally. Like if you have "girl talk" about who you think is cute or whatever.

[prdlocal]

Okay, maybe I should clarify that I am bisexual. I suppose this puts me in the middle somewhere on this whole subject. I sort of feel that I can "fit in" when need be, but that when I express that I am also attracted to women, people become somewhat uneasy. Only a few in my sorority know, and I am content with it this way. I feel that if people know me well enough, they will find out, and I am an outgoing enough person that I will be okay if I loose one friend because of their closemindedness.

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[33girl]

Originally posted by dc1:
Let me add something to this too:
Some get offended if I don't tell them that I'm gay until later on... they feel that I have lied to them or held something back.
Some get offended if I tell them from the start... they feel that I am shoving my sexuality in their face... so where is the middle ground?

I can understand your quandry!! That's a hard line to walk.

I would say, don't bring it up, but if one of your friends (I mean CLOSE friends, not some random person in your english class) asked you about it, I would be honest with them. If I asked a good friend and she denied it, I would be very hurt. I'd feel like she didn't think enough of our friendship.

I don't feel you need to tell people right from the start, any more than you would walk up to someone and tell them what color underwear you were wearing.

[bubbles17]

Hi, there is a thread in the Chit Chat Forum by Newbie entitled "Today is the Day of Silence!" There have been excellent posts in there, and I contributed to it as well. You can share your opinions there too!

mandy