The Reluctant PNM - Page 3

ellebud · #31 09-02-2009, 01:07 PM

Preference and the Reluctant PNM:

I must say at the outset that my daughter had an outstanding rush experience. Was if perfect? Not in one sense that she got every house (she almost did). But that I believe that it taught her a lot about herself and others. It was really a growth experience.

Our University has Preference in the early morning and Bid Night the same day. The girls go in at 7 a.m. to pick up their invitations. Although I didn't see her I know that she wore the dress that she had rejected last year. Yes, the Audrey Hepburn ish dress.

I got a call. Her voice is always level so you can't read anything into what she is thinking. Mom, I got two of my three top choices. (You go to two). But I don't understand what happened with.............. I had 10 girls around me. How could I have read them so wrong?

YOU turned down MY CHILD? I kept my voice level. I simply said that she had two choices that many girls would DIE to get and to have fun. She agreed, but again, briefly, wondered how she read a group of people so wrong.

Frankly, I suspect I do know what may have played into the decision. But this is life in the big city and in rush. Never look back look foward. And she went to her parties.

It was seven in the morning. And, amazingly I wasn't tired. So, I got up, had coffee and read the newspaper. I got my call three hours later.

IT'S .................!! I KNOW IT! I love them and they love me. (No, no one said anything to her.) Through the haze of the flu she saw it. I cautioned her about rush numbers. But said I was SO happy that she found what she thought would be her sorority.

She came home for the afternoon to rest. It never occured to her that she would get the call. She left and I got a panicked call from her cell. What happens if ...........doesn't bid me? How could I be so wrong? Suppose they were being false? I heard girls screaming in the background as my child walked to receive her bid. She hung up.

Please note: I am now standing in the kitchen with my mother in law who was here for dinner. I have become, in my stomach, a nervous halaria. (I'm not sure what that means exactly, my mother used to say it about someone who was about to loose it.) Suddenly it hit me what I had done: What if this doesn't work out? What if I pushed her into a heartbreaking situation?

I get a call back. My daughter, the Reluctant PNM is screaming.

Digress: On the first night of Rush, right before she was to go into her first house I panicked. She had a favorite pair of earrings. They are a symbol to one of the houses. I texted her, "Are you ok? Are you wearing earrings?" The reply came back, "Sick. No"

I could see the looks on sisters faces if they saw the earrings. "She's a stalker. She wants us." Or, "What a b***** She's wearing so and so's symbols" In this case, they were earrings that she loves, but didn't wear.

And, I must tell you that my Reluctant PNM found some of her new sisters and led the run to her new sorority:

DELTA GAMMA.

She almost wore her anchor earrings.

And, if any of you read my rush story, the DG house was the soda sharing house.

WVU alpha phi · #32 09-02-2009, 01:29 PM

Congrats to you, DG, and especially your daughter!!! Loved her rush story and I'm so glad she found her home!

honeychile · #33 09-02-2009, 01:34 PM

Congratulations to you, the reluctant PNM, and Delta Gamma!!

TXalum1 · #34 09-02-2009, 01:34 PM

I love the story! Congrats to all of you. The fact she almost wore her anchor earring is such a wonderful bit of irony.
I hope she is happy and has recovered from her bug!

ellebud · #35 09-02-2009, 01:42 PM

She is fine now. Yesterday she had an appointment at the doctor, so you know that she made a fast recovery just so the doctor wouldn't be able to find anything wrong.

FSUZeta · #36 09-02-2009, 02:51 PM

HURRAH!!! what a great story and so happy for your daughter's happy ending. thanks so much for sharing with us.

chitown · #37 09-02-2009, 03:37 PM

Ellebud you are such a great writer. I almost got a little teary eyed at the end of this, what a cute story! Congrats to your new little DG!

srmom · #38 09-02-2009, 03:38 PM

Great story! Congratulations to your daughter, I hope she has a great year!!

ComradesTrue · #39 09-02-2009, 03:44 PM

Congrats to your daughter!

Isn't that Julia Louis-Dreyfuss' chapter?

amycat412 · #40 09-02-2009, 04:00 PM

WOO HOO!!!!!!

Fleur de Lis · #41 09-02-2009, 04:22 PM

Great story! Congratulations to your daughter and Delta Gamma!

ellebud · #42 09-02-2009, 04:29 PM

I forgot to add this little bit of insider information: My older daughter and I made "bets" about where the Reluctant One would pledge if she were to stick it out. We made a top three and we were right. But when we got down to it, before she rushed we both thought: DG. I'm not going to say the rest of the order and what we thought would happen but we were right.

twinkle555 · #43 09-02-2009, 05:26 PM

hooray for DG!

amycat412 · #44 09-02-2009, 05:37 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Blondie93

Congrats to your daughter!

Isn't that Julia Louis-Dreyfuss' chapter?

No JLD went to Northwestern

Alpha Nu is Kyra Phillips and Anita Vogel's chapter tho.

Westcoastgal · #45 09-02-2009, 05:58 PM

What a great story, Ellebud. So happy for your daughter! I believe the new Miss California is a member of the DG chapter at USC as well...