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05-15-2008, 02:56 PM
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Too bad there is a firewall here at work...
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05-15-2008, 02:59 PM
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Too bad there is a firewall here at work...
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Too bad it doesn't include GC. 
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05-15-2008, 03:10 PM
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Too bad it doesn't include GC. |
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05-15-2008, 03:25 PM
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So for you young ladies (under 40), you may want to consider freezing your eggs if you EVER FATHOM that you might want to have a child in 10-15 years...
When I was in my late 20's nothing like this existed... ONLY embryo freezing and since I was not attached, I did not want some goofy man infecting my eggs... 
Anyhow, I do find it sad that so many folks force values on married couples. That is just added pressure.
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05-15-2008, 03:40 PM
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"values" is a made up concept anyway, designed to scare people into voting for (insert random lies)
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05-15-2008, 03:47 PM
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I'm 33 and have no kids. When I'm asked why not, I just say because I'm not married (even if I have a bf at the time, I still say that because...well, I'm not married).
That shuts people up right away I have found.  But even if I was, my chances are slim of being able to biologically reproduce so even if I was married, that question is still rude as h*ll.
And quite simply, there are those that just don't want them, plain and simple.
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05-15-2008, 03:57 PM
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I'm in the same boat now.
My DH and I have been married for a year and a half. Even at my wedding reception, our best man (DH's brother) included a comment in his speach about my MIL wanting us to "get to the baby-making." Geez! Give us a minute! We are far from ready - financially and emotionally. We live in a co-op barely big enough for the two of us. I can't even take care of myself. How would I begin to guide a child through life? And I'm not ready for the sleepless nights!
And now my (bio) little sister is planning her nuptials for early next year. Therefore, as soon as that's over and done with, I'm given the go-ahead by my family to pop out kids. Thanks! Just about every woman at work has been pregnant/given birth in the past two years. So of course, they're all just foaming at the mouth...waiting...
They can keep waiting.
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05-15-2008, 05:14 PM
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I just can't tell you all how happy I am to read this thread...
It's a sensitive subject for me, and it's just really really nice to read that other people can't stand this question either. I swear that lately it has seemed as though everyone around me has completely forgotten their manners.
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05-15-2008, 06:46 PM
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**Groan**
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05-15-2008, 06:48 PM
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**Groan**
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You saw the other hand doing the "thong dance?"
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05-15-2008, 06:54 PM
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You saw the other hand doing the "thong dance?"
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I didn't need to see that before I ate...LOL
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05-15-2008, 07:11 PM
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I can relate
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Originally Posted by Blondie93
This is a question that should never, ever be asked. I mean ever.
There are so many couples (privately) dealing with fertility issues, miscarriages, or for personal reasons have chosen to not have children.
I have watched countless friends be brought to tears by idiots asking this question.
Seriously... do NOT ask it. Even if you mean well. It is rude.
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Originally Posted by BetteDavisEyes
Something else I hate is when people who have kids tell those who don't that they are so smart and/or lucky. A friend told me this when I was with another friend and she burst into tears b/c she has been trying for 5 years to get pregnant with no success.
The best thing to do IMO is to NOT ASK! It's no one's damn business.
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Yeah that! Of course most of the relatives that ask me this question were the ones who got knocked up as teens and have kids by different baby daddies 
Of course they asked me about kids RIGHT after I had a miscarriage 
Folks need to butt out and STFU
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05-15-2008, 07:45 PM
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Originally Posted by summer_gphib
People are always shocked when I tell them that we DON'T want children-- and that hubby has been *ahem* fixed!  We're in our mid-thirties and don't have that desire. If we do later-- great we'll adopt. But it's highly unlikely. It's not that I don't like kids, I love them, I just love my life as it is! |
WoW!!! This is exactly how my husband and I feel! I shock the hell out of anyone who asks when I'm going to have kids by saying "Never!" It is truly amazing how many people feel the need to council me "Who will take care of you when your old?", "It's different when it's your own kids!", "It's the best part of life.", "You'll regret it later.", "You'll change your mind...you'll see!" Where do people get off assuming that any of these statements are true or that it's there place to say them?
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05-15-2008, 07:50 PM
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[QUOTE=AOII Angel;1652321]WoW!!! It is truly amazing how many people feel the need to council me "Who will take care of you when your old?"QUOTE]
I like to remind them that having kids doesn't guarantee you someone to take care of you when your old-it just means you had some kids. Believe me, I saw lots of elderly patients at work whose kids didn't give a shit if they were in the ICU.
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05-15-2008, 07:53 PM
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Originally Posted by DaemonSeid
why do you have 2 kids and not married ot the daddy....?
WTF is wrong with you?
I don't know about you but I heard about these things called... 'condoms' and don't make what you can't take care of....you?
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Ha Ha!! I am not bold enough to say this to any of my unmarried friends with children, but I have asked some of my married friends this...Who needs 2 kids in the first year and a half of marriage? Were you on birth control? What possessed you to stop taking it? Normally that stops the question/answer session from them!!!
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Can I ask an honest question....?
Does the state of the world in which we are living in right now deter you from having children?
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DEFINITELY!!! I am very concerned with having enough money to raise the possible children the way I was raised (never worrying about money). The other big issue is the cost of college.
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