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Originally Posted by angelica_arin
I can't help but to wonder why some others haven't look into the possibilities of these other sororities that BetaRose posted, or at least didn't have too many threads about their experiences in those sororities. They really seem like a great alternative too. I mean, why would you want to join a sorority out of no where that most of the time (and I mean "most" not "all") they accept members based on some sort of connection with the group, and yet the potential AI has no connection with the group or whatsoever and just say they want to join?
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I wonder that myself, but I think sometimes it's a situation where a woman is dropped from XYZ (the biggest, prettiest and most popular house on campus) during undergraduate recruitment and starts getting excited when she hears about the existence of AI.... it's like her dreams can finally be realized and she can proudly sport the sweatshirt and bag of the sorority that never accepted her... and now she can be one of the "popular girls" from college
OR it's a situation where a woman was so totally awkward and socially inept during college that she got dropped from every single sorority after the open house rounds. After spending a few years wondering "What if...?", she stumbles across the existence of AI and is like "OH MY GOD!!! ANOTHER CHANCE!!!!" and starts aggressively pursuing every organization under the sun.
I think both of these circumstances account for the vast majority of these "out of the blue" PNAMs. I think you can agree that both of these situations are horrible reasons to pursue AI.
I personally think the *only* good reason to pursue AI is because a member(s) of one specific organization with whom you're close asks you to pursue AI. I can see someone doing that for their biological sister, or their mom, or their very best friend. I can also see a faculty advisor being recommended for AI by the undergraduate chapter with which she works. There are a few other scattered reasons that are also good, but most of these are complete anomalies (blueangel's 20 year pledge period is a good example of an exception).
I really, really wish that more women would look into community sororities and organizations. They seem like fantastic groups, and (correct me if I'm wrong) but they seem more geared towards adult women -- and I think many of these PNAMs would find everything they're looking for in a community sorority (friendship, sisterhood, ritual, philanthropy, etc). I think it would be silly for them to "lose business" and interest to the Alumnae Initiation programs of various organizations.