Is this too much interest too soon?

[kddani]

Originally Posted by Scandia

Sadly, I analyze everything since I am such a rational person.

Don't worry- I won't go out with him. Or even reply to his emails any longer.

Rational people don't analyze thing like you do- only you analyze things like this.

None of us are worrying.

I'm thinking you sort of like this - posting stuff like this to get intarweb attention.

[nittanyalum]

^^Co-sign (and lol).

I don't know what POF is in terms of "legitimate" online dating sites and I know it's a common thing these days, but Scandia, if you don't get more discerning and definitive in your immediate sizing up of people, you're a tragedy waiting to happen. IF you meet anyone from that site in person, fly VandalSquirrel out to do her shadowing; I would have serious concerns about your ability to handle yourself and pick up on danger signs from a possible kook.

[Munchkin03]

Originally Posted by kddani

I'm thinking you sort of like this - posting stuff like this to get intarweb attention.

I don't think it's getting intarweb attention per se--I think it's more of not having any experience with this sort of thing. I think about questions that I had when I started dating and, more than 10 years later, they make me laugh and I'm grateful for how far I've come.

Without a lot of experience with dating, or even having friends, you end up having these sorts of issues that people with more of a life don't even think about.

[EEKappa]

[QUOTE=Scandia;1754206]

He posted pics- he somewhat taller and a bit stronger than what I would prefer, but his coloring is fine. QUOTE]

I'm a little late to the party here, but I daresay that this sounds like shopping for a car instead of trying to connect with a real-live person.

One of the most vivacious, professionally successful and magnetic women I know went on Match.com on a whim just to increase her options of meeting a nice guy. She got a message from someone in a town about 30 miles away. "The only person I know from there is my ex-husband, and I don't ever want to go there!" was her first response. Then she looked at the guy's picture, and said "Is that a PONYTAIL?! Oh, no way." But, she returned his message, and after corresponding for a while she was touched by his warmth, his spirituality, and his kindness.

They've now been married for 5 blissful years now, and his teenage daughters have become the children that she was never able to have on her own.

Moral of the story: it's not about the packaging.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by EEKappa

I'm a little late to the party here, but I daresay that this sounds like shopping for a car instead of trying to connect with a real-live person.

I think that's internet dating in general.

[Kevin]

Originally Posted by Scandia

I am such a rational person.

LIES!

[Sister Havana]

Originally Posted by PrettyInPink777

Just because you aren't noticing any 'deal-breakers' doesn't mean that you have to go out with him and give him a chance. That logic appears to imply that he meets your lowest standards. I am a firm believer in intuition -- If you are feeling hesitant, keep it movin' ... You don't know this joker...and there are definitely 'plenty of fish' in the sea. Surely there is someone outstanding out there for you .... not just some one who just barely meets your standards.

Totally agreed. The pushier someone gets with me, especially right at the beginning, the less likely I am going to want to meet him. If I get a bad vibe from him - forget it.
I'm on Plentyoffish too and I have met several people from there - including my current boyfriend, who is awesome. I have been pretty good at weeding out the crazies before we get anywhere close to meeting. I do like to exchange messages/IM a few times at least before we meet. If someone pushes to meet right away - HUGE red flag.

[navane]

Wait...he's a paramedic who is tall and strong? Send him my way! Thanks!


.....Kelly

[PeppyGPhiB]

Originally Posted by navane

Wait...he's a paramedic who is tall and strong? Send him my way! Thanks!


.....Kelly

No kidding!