is it possible to stay friends w/ an ex?

[ThetaPrincess24]

I am friends with only one ex.....basically because we only dated for two weeks, didnt do anything sexual, no cheating, just mutually decided it wasnt working out for us as a couple. The vast majority of the rest of my ex's however...is a different story.........whether sex was a factor or not, they lied to me, cheated on me, or just were all around penises that not only dont deserve me as their woman, but dont deserve my friendship either (despite their many attempts), and I'm happier for it.

I think it may depend on the person like has been said previously and how things ended/went down in the relationship. Like it has also been said, if they were a jerk/bitch to you, cheated on you, lied to you etc.........why would you want someone like that as your friend or anything else?? That's just nutty.

[AGDGirl]

Is it possible to stay friends with an ex? Hmm I think people try but I'm not sure it really can work. Me and Lee dated forever so not only was he my bf but my best friend. It hurt a million times worse losing him as a friend. We tried to be friends but it was just to weird I was still and love and so was he..! I know it sucks but I just dont think you can....

[CatStarESP4]

I tried to stay friends with my ex-boyfriend. It wasn't until I tried to call him about 9 years ago, that I had to deal with his current girlfriend. She hung up on me and he didn't call me to apologize (bastard!). I have not spoken to him since, but I did get a card for my 22nd birthday a few months later though! GRRRRRR!

[FiReKraCkEr]

From my previous experience with men:


NO! um, unless it's friends with benefits...lol

[Lil' Hannah]

I'm great friends with my ex from high school and beginning of college. We talk every day and hang out whenever he's home. We even went on vacation together last winter. I'm friends with 2 others, but not as close as I am with the HS ex.

[Eirene_DGP]

Originally posted by Mz Destiny
I am friends with many of my ex's. Some are married, and me & the wifeys are even cool. I'm even friends with my ex-husband! lol With all of them, we should have just stayed friends from the start! lol

Now see I think it is cool if everyone knows everyone and has significant others in the mix, but it's not cool if any partner involved still has feelings and their current SO knows nothing about the whole thing....

[AGDee]

My ex-husband and I are good friends. Most people are amazed that we get along as well as we do after the divorce. We will do some things with the kids together, like taking them to a baseball game, the circus, taking the kids to see Santa. It helps split the cost of major events and helps with the restroom issue (my son is almost 8.. too old to come into the women's room with me, and still young so I worry when I send him in the men's room alone at a huge public event). We have joint custody of the kids and have to communicate almost daily. He does still get on my nerves something awful if I have to spend too much time with him, but overall, we are friends. We care about each other and have a joint goal of making sure our kids are reasonably well adjusted. We help each other out in emergencies. I think it has helped our kids adjust to the divorce. I'm even still on his checking account so I can just transfer funds when the latch key bill is due. His dating others doesn't bother me a bit, as long as they are good to the kids. He almost got married again and I was happy for him, the kids like her, etc. In fact, I'll be glad if he marries again because he can be a really forgetful airhead and I'm hoping that his new wife would take on the responsibility of reminding him where he's supposed to be when!

At Christmas and Birthdays, we even pay for whatever the kids want to buy for each of us. I'm taking the kids Christmas shopping for him today.

If we didn't have kids though, we probably wouldn't have much contact.

Dee