Women!!!! - Page 3

chideltjen · #31 12-11-2003, 02:02 AM

it's always a Jen's fault...

anyhoo... this is what i don't understand. When a girl is obviously way into a guy that just isn't feeling it or just despises the girl, why do guys decide this is the time to spare their feelings instead of just being the assh*le they should be? I have a friend at work going thru a similar situation as you Craig. And I tell him to just be brutally honest and say "hey i don't like you, so leave me alone." but he doesn't want to be a dickhead. That frustrates me when a guy just can't be up front with you.

Right now you are giving this neighbor chick an open door. (no pun intended.) you have tried being nice and explained that you have a gf but she isn't getting it. so... blow her off. she'll get over it. life will go on and you would have saved your relationship with your gf and your neighbor can just be, well, your neighbor.

Lady Pi Phi · #32 12-11-2003, 09:02 AM

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Originally posted by chideltjen
it's always a Jen's fault...

anyhoo... this is what i don't understand. When a girl is obviously way into a guy that just isn't feeling it or just despises the girl, why do guys decide this is the time to spare their feelings instead of just being the assh*le they should be? I have a friend at work going thru a similar situation as you Craig. And I tell him to just be brutally honest and say "hey i don't like you, so leave me alone." but he doesn't want to be a dickhead. That frustrates me when a guy just can't be up front with you.

Right now you are giving this neighbor chick an open door. (no pun intended.) you have tried being nice and explained that you have a gf but she isn't getting it. so... blow her off. she'll get over it. life will go on and you would have saved your relationship with your gf and your neighbor can just be, well, your neighbor.

But it seems to me that Cash likes her...just a little.
He said in early posts that they have so many things in common.

I think the issue here is the girl. She knows he has a girlfriend and she still doesn't care. Like others have said, it's the thrill of the chase, the fact that he has a girlfriend makes her want him more.
My feeling about this girl is she's going to do everything to get him to cheat, but once he has, she'll dump him like a ton of bricks.

Cash, she's nothing but trouble. You may think she's a cool girl, but she's after one thing. You said yourself you don't want to shoot yourself in the foot.
But one day, you're girlfriend will be over and the chickie next door will come by with a plate of cookies and I'm think your girlfriend will be less than thrilled and that's when the gun goes off.

The way I see it is if you really care for your girlfriend you'll back off because neighbour girl certainly won't.

SmartBlondeGPhB · #33 12-11-2003, 11:05 AM

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Originally posted by chideltjen
And I tell him to just be brutally honest and say "hey i don't like you, so leave me alone." but he doesn't want to be a dickhead. That frustrates me when a guy just can't be up front with you.

Oh this is SO the case with men............

I would so rather know so I could us the energy on other things.

cashmoney · #34 12-11-2003, 05:55 PM

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Originally posted by Lady Pi Phi
But it seems to me that Cash likes her...just a little.
He said in early posts that they have so many things in common.

I think the issue here is the girl. She knows he has a girlfriend and she still doesn't care. Like others have said, it's the thrill of the chase, the fact that he has a girlfriend makes her want him more.
My feeling about this girl is she's going to do everything to get him to cheat, but once he has, she'll dump him like a ton of bricks.

Cash, she's nothing but trouble. You may think she's a cool girl, but she's after one thing. You said yourself you don't want to shoot yourself in the foot.
But one day, you're girlfriend will be over and the chickie next door will come by with a plate of cookies and I'm think your girlfriend will be less than thrilled and that's when the gun goes off.

The way I see it is if you really care for your girlfriend you'll back off because neighbour girl certainly won't.

Oh believe me, my GF definitely has guns that'll go off. She can have one hell of an attitude, and she's not stupid.

I don't know if I like the girl just a little....I dont know how to categorize it. She just moved here and doesnt know anyone other than people from the firm she works at. I know what it was like for me when I first moved here and didnt know anyone.....it sucked. That said, I try to give her the benefit of the doubt and I tell myself she's just wanting to make friends. But then I do realize that guys and girls cant be true friends because of the sex issue if there's already an attraction. I guess I'm stuck feeling like a bad person either way. If I befriend her, I'll feel like I'm doing something wrong behind my GFs back. If I ignore her, it makes me look like a d*ck. It just gets really hard sometimes with her living right next to me. In one sense I really would like to bang her, I wouldn't mind popping it and dropping it. And I think she knows it. One night we were sitting on my balcony and drinking some wine.....just getting to know each other since we're neighbors. After a few glasses of wine we end up talking about sex and our fantasies......I don't know how it got to that. She started telling me about what she likes to do and have done to her.....my penis started getting hard. At that point it was like everything was going in slow motion and I felt like i had one of those instances where you knnow whats going to happen in the next couple of mins because you feel like you've been thorugh it already in the past....so I told her I needed to go to bed. But its stuff like that that makes it really hard for me not to bang her. I just keep telling myself that one chick who would give me random incredible sex about 1 or 2 times a week isnt worth loosing Lady Cashmoney over. And yes, girls can tell when you've cheated. A guy never acts the same in bed after he's cheated on his GF....usually a girl can't reckonize it. And if the girl does reckonize it, usually the guy rids all her fears by saying he just doesnt feel good or something a long those lines. My girl is smart, she'll know if I do anything. I thought she was going to knock the schit out of me when she smelt Plumeria shower gel on me from BBW, at that time she didnt know thats what I wash with.

Quick question....what should I do if my GF comes over for the W/E and if we're walking back to my apt they see each other. I have a feeling that she'd be pissed that I didnt tell her what kind of neighbors I have. I know the neighbor chick would say hey to me when she sees me with Lady Cashmoney. We all know how GFs get when another female says hey to their BF while walking with him.....they get really pissy and start thinking stupid things. How can i prevent something like that from happening?

Lady Pi Phi · #35 12-11-2003, 07:00 PM

Yeah...ummm...okay, this girl is not trying to make friends, she's trying to make phuck buddies.
This girl wants in your pants.
If you don't want things to go any further, maybe you have to be a bit of a dick. Don't let her bring you baked goods, don't have her over for drinks. If she truely wanted to be your friend she'd see that she has put you in an awkward spot and will back off. I don't foresee that happening.
If you're walking with your girlfriend and she says Hi, don't say anything back. Your neighbour is probably doing it because she knows she can get a rise out of your girlfriend.

AOIIBrandi · #36 12-11-2003, 08:27 PM

Listen to everyone else, run far, very far from this girl.

That being said, you have to tell your GF about your neighbor. If she does say hi when your with your GF at least you have told her, best to leave out the part where you'd like to bang her though. So when Lady Cashmoney says "who's that?" you can say "That's Jennifer, you remember my new neighbor I told you about". This definitely would have saved Mr. AOIIBrandi from a few arguments back in the day

James · #37 12-11-2003, 09:31 PM

Well if you want to be friends with the girl . .. just keep chatting with her, hang out, just don't sleep with her.

Easy enough.

winnieb · #38 12-12-2003, 12:17 AM

Cash, Isn't the neighbor too short for your taste?

http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...ht=short+girls

Seriously, make it clear to the neighbor that you have a girlfriend, and you don't want to hurt her. If the neighbor can't respect that then she probably isn't worth having around.
If you are truly commited to the relationship with your girlfriend, then do what you need to do to protect the relationship.

Good Luck!!!
-wendi

James · #39 12-12-2003, 12:31 AM

Oh screw it. Just bang her lol . . you know you want to.

cashmoney · #40 12-12-2003, 02:28 PM

Update on the bimbo:

I figured as soon as I woke up I'd post what happened last night. I went out for dinner and major drinks with 3 of my boys last night. I think I killed about a whole bottle of Petron Tequila (the kind you can drink like water). My head hurts and my nose is killing me. I feel like I got hit by a train. Last night when we came back to my place around 3:00am...we had an after party with some people. I guess the neighbor heard us and she came over. She was very nice and came over to chill. I, being the person I am, was jacked up and amped like all hell. I had my boys around me and we were all phucked up. I figured this would be the time to look like a pimp to my crew as if I dont sweat even the really hot chicks. I went off on her, bad! I started calling her all kinds of stuff. I told her she needed to take that stank azz whoop pu$$y of hers and go fugging douche, cause I could smell that dirty schit from standing where I was. All my friends started laughing at her and she got really mad. I don't remember everything I said to her, but I really went off on her. She called me a dick and said I was the rudest piece of schit she's ever met. She sounded like she was about to start crying. I think she was in shock that someone could actually say the things to her that I said. I'm just glad I was as fugged up as I was. I couldn't have done it if I was sober.

After last night I just hope she doesnt key my car or do something to it. I said some really mean things to her, stuff that'll make a girl snap in the head if she already likes you.

Worried and hungover,

-Cashmoney

Lady Pi Phi · #41 12-12-2003, 02:51 PM

Well it's probably safe to say she won't be around you anymore...

cashmoney · #42 12-12-2003, 02:53 PM

Yea, I'd say I burnt that bridge pretty good last night.

I just hope she's not one of those chicks who takes comments like that and keeps coming back for more.

Lady Pi Phi · #43 12-12-2003, 03:02 PM

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Originally posted by cashmoney
...I just hope she's not one of those chicks who takes comments like that and keeps coming back for more.

hahaha, I was think the same thing.

absolutuscchick · #44 12-12-2003, 05:00 PM

good job cash!!! hopefully that solved the problem!!!

rainbowbrightCS · #45 12-12-2003, 05:26 PM

I was getting scared when you said you were wasted while she was there. I am glad your story ended as it should and not as I was afraid it would. Good Job there.