The "I'm Not A Delta, but I want to introduce myself to the Deltas" Thread

[dzdst796]

Just a question why do young women feel the need to express their interest in Delta on this board? I know that I might be being silly, but I remember that when I was in school ( back in the day) I was always told that we should be careful who we express our interest to. I was even told that I should keep it to myself and just show my interest by attending their events. I guess I am just wondering for the young ladies that are attempting to become members through a graduate chapter were ever schooled on being discreet about their interest.

Just a question not trying to hurt anyone's feelings.

[RhoPsiDST]

hello ladies...

just dropping in

[dzdst796]

Originally Posted by 3strikes

Hello eveyone,

My name is 3strikes and I look forward to meeting everyone at GC.In response to dzdst796, discretion is the key. But I have learned that this can backfire, (hence the name :-) )When I was in undergrad I had three other friends and we all wanted to members in Delta.

In the end two of my friends got in, me and my other friend did not. (one of my friends is still active and the other one in inactive currently) XYZ chapter at XYZschool 200-300 girls would be at rush and XYZ chapter keep their lines small, (less than 10)since they do intake every year. When asked I was told that "it do not seem like I wanted it" which was far from the truth. I was told that I should be discreet and thought that I was doing that by attending XYZ chapter events, and getting to know its members, and becoming a leader on campus.

I am not one to go around and put all my business out there.This is something I want to do and it has been in my heart for the past 5 years. I am not originally from NY and have been here a little more than a year for grad school, so there are no hurt feelings here.

I understand the concept of discretion, but also you have to be woman enough to stand in confidence in your decision and being able to make your intentions clear of why you should want to apart of a sorority.When being interviewed as a prospective member you have to understand that if you are not confident in your beliefs of becoming a member, or no one else will be including the current members.I know enough to understand that this is one way for non greeks to talk freely about some questions or concerns that they might have, or talking with those members of a chapter you have interest in.

I do my research.Online and offline. So when someone shows interest in your sorority, discretion is important but confidence is everything.

I hear you.

I will just say this be careful not to confuse confidence with arrogance.

Good Luck in your quest.

[kiml122]

Welcome you newbies to the blvd!!!!

[Kamryn]

A warm summer day WeLcOmE, (in the middle of a very cold winter...), to all newbies!!! (((hugz)))


@ Dzdst796: Good question and good point.
This: “I will just say this be careful not to confuse confidence with arrogance.”
… is very critical.

@ 3strikes: I like your screen name. Girl, I agree with you wholeheartedly!

Originally Posted by 3strikes

I understand the concept of discretion, but also you have to be woman enough to stand in confidence in your decision and being able to make your intentions clear of why you should want to apart of a sorority.When being interviewed as a prospective member you have to understand that if you are not confident in your beliefs of becoming a member, or no one else will be including the current members.I know enough to understand that this is one way for non greeks to talk freely about some questions or concerns that they might have, or talking with those members of a chapter you have interest in.

I do my research.Online and offline. So when someone shows interest in your sorority, discretion is important but confidence is everything.

In response to:

Originally Posted by dzdst796

Just a question why do young women feel the need to express their interest in Delta on this board? I know that I might be being silly, but I remember that when I was in school ( back in the day) I was always told that we should be careful who we express our interest to. I was even told that I should keep it to myself and just show my interest by attending their events. I guess I am just wondering for the young ladies that are attempting to become members through a graduate chapter were ever schooled on being discreet about their interest.

Just a question not trying to hurt anyone's feelings.

I believe that since people don’t fully disclose their identity, they feel “safer” talking about any and everything, thinking that they’re still being discreet, not realizing that there are ways that your identity may be revealed if you’re not careful enough. Although, there are some who are exceptions to the rule, because they may be a little naïve and just don’t know better , until they’re taught better. (I'll admit I use to be naïve at one point, just not on GC. I learned better before discovering GC.) Then there are some who just don’t care (Don’t know what to say about them, I can’t identify).

Initially, it was my intention but when I but after an extended vacation in Lurkville, I guess my focus changed and I realized that I love reading random spurts and opened letters, LOL! They pick me up after a long day. There are some really crazy and cool people on GC, greeks and non-greeks! Personally, I guess I just chose not to chat about anything Greek, although this is GREEKchat. I just like being in the company of people who are educated and care about the same things I do, and share some of the same interests. I will admit that there were times that I wanted to share exciting and/or disappointing news, or just get a better understanding, advice, and guidance with some experiences that I had to grow through, etc. etc… But in the end, for what ever reason, I guess I just chose not to.

[3strikes]

Nevermind, just nevermind...for a while I was just an observer and now I know that it should just stay this way...

[ladygreek]

Ona college campus you show your interest by attending events--service as well as social--you don't have to verbalize it. But on the alumnae level unless you tell someone of your interest how are they to know? Most alumnae chapters do not have open service events they don't need to, because they enough members to make an impact. And just because someone comes to a social event doesn't mean they are interested--they may have just wanted to have a nice evening.

Discretion is fine, but don't take it to the extreme.

Lastly, and most important, being a sisterfriend here on GC does not automatically translate to a prospect, nor is the intent to identify anyone as such. It is someone who is not a Delta but enjoys the discussion in this forum. As I see it someone could be a sisterfriend on all of the D4 boards. For example on the other NPHC sorority boards I am a sistergreek. If I were not greek, I would be a sisterfriend.

[CrimsonTide4]

Originally Posted by ladygreek

Lastly, and most important, being a sisterfriend here on GC does not automatically translate to a prospect, nor is the intent to identify anyone as such. It is someone who is not a Delta but enjoys the discussion in this forum. As I see it someone could be a sisterfriend on all of the D4 boards. For example on the other NPHC sorority boards I am a sistergreek. If I were not greek, I would be a sisterfriend.

I agree. I first heard the term sisterfriend outside of GC, outside of Greek Life in its truest sense of the word. I have friends and I have sisterfriends type of deal.

@3strikes, I see you deleted your posts in this thread. I've been reading them as they have been posted along with Kamryn's post, but just not had the words to yet express myself.

We like having sisterfriends on GC! I've seen many women come on GC like "OOOOOOOOOOOOO WEEEEEE Imma be a Delta! Delta is the only way for me! etc etc" and some of them got SHUT DOWN on GC publicly. Some of them come with indiscreet usernames, i.e. IWillBeDSTin2004, LOL.

On GC, we are not going to give you the keys to the kingdom. In this sense, those keys are membership into DST. We don't know you well enough to do that. We are not discouraging you from posting on GC, pursuing membership, and the pursuit of happyness. We just ask you to be cautious in expressing your Delta desire.

I encourage you to stay on GC as a poster. If you have not done so already, read old threads that pertain to membership. Not just in DST, but in all of the D9. You'll gain an appreciation as a prospective. Just as you prepared for graduate school, so must you prepare for membership into a D9 organization.

Posting on GC, primarily in the D9 forums, means we really do not talk about membership intake, preparing for membership intake, etc. Looking at the first page, you see television shows, games, current events, etc.

We have fun on GC but we also discuss the issues.

Belated welcome to you and anyone else who joins GC.

[dzdst796]

Originally Posted by 3strikes

Nevermind, just nevermind...for a while I was just an observer and now I know that it should just stay this way...

It was not my intent to discourage you or anyone else who is interested in membership in any of the D9 organizations from posting on GC. It was just an observation that I was making.

Here's a suggestion just read people's comments and take from them information that you think is relevant and with the rest "Put It Where, Back There."

[3strikes]

Yes, I did delete my quotes because I did not want people to jumping down my throat for the views that I expressed on here. When I signed up for GC I thought that this was a place where everyone could express their views freely.I underestimated how many people would go off the handle because of somethings that I have said. Again I don't have a probem defending anything that I have said or done. I guess that someone has to be the target, so pm me with your issues. I think that of the views I am expressing hit a little to close to home for some folks on here...

I also recoginize this is a place for women to talk about any kind of issues greek or non-greek. But I think it is a little bit too far fetched if you expect people to come on here and not discuss what the name of this website is "Greek Chat". Maybe I am the minority in this...

[Mercedes_Girl]

Greetings ladies,

I too am new here and would like to say hello and Happy New Year to everyone as I browse the forums.

[CrimsonTide4]

Originally Posted by 3strikes

Yes, I did delete my quotes because I did not want people to jumping down my throat for the views that I expressed on here. When I signed up for GC I thought that this was a place where everyone could express their views freely.I underestimated how many people would go off the handle because of somethings that I have said. Again I don't have a probem defending anything that I have said or done. I guess that someone has to be the target, so pm me with your issues. I think that of the views I am expressing hit a little to close to home for some folks on here...

I also recoginize this is a place for women to talk about any kind of issues greek or non-greek. But I think it is a little bit too far fetched if you expect people to come on here and not discuss what the name of this website is "Greek Chat". Maybe I am the minority in this...

Intriguing. **shrug**

Originally Posted by Mercedes_Girl

Greetings ladies,

I too am new here and would like to say hello and Happy New Year to everyone as I browse the forums.

Welcome, Mercedes Girl! Enjoy your stay.

[Tbaby718]

Hello friend and Welcome

[CrimsonTide4]

Originally Posted by Tbaby718

Hello friend and Welcome

This thread is for non members of Delta Sigma Theta. How did you find this thread but not the one at the top with SORORS in the title.


ETA: Never mind I already know

[LaidBack]

Hello everyone and a Happy New Year to all of you. I really am laid back and live in Atlanta. I've been browsing on GreekChat for quite a while now and finally decided to join. I am looking forward to great times.