University of Mississippi - Ole Miss Panhellenic Sorority Recruitment 2013 - Page 21

pnm13 · #**301** 08-01-2013, 07:34 PM

Just thought I would share a screenshot from the page. Apparently Ole Miss actives are supporting it. Could all be fake, but I wouldn't know!

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pnm13 · #**302** 08-01-2013, 07:37 PM

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KSUViolet06 · #**303** 08-01-2013, 07:38 PM

Connections definitely help you, but as far as every single chapter having every single spot decided, no.

I would suggest reading this for more perspective about the "connections" factor:

http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...d.php?t=135221

It's possible to get a bid somewhere without knowing people, but it is definitely helpful especially with so many PNMs in recruitment. I wouldn't lie and say that knowing people is not an advantage.

Missouri Ivy · #**304** 08-01-2013, 09:08 PM

1. You do not know who those people are. For all you know, a bitter 50 year old who was dropped by her legacy chapter in 1980 could have posted that.
2. Do they know some girls that would be great additions to their chapter? Sure they do. When I was in school, I had girls from my high school that I knew would be fabulous. Some of them pledged us. Some went elsewhere. Some dropped out when they didn't like their invites.
3. Are there girls they know they don't want. Sure. No one is just clamoring to give a bid to a girl who is almost guaranteed to be a risk management issue.

Now, having opinions is a long way from having a bid list made. Very few people actually see the bid list. So while a group may say, "Wow. We need to get Suzie Super," if she's that awesome, everyone else is going to want her too. If a girl is so poorly behaved in public, even your so-called "bottom tier" chapters, as that site calls them, are not going to afford that girl the honor of their letters.

Bottom line: That site is vile and any information gathered from it should be taken with a grain of salt.

thetalady · #**305** 08-01-2013, 09:12 PM

My only correction to the perfection that Missouri Ivy has posted is this.... make it a BUCKET of salt.

MaryPoppins · #**306** 08-01-2013, 09:21 PM

From the Ole Miss Thread (Last Year)

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Originally Posted by MaryPoppins

Some of the girls who have already narrowed their options will be all right, just about 200 - 350 of them. Those PNMs already know a bunch of people in those houses and have been to camp and cotillion with those girls. They will make their debuts at the same debutante societies, and are likely legacies multiple times over. Those favored few chapters will not be likely to ever participate in COB or Spring Informal recruitment as they push their fourth and fifth year members out the door to make room for the next class. Those same favored chapters are very reluctant to take sophomores, so dropping out and re-rushing next year is unlikely to make a difference for a choosy PNM.

The rest of the PNMs need to keep an open mind if they want the Greek experience. Everyday, when the PNM gets her invitations back, the chapters that invited her are the ONLY ones on that campus for that PNM. A chapter has indicated an interest in getting to know that PNM better, and she should be very grateful. Sadly not everyone can be an Ole Miss Greek, but keeping an open mind makes it a possibility. Every PNM class is nearly big enough at Ole Miss to change the entire personality of a chapter. So, if you don't like what you see now, stick around and "Be The Change You Want To See."

Best Wishes and Good Luck To All the Ole Miss PNMs!

pnm13 · #**307** 08-01-2013, 09:33 PM

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Originally Posted by Missouri Ivy

Bottom line: That site is vile and any information gathered from it should be taken with a grain of salt.

Oh I could not agree more. I try to stay away from that site, but sometimes I cave and look at it anyways. I much prefer this site with ladies from all over the country with wonderful insights and advice!

That being said, I just thought I'd ask to see what you all may have to say. Thanks for the input!!

greekdee · #**308** 08-01-2013, 10:14 PM

That site (we don't even like to mention it's name here) is horrible. Every year, I have to do some kind of damage clean-up because of something a PNM or mom read over there. One year, a girl I did a rec for almost turned down a bid from a chapter because of what she read there, and her mom was supporting her in doing so...they were so freaked out. Thankfully, she pledged and is so glad so did, but I'll bet some others have turned down bids to great chapters based on the hate and lies generated there. I also know someone whose daughter's name was posted and trashed. Someone here posted a few weeks ago that it's happening again to other PNMs and is quite bad.

CaseyBat · #**309** 08-01-2013, 11:26 PM

I stumbled across that site and I wish I never did. It's very interesting how it and GC are such polar opposites. Maybe it's because GreekChat is largely from the alumni perspective?

pnm13 · #**310** 08-01-2013, 11:37 PM

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Originally Posted by CaseyBat

I stumbled across that site and I wish I never did. It's very interesting how it and GC are such polar opposites. Maybe it's because GreekChat is largely from the alumni perspective?

I agree about wishing you never stumbled across it! The people on that site are ruthless, and apparently, more likely than not, very misinformed.

I also think you are right about how GreekChat is. It's so much better and more professional.

MaryPoppins · #**311** 08-02-2013, 08:51 AM

The gossip site has some very bitter and even aggressively ignorant or mean people posting things that are often untrue. Some of them are driven by allegiances that are worse than the Saints-Falcons rivalry. Everyone posting on that God-less place has an agenda and it is most often not driven by a Panhellenic attitude or goal. In fact, I believe it is more often driven by the things that non-Greeks would say are the proof which means there should not be a Greek Letter Organizations anymore.

On the other hand, GreekChat members care very deeply about the Fraternity/Sorority System, and want to keep the focus on the honorable goals and purposes, so as to make the System worthy of preservation. In spite of our allegiances we have an extremely vested interest in accurate information being available and in the health of the System. If we, the Greek Community, become something to be despised, then how long before the GLOs will disappear? We are only as good as the last good thing we did and the last bad thing we avoided out of care and wisdom. True for people, and true for the organizations to which we belong. And as trite as the saying has become, "We are always wearing our letters" (even when posting anonymously.)

Be the change you want to see.

AZTheta · #**312** 08-02-2013, 09:20 AM

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Originally Posted by CaseyBat

I stumbled across that site and I wish I never did. It's very interesting how it and GC are such polar opposites. Maybe it's because GreekChat is largely from the alumni perspective?

no no no no no. You are assuming facts not in evidence. The GC members who are currently actives in college generally take a low profile approach (with the exception of a fraternity member who loves to comment on sorority threads, and what is with that anyway?

). There are a lot of active commenters who are currently in college/university.

That site panders to the worst in people. If it was printed on paper, it'd be used for housebreaking puppies. Or wrapping fish.

HQWest · #**313** 08-02-2013, 09:43 AM

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Originally Posted by AZTheta

no no no no no. You are assuming facts not in evidence. The GC members who are currently actives in college generally take a low profile approach (with the exception of a fraternity member who loves to comment on sorority threads, and what is with that anyway?

). There are a lot of active commenters who are currently in college/university.

That site panders to the worst in people. If it was printed on paper, it'd be used for housebreaking puppies. Or wrapping fish.

What really bugs me are the folks that either tehash gossip from 5 years ago or are just playing making $*** up. Did you notice they now have a feature where you have to pay to report something and have them take it down? Unbelievable

IF everyone from a large CPC wrote one "Good luck with Rush" to one friend In Another NPC group - the rankings, and reading through them to find dirt -would be meaningless in about an hour

Hearttoheart · #**314** 08-02-2013, 11:12 AM

Are backless cocktail dresses appropriate for pref parties at Ole Miss? How modest do the dresses need to be? The dress in question is evening wedding appropriate.

OleMissGlitter · #**315** 08-02-2013, 11:16 AM

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Originally Posted by Hearttoheart

Are backless cocktail dresses appropriate for pref parties at Ole Miss? How modest do the dresses need to be? The dress in question is evening wedding appropriate.

That should be fine...just make sure it fits properly and you wear proper garments underneath (like spanx). I wouldn't wear something where your "goods" are going to hang out either. Sorority recruitment dresses should be classy..no need to be sexy if you catch my drift!