more disaffiliations! how do we keep our sisters?

[PhiSigMeg01]

Yeah we are allowed to have someone we are already friends with. I understand the point about wanting to extend the sisterhood bonds. But like I said, even if she wasn't my sapphire sister we would still be best friends. I went through our process with an open mind (if only somewhat biased! ). I don't think though that having my best friend as my sapphire sister as prevented me from developing bonds with our other new members.

Originally posted by phisigduchesscv


Question, you're allowed to have someone who is already a friend as your Sapphire Sister? During our colonizing period we were told that we we shouldn't have as our Sapphire Sisters someone who is already you're friend.

[phisigsigchic]

Yea just to clear things up, my sapphire and I don't ONLY hang with each other. I mean obviously everyone knew that we wanted to choose each other and there were more girls wanting to be sapphires than there were new members. it all worked out though because these other two girls wanted the other two new members and then megan (phisigmeg01) and I were left. Still, we hang with all the other sisters. and not always together. i understand that you want to be unbiased and stuff but I think if you really want to be sapphire sisters, you should be able to choose each other no matter what. Plus it avoids people winding up NOT liking each other which has happened a lot with our sapphire sisters. I think friends being sapphires is awesome because its another bond you can share together. Plus, shes the reason I joined! (well at least one of them). Most of the reasons why people join our chapter is through friends. We don't usually get a lot of people through rush. I guess at other chapters, especially big ones, it works to have that rule but at ours it really doesn't. Plus, as far as I am concerned, none of the other sisters have minded. In fact, most of them think its totally cute!

[MooseGirl]

I think personally that even if you do not have a super-close connection to your sapphire sister... that doesn't prevent you from having deep connections and friendships with other sisters.

I agree with this. I'm not that close with my sis. we have hung out together in the past, but usually just when other sisters are around too.
I've had 3 littles. I tried reaching out to all of them. (we choose sapphires just by the actives talking with the MOC) I usually ended up getting the NM noone else wanted . That sounds bad, but it's true. I'm bad luck. 2 of them went alum and 1 disaffiliated after 1 semester . It sucks that my family tree is now dead since we are the only ones who can trace our family back to our chapter founder.

I am now really close to 1 sister who was initiated with me and stayed in PHI Sig (there was a third but she went alum after the first yr) and also with a newer sister who will be Archon this year. The two(archon and I) of us are sometimes inseparable. we talk on the phone everyday, she'll even call me at 3am if she feels like it(she works late).
The strangest thing is we are practically opposites...if we were not brought together by Phi Sig we would not be friends since she is not typically the type i'm drawn too. But it's great knowing her and she does broaden my perspective.
and in a month I'll be leaving i hate making friends then having to move.

I know this post is long enuf, but I just had to mention how awesome it was. I went to a sisters wedding June 22, There were 11 phi sigs present(including bride and 2 bridesmaids) which is great since there are so few actives. Out of the 11, 7 were/are archons!! It was awesome. BTW at weddings we sing Liebestraum to the bride. She requested it, but we were gonna sing it anyway. very lovely

[phisigsigchic]

Oh wow that whole Phi Sig wedding sounds so nice. We should totally sing Liebestraum to Jen at her wedding Meg (phisigmeg01). I know she asked you to sing another song as well, but all the phi sigs she invites (and I BETTER be invited) could sing Liebestraum to her. Think about it, she would LOVE it. Anyway, you guys have to sing it at MY wedding (whenever that will be, not for a looooong while ) BTW, when is Jen's wedding going to be? not for like another year right?

[phisig4eva]

i know this is completely unrelated to disaffiliations, but on the subject of weddings -- do any of you know when we're supposed to sing the sweetheart song? i'm always confused about what songs we should use when - it's sad how many traditions get lost over the years

and does anyone know any other fun phi sig wedding traditions?

[jess_pom]

I've read on other Phi Sig websites that alum have sang the Sweetheart song at the reception, gathered around the new bride and groom. I don't know of any other "official" wedding traditions.

I do remember talking to one of my sister one day about "A Baby Story", I guess one of the mothers was in a sorority, and at her baby shower, they did a candlepass. I didn't see it and it was awhile ago, but I thought it was a really cute idea!

Originally posted by phisig4eva
and does anyone know any other fun phi sig wedding traditions?

YES, Please PM me with that info. I'd love bring some back to my chapter.
-KC