Question about Recs

[TotalNewbe]

Again I want to say thank you to everyone that responded to this question. I had searched but didn't find much that seemed to explain to the know-nothing (me!) and since I posted this question I've learned the best answer might be, "It depends".

To update, in case anyone would like to hear, she obtained recs to four houses from six women, including my cousin. My cousin wrote me an email telling me she was thrilled to write a rec so my worrying was for naught. In fact everyone who wrote a rec was so happy to do it for her. Afterwards they all conveyed to me how much they loved Greek life and hoped my daughter could experience the same happiness they found in college.

It was really sweet and I can say it touched my heart and it was great to speak with so many people that had nice things to say about my daughter. It's not just me that thinks so much of her!
She is in the midst of her rush experience and so far, she is really enjoying it. She remains happy and optimistic.

Thank you again ladies of GreekChat, your advice was truly helpful.

[gee_ess]

Thanks for updating us. Please let us know how things work out for your daughter!

[TotalNewbe]

I hope to post a successful ending to this rush experience when she's done gee ess! As I said, so far she is really enjoying the experience. Meeting the girls, oops, women (my baby is growing up!), seeing inside the beautiful homes, meeting and laughing with the other PNMs, even just touring around the greek neighborhood has been fun for her.

She has not one negative thing to relate about the experience, and how often can you say that?

But even if it all falls apart, I'll update the story (here or in the "Recruitment Stories" forum) when it's over.

[TotalNewbe]

Ladies (and gentlemen) of GreekChat, first I would like to thank all of you for your responses and help. As I said in my first post, I was in unknown territory as my daughter decided to rush. Your comments and pms were so helpful to both of us.

She has a friend at another school that received only one invite after the first round so my my daughter was aware how quickly the bottom can drop out from under you in this process but she put on her cute clothes, a big smile, and went out to meet, impress, and learn.
The first night of the first round it poured rain and she called me that night laughing, "Oh mom, everyone tried so hard to be cute, but no one was cute tonight!"

She had a strong rush experience receiving the maximum invites to each round. After preference night she got a call from her Rho Omega (that news scared me until I heard) to tell my daughter she had received a bid!

Yea!! She has pledged Alpha Delta Pi!

We have discussed throughtout the process and today again, the close bonds of sisterhood that can develop as a member of a sorority and she can see that already, feeling close and connected to these women. She is meeting new people and making friends and is on a high from it. She is looking forward to tonight where she has her first chapter meeting and I am happy to report that her rush experience was a big success!

As far as the recs went, she obtained recs for four houses. Two dropped her after the first night, one dropped her after the third round and one invited her to preference night. I'm not sure if they played any role in her success but it was great to be in touch with my cousin (we're emailing regularly now) and old friends.

Thank you GreekChat, your experience and advice were very, very helpful. Thank you again.

[ComradesTrue]

congrats to your daughter and ADPi! Glad that she had a great experience with recruitment.

And thanks to you for checking back in and updating us.

[agzg]

Congrats and thanks for the update! Sounds like she had fun and I'm glad she's happy with ADPi! It's awesome that you as a mom with no experience with greek life did the work behind finding out what was going on!

[AXOrushadvisor]

At our school with the new panhellenic recruiting cuts, and they are huge right off the bat, we don't look at recs like we used to. Can't afford to invite someone to a second party if there are other girls they like better. We do not do that with legacies, they are all extended an invite back.

[irishpipes]

Isn't that membership selection information?