hows this dress for preference day? - Page 2

TexasDarling · #1 08-07-2009, 02:04 AM

http://www.cache.com/cache/control/p...05011A70250820

what do yall think of this?

cbm · #2 08-07-2009, 12:28 PM

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Originally Posted by TexasDarling

http://www.cache.com/cache/control/p...05011A70250820

what do yall think of this?

I'm not a huge fan of the dress you posted, but yes wear black for UT!
Good luck!!!!

TexasDarling · #3 08-07-2009, 03:31 AM

Really? Everyone I have talked to at UT said to DEFINITELY wear black.

Kansas City · #4 08-07-2009, 04:53 AM

I guess you can wear whatever "Everyone at UT" says to wear but by wearing a plain black dress a PNM runs the risk of blending in with many chapters who will coordinate their members in black dresses. I'd stick with the more colorful examples given in this thread from last year.

LadyLonghorn · #5 08-07-2009, 08:48 AM

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Originally Posted by Kansas City

I guess you can wear whatever "Everyone at UT" says to wear but by wearing a plain black dress a PNM runs the risk of blending in with many chapters who will coordinate their members in black dresses. I'd stick with the more colorful examples given in this thread from last year.

Texas recruitment is not one you have participated in. Frankly, you have NO IDEA what you're talking about and should refrain from dispensing random advice to someone that could potentially have an adverse effect on her recruitment. Colorful dresses may fly at a variety of other schools, but UT isn't one of them. She has received sound advice from people who know about her school.

Texas Darling, I would be careful about posting a specific dress you might be wearing to Pref out her in public since you have been candid about what school you're attending. But yes, wear black for Pref!

perfectinpurple · #6 08-07-2009, 11:15 AM

Someone correct me if this would be a faux pas in texas, but if she's worried about blending in or being bland she could pair her black preference dress with some colorful shoes!

I wore my favorite pair of hot pink pumps with my pref dress, and looking back I think it gave the right balance of conservative with personality. Just trying to think of ways for her to stand out, while still following the social norms at her school.

33girl · #7 08-07-2009, 11:22 AM

Not feeling the little cut out thing on the shoulder - it might look different in person but it's a little too much here. (Doesn't help that they paired it with kinda whory shoes.)

I like this one, but not sure if it's appropriate - LL?

http://www.cache.com/cache/control/p...05011C35550045

Kansas City · #8 08-07-2009, 11:20 AM

Are we having a bad day LadyLonghorn?

I thought I was clear that she can wear whatever she wants. Perhaps I'm not as informed about UT having never participated in recruitment there but I believe the advice to be sound for a wide variety of PNMs across the country. Further, I doubt a PNM wearing a colored dress to a pref party would be a valid reason for them to not receive a bid ... but then again, I'm not a UT person.

LadyLonghorn · #9 08-07-2009, 06:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Kansas City

Are we having a bad day LadyLonghorn?

I thought I was clear that she can wear whatever she wants. Perhaps I'm not as informed about UT having never participated in recruitment there but I believe the advice to be sound for a wide variety of PNMs across the country. Further, I doubt a PNM wearing a colored dress to a pref party would be a valid reason for them to not receive a bid ... but then again, I'm not a UT person.

You may be having a bad day, but I certainly am not. So I guess you must be using the royal we to describe yourself.

This PNM was asking about Pref attire for a specific school. You have no experience with that school and gave her poor advice. As someone who is intimately familiar with recruitment at UT, it was my obligation to point out that your advice was not only irrelevant, but could do damage to someone's recruitment results. Yes, something like this can affect a PNM's recruitment results at a place like Texas.

Also, the Pahel web site mentions that Pref attire is cocktail dresses and specifically says they are "usually black." When a school with a recruitment like ours use a term like "usually" you can bet it means "should be."

Kansas City · #10 08-07-2009, 10:42 PM

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Originally Posted by LadyLonghorn

You may be having a bad day, but I certainly am not. So I guess you must be using the royal we to describe yourself.

This PNM was asking about Pref attire for a specific school. You have no experience with that school and gave her poor advice. As someone who is intimately familiar with recruitment at UT, it was my obligation to point out that your advice was not only irrelevant, but could do damage to someone's recruitment results. Yes, something like this can affect a PNM's recruitment results at a place like Texas.

Also, the Pahel web site mentions that Pref attire is cocktail dresses and specifically says they are "usually black." When a school with a recruitment like ours use a term like "usually" you can bet it means "should be."

Please calm down ... your defensiveness is entirely uncalled for. The original post (which I also responded to) was regarding a preference night dress for recruitment at an unnamed school a year ago. The hijack was for UT. This is not specifically a UT thread and I believe that it is important to aid other PNMs as well as those at UT. I have no problem with you being the UT expert. I could care less. What all PNMs should take away from this inane conversation between the two of us is that they need to research their campus culture and dress appropriately for their preference night. Apparently at UT that means a black dress but at the majority of other schools that I have personal experience with, black dresses tend to be a staple of the chapter that is hosting the preference night event and is better avoided so that the PNM stands out from the chapter membership. That is all that I am saying. If you want to take this further, please feel free to PM me to keep this petty argument off the board. Thanks!

LadyLonghorn · #11 08-07-2009, 11:20 PM

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Originally Posted by Kansas City

Please calm down ... your defensiveness is entirely uncalled for. The original post (which I also responded to) was regarding a preference night dress for recruitment at an unnamed school a year ago. The hijack was for UT. This is not specifically a UT thread and I believe that it is important to aid other PNMs as well as those at UT. I have no problem with you being the UT expert. I could care less. What all PNMs should take away from this inane conversation between the two of us is that they need to research their campus culture and dress appropriately for their preference night. Apparently at UT that means a black dress but at the majority of other schools that I have personal experience with, black dresses tend to be a staple of the chapter that is hosting the preference night event and is better avoided so that the PNM stands out from the chapter membership. That is all that I am saying. If you want to take this further, please feel free to PM me to keep this petty argument off the board. Thanks!

I am in no way defensive. The only person I am defending is the UT PNM to whom you gave very bad advice. This reply of yours was a direct response to her question about UT attire:

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Originally Posted by Kansas City

I guess you can wear whatever "Everyone at UT" says to wear but by wearing a plain black dress a PNM runs the risk of blending in with many chapters who will coordinate their members in black dresses. I'd stick with the more colorful examples given in this thread from last year.

It also came off as very condescending, just as your comments to me have. Saying I must be having a bad day (I'm not), telling me to calm down (in your view, factually correcting your erroneous advice apparently makes one a raging lunatic), and referring to my posts as inane and petty then ordering me to PM you rather than post are hardly responses that speak for your maturity. Perhaps you are projecting. I dunno. All I can say is I truly hope someone your age does not address the collegians you advise in the same manner.

Unicorn, gee_ess gave you the perfect answer to this one.