Is sex overrated? - Page 2

Ronnie B · #16 05-13-2008, 03:27 AM

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Originally Posted by cincy

wow. random question

You ain't gonna answer the question?

GRACED2BSGRHO · #17 05-13-2008, 11:12 AM

Thats real sad, to assume, because she is keeping herself, that she must be unattractive. Cincy you are not the only one, there are more women and men, who are waiting til marriage. As a minister, I counsel many on a regular basis. I commend you for doing this. It is honorable in the eyes of God. I agree that sex is overated, if its with the wrong person. Keep holding on, your time is coming.

Senusret I · #18 05-13-2008, 11:15 AM

Who is assuming?

GRACED2BSGRHO · #19 05-13-2008, 11:34 AM

Ronnie B made the assumption that Rhoyaltemptest friend was unattractive with his comment.

"Your girl must be tore up from the floor up, if nobody ain't tapped that yet. And she's over 30? Aw hell to the naw. She's got to be hit."

Senusret I · #20 05-13-2008, 11:35 AM

Oh...... I wasn't really taking that seriously.

DSTCHAOS · #21 05-13-2008, 12:15 PM

Sheryl Underwood gets mad play.

cincy · #22 05-13-2008, 01:03 PM

Ronnie-Nope. Why should I?

rhoyaltempest · #23 05-13-2008, 01:27 PM

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Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

Sheryl Underwood gets mad play.

yup and I don't think she's unattractive. To me, when you say someone is unattractive, you're saying that there is nothing attractive about them...not their smile, not their eyes, etc.

And let's not forget, "Beauty is in the eyes..." We all know the rest.

Oh and since when did being "unattractive" ever stop anyone from engaging in sexual activity? We all know it doesn't take much for some men. So that point is mute.

MissBoggzz · #24 05-13-2008, 01:32 PM

HmmMmm well Let's see here's a little bit about my life. I'm not a virgin, I was with my ex boyfriend for a while and we ended up having sex. Then shortly afterwards I was raped, and petrified of having sex, so i stopped having sex with my boyfriend and he broke up with me. Now I'm with someone who is a virgin and I am soooo happy because I know he's not pressuring me anytime soon until we both feel comfortable. In todays society there are so many young people wasting their lives on sexual activity. I know a 14 year old girl who's pregnant. I know a lot of people who are very promiscuous and who have several diseases. I'm glad that I'm not one of those people. If you want to wait for the right person and right time then go for it. If you want to be promiscuous and "have fun" just be safe lol. But in all honesty do what you want and don't let anyone pressure you to do something you don't want to do.

rhoyaltempest · #25 05-13-2008, 01:37 PM

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Originally Posted by MissBoggzz

HmmMmm well Let's see here's a little bit about my life. I'm not a virgin, I was with my ex boyfriend for a while and we ended up having sex. Then shortly afterwards I was raped, and petrified of having sex, so i stopped having sex with my boyfriend and he broke up with me. Now I'm with someone who is a virgin and I am soooo happy because I know he's not pressuring me anytime soon until we both feel comfortable. In todays society there are so many young people wasting their lives on sexual activity. I know a 14 year old girl who's pregnant. I know a lot of people who are very promiscuous and who have several diseases. I'm glad that I'm not one of those people. If you want to wait for the right person and right time then go for it. If you want to be promiscuous and "have fun" just be safe lol. But in all honesty do what you want and don't let anyone pressure you to do something you don't want to do.

I'm sorry that happened to you and I hope you're seeking counseling to deal with the issues you have now regarding sex after rape. It will never go away unless you deal with it.

MissBoggzz · #26 05-13-2008, 01:45 PM

I was seeking counseling for a while but i got completly fed up and frustrated when it seemed as though nothing was working. Now that I'm in college I have found an amazing group of friends whom I turn to. They have gotten me through a lot. Unfortunately I have learned that many of my sisters have been through similar issues and that makes it a lot easier to face knowing I have a strong group of ladies behind me.

AKA_Monet · #27 05-13-2008, 06:17 PM

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Originally Posted by MissBoggzz

I was seeking counseling for a while but i got completly fed up and frustrated when it seemed as though nothing was working. Now that I'm in college I have found an amazing group of friends whom I turn to. They have gotten me through a lot. Unfortunately I have learned that many of my sisters have been through similar issues and that makes it a lot easier to face knowing I have a strong group of ladies behind me.

What happens when your friends move forward with their lives and you are alone? What healing measures are you doing now to deal with those overwhelming thoughts?

Another questions: How come your boyfriend who I presume professed to care about you left after you after your horrific encounter when you decided less physical-sexual intimacy?

cincy · #28 05-13-2008, 07:31 PM

I have a friend who's parents were really strict and controlling of her. Unfortunately that led her to start being very permiscuous. She also got pregnant at 14 and her parents made her get an abortion. She now has HPV and who knows what else. She claims she has slowed down but I dont really see it. We are pretty good friends but sometimes I wonder if people assume that I am also permiscuous because we are good friends.

Anyways Im happy I dont have to deal with any of that. Things like getting an STD or pregnancy. I plan to have kids but not until after marriage of course.

AKA_Monet · #29 05-13-2008, 08:53 PM

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Originally Posted by cincy

I have a friend who's parents were really strict and controlling of her. Unfortunately that led her to start being very permiscuous. She also got pregnant at 14 and her parents made her get an abortion. She now has HPV and who knows what else. She claims she has slowed down but I dont really see it. We are pretty good friends but sometimes I wonder if people assume that I am also permiscuous because we are good friends.

Anyways Im happy I dont have to deal with any of that. Things like getting an STD or pregnancy. I plan to have kids but not until after marriage of course.

You need to go with your significant other and watch him get all the tests he needs, while you get them too...

Although we cannot see you and do not know you, who is to say that you are really telling us the truth? The proof is not to be fearful in taking STI or HIV tests...

Other people will ALWAYS judge you regardlessly. How do you judge yourself? Better yet, how does God judge you? You are sacrificing all these presumed "fun" for Him, so how does or does He actually judge you? Seriously, I am interested in knowing.

And how are you going to control births? Have you met with your OB/GYN?

MissBoggzz · #30 05-13-2008, 10:00 PM

I never told the guy who I was with at the time about my situation. I was scared that he would abandon me anyways. And after he left me for the reason of me "not putting out an longer" I'm a) glad I didn't tel him and b) glad he left me. As far as my friends I've been best friends with one person for 15 years I don't think her and I are going anyplace sepreate for a while and the guy I'm with now makes me feel completely safe and secure. I'm fully functioning and able to get through daily life it just makes it easier to know I'm not the only one out of my close group of friends and it's great to know that I'll have them to turn to. Even if it's just for now this for now can make my later a lot easier