Dating/effing within your circle of friends

[James]

Are you risk aversive?

Originally Posted by Animate

Won't do it. I "work best" if its a friend of a friend type of deal. Case in point my current lady and I were introduced to each other by my homeboy, who was dating her sister at the time. Matter of fact I have only dated one person that I met while out and about with no connections to anyone.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by christiangirl

Where are the "one woman" men?

All over the place.

A lot of women just don't want those kind of men now a days. They're outdated. It's these low down bad boy jokers who are the in thing. All they want is the nookie and not the woman.

[James]

In the defense of women that don't believe in the "one woman man" idea. I think there are a lot of men that are basically one woman men until they get one woman. . . . then they are willing to accept the attention of others . . or at least one other . . . who they will become a one woman man for . . . again.

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

All over the place.

A lot of women just don't want those kind of men now a days. They're outdated. It's these low down bad boy jokers who are the in thing. All they want is the nookie and not the woman.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by James

In the defense of women that don't believe in the "one woman man" idea. I think there are a lot of men that are basically one woman men until they get one woman. . . . then they are willing to accept the attention of others . . or at least one other . . . who they will become a one woman man for . . . again.

James, that sounds like a riddle. There's still no excuse for it.

Everyone is unique in their own way, but me? I gotta have just one woman "only" and that's it. I'm just not wired that way. Cheating and screwing without a serious relationship is unacceptable. How can a man/woman screw someone else and then walk away only to then come back to only screw again? How can anyone get excited about a booty call? That's so stupid to me.

You know what the multiple partner FWB thing is like? It's like seeing two dogs in the grass on the side of the road mating, and then watching the two of them go their own separate ways. Most animals mate during mating season, but when human beings practice the FWB thing, they're doing the same thing a dog does. Mating. Hell, the way it is now a days, you might as well go up to a woman who does the FWB thing too and say: "I don't want to wine and dine you, I just want the nookie. Will you provide me with the nookie?" That's sick. We're human beings, not animals and I really don't think human beings are wired that way. It's something psychologically wrong with a joker that practices having sex with friends and multiple partners, but at same time doesn't want a serious relationship. Wake up people.

[christiangirl]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

A lot of women just don't want those kind of men now a days. They're outdated.

They're not outdated. They're bringing sexy back.

Originally Posted by James

In the defense of women that don't believe in the "one woman man" idea. I think there are a lot of men that are basically one woman men until they get one woman. . . . then they are willing to accept the attention of others . . or at least one other . . . who they will become a one woman man for . . . again.

I might just be tired, but that made a lot of sense to me.

[SthrnZeta]

I think we're missing the point... why do you ask?

[tld221]

i feel like theres always backstory with Dionysus' questions, but let's jus take it for face value...

i think its inevitable that youd start effing around amongst the circle of friends. at the very least, everyone will have feelings for each other at some point. its just a matter of knowing each other for so long.

and this is why you have to run in more than one circle. but you have to be careful cause everyones connected and you get this weird Venn diagram kinda circle of friends... and that gets messy.

[SirHornyToad]

I think that it depends how in the circle they are. I've personally dated people that I considered close friends and also people that were pretty much strangers. To me it seems like the strangers or farther removed are easier break ups but have a lower chance of remaining friends after.

On the other hand people I've dated that were friends to some extent already before we hooked up eventually have some how stayed friends pretty much across the board.

[When Doves Cry]

My current boyfriend and my ex-boyfriend and I were/are in the same group of friends.

We actually had this "family" going, where my ex & I were married and all our friends were our kids or the grandparents or cousins &etc ... So my current bf is actually one of my sons... lol

[AlethiaSi]

Originally Posted by When Doves Cry

My current boyfriend and my ex-boyfriend and I were/are in the same group of friends.

We actually had this "family" going, where my ex & I were married and all our friends were our kids or the grandparents or cousins &etc ... So my current bf is actually one of my sons... lol

LOL not gunna lie, the whole thing sounds a little weird

[texas*princess]

Originally Posted by When Doves Cry

My current boyfriend and my ex-boyfriend and I were/are in the same group of friends.

We actually had this "family" going, where my ex & I were married and all our friends were our kids or the grandparents or cousins &etc ... So my current bf is actually one of my sons... lol

i remember playing house in 1st grade like that.

we actually all went to school an hour early since we were in the same class and had a pretend 'wedding'... good times in elementary school

[When Doves Cry]

lol i know. We're weird.
We have these "family reunions" during winter & summer breaks
Cuz we live near each other to drive and hang out , but far enough where it's not easy to see each other.
and we just hang out (like downtown Chicago) and go back to someone's house and party & whatnot

.. I gotta start dating outside our group. haha