POLL: Guys and girls--Are you low-maintenance or high-maintenance??

[matthewg]

Originally posted by James:
The secret ladies, and I notice no one responded to my list,

James,
I am not a lady, of course, but I couldn't agree more on your list!!! It is terrific!!

I would like to add to the list the:

You want us to read your mind about what you would like to do or to have at practically any given moment together and are angry when we do not achieve this goal....

[CRMSNTiDEGRL717]

I dont know if im high maintenance or not, but im definately ,more that direction than low. im still in highschool, where MOST of the girls think they need to look perfect, and i certainly dont want them to think they're better than me But i can certainly go somewhere w/o makeup and hair done, it just depends where. Ladies: do you ever feel that someone who's known you forever and thinks your attractive, will think you're ugly when he realizes what makeup does to you?? (if you even where makeup) Bye

[newbie]

James--LOL!!!! Actually I think your list was really good and funny! Then I'm defintely low-maintenance, according to your list, even when it comes to parties/formals. I do love glamming it up--but can never take more than 30 minutes prepping for a formal/party...I just don't have that tolerance! But I also apply makeup really fast, though. Though going to makeup parties with my girls is really fun--we can spend hours playing with makeup, but I could never spend that much time on an everyday basis.

KABillyMac--LOL! When I'm watching a baseball game--I am so content with everything! of course unless my Giants are losing...

OTW--thanks for the info! I might get it--it sounds like it'd be a good relaxer at the end of the day! I will keep you posted if I get it or not!

Nick--Thanks for your offer sweetie!! Actually, my final is probably gonna be on social stratification...so if I have any q's or probs, I know where to ask ya! I really like learning about this...it's interesting how some social classes, and how some governments, are so corrupt!

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[33girl]

High, Extremely high. But my boyfriend and my friends deal with it well.

True story: I was having a fight with a then-boyfriend on the phone, said "WhatEVER" to him, and he hung up on me and that was the end of the relationship! Dork.

[KSig RC]

OK James - this might lower the bar for high-maintenance a bit, but here's some more:

-You say "Pick me up at 6:30," which of course means that's when you'll get into the shower. This allows me some GREAT quality time with either your parents, roommate, sorority sisters, or any other uncomfortable social situation one could conjure. Good times.

-You get angry when we begin to plan on the above, and show up half an hour late - we're just trying to be more efficient here kids.

-You flirt w/ my friends b/c you're "Just being friendly" (which is ok), but go from laughing to livid if I even mention one of your friends in anything but a "ugh" manner - there's not even a way to respond to that!

-You get upset if, at a social function, your SO is away for any length of time with other people, because you're not getting the "us time" that would normal occur during private time - more people = more division of attention . . . right?

-You require PDA, and often. UGH.

-You agree to go out w/ the guys, knowing you'll be miserable, and then act miserable in a very overt manner . . . i think we all know what i'm talking about there!

OK - for the record, I'm not really bitter, and I'm an exceptionally low-maintenance guy, even by guy standards. I'm perfectly happy sitting at home watching the game or a chick flick, and also going out to something more formal. However, this usually ends up pairing me w/ a high-maint. lady, which usually ends up in much hair-pulling and makeup sex. Or something like that.

peace,
Rob

[James]

Oh god that is so true! I am LMAO.

Drives me nuts when the lady can be late but God forbid I am

Oh yeah as KsigRc said: WE are not allowed to walk away, but ladies are famous for: "wait for me here", while THEY go off and socialize . . . why do you do that stuff?

Its not exactly fair . . . although some of you are sneakier about it like, "watch my purse or coat until I get back".

33girl, if I pick-up a lady and she has storm shadows on her face, and she replies "fine" to my how are you, I know I am in for a bad night.

If she says "fine, whatever" I know I'm doomed . . .Sometimes I just want to throw myself on the mercy of the court and say,

"I want to take this time to formally apologize for all sins past, present, or future that I may have committed, or will commit, that transgress against your basic tranquility, either through my overt actions, omissions, or acts of God. And I further pledge to make it up to you in the most expensive and romantic way possible."

"Now can we please enjoy the night out? Can we go straight from transgression to forgiveness and redemption?"

(Author's note: sometimes Redemption can feel really good )

Ofcourse I have no doubt I would be grilled as to what sins I committed but didn't tell her or what sins I was planning to commit



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[Miami1839]

Exactly, this topic is definitely suited for "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus". Guys definitely have to read between the lines. From my experience guys are much more direct than women are. Which can be a good and bad thing for either side. *L* I find that my "maintenance" depends on who the girl is. If we gel then it really shouldnt be an issue. If either of us are high maintenance then I see it as a waste of time for either of us. I guess it all depends though. *L*

Kevin

[gammazetagrl]

i wear a tiny bit of makeup everyday but i wear it heavy when i go out especially on weekends and stuff. i would say im rpetty high maintenance in the sense that my clothes gotta look good and/or be expensive (ugh, vanity vanity!)...i also invest in estee lauder idealist skin refinisher and spotlight skin perfector...that stuff really works. =)

[newbie]

gammazetagrl, have you ever tried EL's Fruition? I have only tried a sample--and I love it! It made my skin look relaly "glowy," smooth, and really clear! But I don't know if it's worth the dough!

[kdgirlie]

by James's list i'm definatelly not high maintaince. Except that I hate tardiness , but that extents to myself as well.
But I would say I am some kinda high maintance. I sometimes spent 30 mins getting ready sometimes 5. I love to shop and make my friends buy that perfect outfit for the night. But I also go to class in a party shirt shorts and just chapstick.

[juniorgrrl]

I don't need maintenence - I'm naturally gorgeous

Just kidding. I think I fall somewhere in the middle. As I posted in "Hair Poll" my hair is really easy to deal with. And I don't wear a ton of makeup. Just a few clinique products are all I need.

I'm high maintenence when it comes to clothes. I love to shop, and some mornings I'll go through 3 or 4 outfits before I find one that I like.

I'm also high-maintenence when it comes to eating. I can be a pain in the ass because I somehow learned the fat/calorie content for most foods and will look at something and go "I can't eat that, it has 400 calories and 60 grams of fat!"

[RHOYAL22India]

I am "SELF-MAINTENANCE" which is moderately high. What I am saying is, I really take out time to take care of me via 1. Meditation, 2. doing at least 2 good things for me everyday, 3.anything I can't afford I learn to do for myself (ie. nails, hair, and cooking interesting foods), and 4.anything I can afford "I GET" life is too short...and doing the 4 things mentioned above just makes you great to be around and obviously happier..

[James]

In the spirit of the question . . why not take this test and see if you really score what you think you are?
http://www.emode.com/emode/tests/maintenance.jsp

[newbie]

Interesting...thanks James...

Yep I'm still low-maintenance. (In all of the categories: Material, Emotional, Personal..)

What their definition of high-maintenance is:

To be high maintenance means that you need a lot of attention, whether it be physically, emotionally or materially. High maintenance individuals tend to put their own needs and desires above those of everyone else in their life, and expect other people to do the same.

There are many ways that someone can be high maintenance. The primary way is in romantic relationships or friendships. The major characteristics of someone who is high maintenance are:

In general, being demanding of other people, particularly significant others.
Setting unrealistic standards for others to meet.
Expecting other people to pay an inordinate amount of attention to you.
Expecting other people to do things for you without your having to ask.
Expecting other people to listen to you whenever you desire to speak.
Getting angry, jealous, or resentful when other people don't make you their top priority.
An excessive concern with physical appearance or material objects.
Being high maintenance may be fine for you, but it can be extremely difficult for the people in your life.

There are some things you can do to try to lower your maintenance requirements:

Occasionally let other people decide what the plans are going to be.
Don't ask or expect others to drop everything to meet your needs.
Don't worry so much about physical appearances.
Learn to be more self-sufficient.
Be more understanding if people don't meet your expectations.
Do things for other people, without them having to ask.

(from Emode.com)


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[phisigQT]

Oh I am definately HIGH. All those qualifications Rob posted...I meet them all. Very sad isn't it? I mean I should totally have something better to do then spend an hour and a half making sure i look perfect. Even on sweatshirt and jeans days i must have my hair and make-up sdone to perfection. I am trying to get a little better with it, but no one seems to complain so...