Huge problem with transfering into a new chapter...HELP!!

[giggle528]

just like since everyone had been really irresponsible, and no one was getting back, and the fact that none of my paperwork was sent in and that i never got my badge, and that if i dont hear back, and then i can go ahead and re-rush. the lady on the phone was like "uh huh..we understand..we understand..im sorry this is happening" she sounded a little afraid..haha

im just afraid..with girls being girls..ill get screwed over. but it just sucks, because i love being in a sorority. being part of something like that..i just really enjoy it. and to not be able to do it, really saddens me. people will say "well then y did you leave your school..or why didnt u depledge..thats the responsible thing to do" A) i HAD to leave my school..hated it..they didnt have my major, thought rushing would make it better, it didnt" B) i would of depledged seriously thought about it, but i heard about so many people transfering and switching into other chapters, etc..that i thought it wouldnt be such a difficult deal.

[cuteASAbug]

What are you looking for here? Is it permission to rerush? Fine then, go ahead and rush again. But who's to say the same thing won't happen to you again? What if you pledge another sorority and then they don't send in the paperwork for you to headquarters?

[giggle528]

no, i was just asking for advice. not permission. just someone to talk and help me out...see if ne1 has ever been in the same position before, but i guess not...

[AOII Angel]

I think they are giving you advice. The chapter of your sorority at your current school knows who you are. They know you are claiming to be an XYZ. If you rerush, they will surely think a) you are a psycho liar trying to sneak into their sorority or b) you have no loyalty all because of a paperwork snafu. Neither option is pretty. There is also the very real possibility that they will share this information with HQ and the other chapters on campus. It would probably not be in your best interest to go through recruitment. I know it's not what you obviously want to here. My advice would be to call HQ and ask for the chapter advisor for your initiating chapter. Contact this woman and explain your situation as calmly as possible. You'll get a lot farther if you sound rational and understanding about the paperwork mistakes. Just impress on her that you'd really like to get involved with the chapter at your new school. Then.....give her some time to help you. Just because you have a timeline does not mean that it matches hers. Tell your Mom that you are handling the situation. She's probably upset because you are upset. Take a deep breath...things will work out!

[Tippiechick]

If you would be willing to just up and re-rush a different sorority, you might have missed the whole point of being in a sisterhood. Does it really mean nothing to you? If so, why do you care so much about affiliating? You make it sound like since you are having trouble, you'll just quit and find a better group.

Grow up.

Very few things in life are without complications. And, when you go and transfer to a different school, you are adding complications TO YOURSELF. Harsh, but true. Expect some paperwork mishaps, etc.

BTW, what will happen if you don't mesh with your affiliating chapter and they say no? Sounds like you will just quit anyway.

[giggle528]

yeah, no im just going to stay....yah ur right i would feel too guilty to re-rush. i was just getting soo turned off by my chapter back home.

so im guessing people have seen girls who have not been affliated with the chapters at their new school, where their letter any? wouldnt they be made fun off, because they are not really a ABC at the school?

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by giggle528

yeah, no im just going to stay....yah ur right i would feel too guilty to re-rush. i was just getting soo turned off by my chapter back home.

so im guessing people have seen girls who have not been affliated with the chapters at their new school, where their letter any? wouldnt they be made fun off, because they are not really a ABC at the school?

Can you please make more of an attempt at typing? I can barely decipher your posts.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by giggle528

So I'm guessing people have seen girls who have not affliated with the chapter at their new school. Do they wear their letters anymore? Wouldn't they be made fun of, because they are not really an ABC at the school?

If you've been initiated, you are an ABC for life (unless you self-terminate or are terminated). You can wear your letters anywhere you want. Just explain "I was initiated at Moose Head College, but when I transferred here to Deer Butt University, the chapter was a lot different. I chose not to affiliate with them, but I'm still an alumnae member of ABC."

[skylark]

Giggle: If your sorority is an NPC sorority I don't care what they told you on the phone, the rule about not being initiated into another NPC sorority is a big one. Usually they don't even let you join a different NPC group if you transfer to a school that doesn't have your sorority at it.

Honestly, it sounds like you should just chill out until after rush is over. The current chapter is busy trying to prepare for that and if they are a big chapter, they may be purposely delaying your affiliation process so that they don't have you counting against them for chapter total. I know my NPC allows for transfer students to affiliate with the on-campus chapter even if the sorority is above chapter total.

Give your sorority at your campus a couple days after bid day to get some rest, and then try to become part of the group. They have other things on their mind right now and if you push them, they may question whether you have the best interest of THEIR chapter in your mind.

[violetpretty]

If you rerush, you WILL be found out. Every chapter gets a list of who is going through. ABC at your new school WILL find you (especially since you've talked to their president) and they WILL tell the advisor to the Panhellenic Association. Not only will you get kicked out of recruitment (not cut from all chapters, kicked out), you will stand no chance of reaffiliating with ABC. I sure as hell would not vote to accept a sister into my chapter who tried to rerush, especially one who KNEW she wasn't supposed to.

There are no exceptions to the National Panhellenic Conference policy that says that initiated members of one NPC are ineligible to join another NPC. Not even if your new school doesn't have ABC. Not even if ABC isn't a good fit for you at New U. Not even if you've deactivated your ABC membership. Not even if your membership has not been officially processed. You've witnessed initiation. You are an initiated member.

I'm not so sure why you are being so impatient. New U will have recruitment this week, but they'll still be able to accept you as a member regardless of their numbers. You're not competing for a spot in the chapter with the PNMs going through recruitment. Is that your concern?

[violetpretty]

Originally Posted by skylark

Usually they don't even let you if you transfer to a school that doesn't have your sorority at it.

So Sigma Kappa could tell me that I am not allowed to transfer to Towson if I want to change my major to HR Management? I don't think so. My sorority activities would just be limited to that of the Baltimore Alumnae chapter. No rerushing.

Originally Posted by skylark

Honestly, it sounds like you should just chill out until after rush is over. The current chapter is busy trying to prepare for that and if they are a big chapter, they may be purposely delaying your affiliation process so that they don't have you counting against them for chapter total. I know my NPC allows for transfer students to affiliate with the on-campus chapter even if the sorority is above chapter total.

Give your sorority at your campus a couple days after bid day to get some rest, and then try to become part of the group. They have other things on their mind right now and if you push them, they may question whether you have the best interest of THEIR chapter in your mind.

Yes! That's probably true about delaying your affiliation. And solid advice about why waiting until after bid day is a good idea.

[skylark]

violetpretty... I'm editing my post because I think i said "school" when I meant to say "chapter" ... we are making the same points to giggle, i think.

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by violetpretty

So Sigma Kappa could tell me that I am not allowed to transfer to Towson if I want to change my major to HR Management? I don't think so. My sorority activities would just be limited to that of the Baltimore Alumnae chapter. No rerushing.

I think you read it wrong. I think she was trying to say that they usually don't let you re-rush if your sorority is not at the school you transfer to.

Still blatantly wrong as you can NEVER re-rush once initiated, no matter the circumstances, but it makes more sense than not being able to transfer to a school that doesn't have your sorority.

[skylark]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

Still blatantly wrong as you can NEVER re-rush once initiated, no matter the circumstances, but it makes more sense than not being able to transfer to a school that doesn't have your sorority.

How am I blatantly wrong? I'm saying the exact same thing you are, that you can't ever be initiated into another NPC sorority after you've been initiated into another.

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by skylark

How am I blatantly wrong? I'm saying the exact same thing you are, that you can't ever be initiated into another NPC sorority after you've been initiated into another.

Can't ever =/= ususally.

Originally Posted by skylark

Giggle: If your sorority is an NPC sorority I don't care what they told you on the phone, the rule about not being initiated into another NPC sorority is a big one. Usually they don't even let you join a different NPC group if you transfer to a school that doesn't have your sorority at it.
Honestly, it sounds like you should just chill out until after rush is over. The current chapter is busy trying to prepare for that and if they are a big chapter, they may be purposely delaying your affiliation process so that they don't have you counting against them for chapter total. I know my NPC allows for transfer students to affiliate with the on-campus chapter even if the sorority is above chapter total.

Give your sorority at your campus a couple days after bid day to get some rest, and then try to become part of the group. They have other things on their mind right now and if you push them, they may question whether you have the best interest of THEIR chapter in your mind.