Why do guys??

[amycat412]

OK, then why do guys get all weird when we make a move? Y'all say you want it, but my friends and I have defintely found that letting a guy steer it in the very beginning seems to work better.

[Billy Optimist]

Okay. Do not come on too strong, but don't act too cool either. Like, don't totally ingore us, or your setting yourself up to be played. But don't be like "come on you know you want me" either. See, it is not easy being on this side, now is it.

[Miami1839]

Amy and Billy, I think your both right
I think its ok for a lady to be mysterious or reserved in the beginning, but Billy has a good point that we just dont like to be played or given mixed signals. I admit thats true for either sex though. I guess thats just part of the dating game.

Kevin

[Billy Optimist]

Its cool to be mysterious if you don't act all disinterested. That's not good.

[James]

Yeah cool and mysterious . . . but add humour and eye contact. The trick to being coy is to keep US interested by sending clear and positive signals while being evasive enough that we don't know WHEN we'll get together even though we know we definitely WILL (even if it never happens), because the signals are correct but our excitement mounts because the timing is in YOUR hands. However, since you are trying to commincate some type of message that is tied between available but not easy, which is complicated . . . then as the communicator its your responsibility that We get YOUR hint. Hell you already know where we are coming from . . . we're talking to you and buying you drinks.


There's a definite ART to this stuff that I manage flubbing a lot. I should definitely teach the subject rather than have the job (those that can do do those that can't teach)

Originally posted by Billy Optimist:
Its cool to be mysterious if you don't act all disinterested. That's not good.

[This message has been edited by James (edited April 28, 2001).]