Re-Rushing

[AlphaXi1997]

I just wanted to point out that if you sign a bid card during Formal Recruitment and don't maximize your opportunities (meaning that you only put down one sorority), you are not allowed to join another NPC sorority on that campus for a full calendar year. So, if you "suicide" Alpha in Fall 2007, you can't join Alpha, Beta, or any other NPC in Spring 2008. You have to wait until Fall 2008 and either go through Formal Recruitment again or hope that your preferred sorority has spots available during COB. There are definite downfalls to suiciding and that's why Recruitment Counselors are supposed to steer pnm's away from it.

[fantASTic]

I think this is a campus rule..I've never heard that.

[AnatraAmore]

Originally Posted by AlphaXi1997

I just wanted to point out that if you sign a bid card during Formal Recruitment and don't maximize your opportunities (meaning that you only put down one sorority), you are not allowed to join another NPC sorority on that campus for a full calendar year. So, if you "suicide" Alpha in Fall 2007, you can't join Alpha, Beta, or any other NPC in Spring 2008. You have to wait until Fall 2008 and either go through Formal Recruitment again or hope that your preferred sorority has spots available during COB. There are definite downfalls to suiciding and that's why Recruitment Counselors are supposed to steer pnm's away from it.

Wait... I know that's not what happens on my campus. Typically, we have several girls who decide to suicide and are not matched. They are usually picked up during COB - normally by the chapter they suicided if they're not at total. Are you sure that's a universal Panhellenic rule? Perhaps that's just at your campus?

[AlwaysSAI]

I'm pretty sure that's a panhellenic rule.

[nittanyalum]

To clarify AnatraAmore, if someone suicides and doesn't match (doesn't receive ANY bid), they are still a free agent and can rush again whenever or wherever they want.

[gphiangel624]

Originally Posted by nittanyalum

To clarify AnatraAmore, if someone suicides and doesn't match (doesn't receive ANY bid), they are still a free agent and can rush again whenever or wherever they want.

This is exactly right. If a PNM signs a Membership Recruitment Binding Acceptance Agreement (i.e. Pref card), indicates an intentional single preference (i.e. "Suicide") and does not match, she IS eligible for COB, and I believe for snaps as well. However, it is not the wisest idea to ISP; we all know that ISPs indicate that the PNM is not "maximizing her recruitment potential." Should the not get a bid, it may be likely that the chapter she wishes to join will not be able to hold COB, such as in the case that if the chapter gets to total via formal recruitment.. I've seen this happen several times on my campus and the results are not fun to explain.

prospective88 - go to both parties, see what both are about, and do what you feel is right. It is likely that Alpha and Beta both know that the other chapter is hold informal events at the same time and that potential members are likely to attend both. Good luck, keep us informed

[AlphaXi1997]

Sorry! I take back what I said about suiciding and then not being allowed to join for a calendar year. I thought about it after posting and then looked it up in the Green Book and you are all correct. If you decline a bid from a sorority, then you are not eligible to pledge for a year. If you suicide and don't match, then you are a "free agent." The only downside to that is if your first choice sorority fills up through formal recruitment, you aren't able to join that sorority until a spot opens up. Thanks!

[twinkle555]

how is your rush going by the way, prospective88??

[BamaMama]

If you decline a bid during COB, does this affect your eligibility for a year as well, or are you still considered a "free agent"?

[33girl]

Originally Posted by BamaMama

If you decline a bid during COB, does this affect your eligibility for a year as well, or are you still considered a "free agent"?

You are still free and clear! The only time when you are bound is when you have signed something. The "something" can be your bid card in formal rush or a bid through COB.

[prospective88]

Hello lovely GC'ers

It has been a long time since i last posted and i have so much to share. No one, besides my family and the sororities that I am rushing, know that i have decided to give Going Greek another chance. This is because in case i dont get a bid again, i dont want to be the girl who "didnt get in twice". This means that besides my stepmom, i have no one to really talk about this to, so i am very excited to get this all out of my stomach and hear some feedback!

Okay, so as stated before i have been going to Alpha and Beta events. On the first day of Rush, i went to a Beta Event first. I was having a okay time, talking to a lot of girls and having good conversations. About an hour into the event i excused myself and went to the bathroom. As I was just about the exit the stall, a couple of Beta girls walked in. One of them, whom we shall call Kristin, was a Rho Gamma last year and now has a very high position within PHA was there with one of her sisters. They started discussing some of the PNMs and Kristin said : "Omigosh! Who does [insert my name here] think she is coming to our event! Alpha didnt want her so i guess she thinks she has a chance with us! That bitch better not talk to me!" Her sister said "I dont really think its fair to hold that against her. I mean, its not like we invited her to pref night. And a lot of the the sisters really like her a lot. You should give her a chance". Kristin's response was "Whatever!"

I waited in my stall a couple minutes until the girls had left the bathroom to go back to the event. The entire rest of the time I was there my heart was beating so fast and i felt like i could not even carry a conversation so i decided to go back home. The entire time I was driving back to my apartment tears were running down my face and as soon as i got home i just cried. I felt so hurt by the comments Kristin had said about me. I called my step mom who had a leadership position at her school's PHA years ago. She was so upset by what I had told her that she wanted to call my college's Director of Greek Affairs and tell him what happened since she did not think this type of behavior was becoming of a Recruitment Counselor. Thankfully i talked her of calling him. I told my stepmom that i did not want to go to anymore rush events for Alpha or Beta because i honestly did not want to deal with this type of drama. Thankfully, she talk me out of that. She told me that in every chapter there are going to be girls i dont get along with and to wait and see who i get bid from before i start flipping out.

After i calmed down i drove back to campus and went my first Alpha event. When I walked into the room, I was greeted my so much love and warmth. I felt so comfortable with them. The conversation flowed easily and I honestly did not want to leave. As i was walking out, my old Rho Gamma (who ended up being an Alpha) came up to me and told that she was proud of me for coming out again and that no matter what happened she would always be my Rho Gam and that any sorority would be proud to call me a sister. It felt honored that she would say that to me and more tears flowed (between both of us).

Since then, I have been going to events for both sororities, and have been having a great time at Alpha AND Beta events. At the last couple events Kristin has been coming up to me and saying hi, so im really not sure what she thinks about me at this point. Today I got two phone calls, one from each chapter telling me that i was invited to their Invite Only Ritual Nights. Both of which will be on Saturday (at different times thank the lord) and Bid Day is Sunday at 9pm.

I am excited for this. Im still worried but am hoping for the best.

Be sure to wish me a lot of luck. I'm going to be needing it! Oh and good luck to all the other girls out there trying to find home!

[FloridaTish]

I'm very proud of you sticking with it and not letting the snarky, hurtful comments of one bitchy sister effect your desire to go through informal recruitment. Let's face it, we are all going to have certain social situations where we know we can't possibly like all 100% of the people we're with. It's important that you are able to look at the group as a whole, rather than let the comments of one mean girl get you down. You showed a lot of poise being able to go back and hold your head up high. I wish you the best of luck during recruitment and please keep us updated on how things turn out!

[Leslie Anne]

Aw, I'm sorry you had such a bad experience. I agree with FloridaTish. You seem to be handling yourself really well. Keep your head up and keep us posted.

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by prospective88

They started discussing some of the PNMs and Kristin said : "Omigosh! Who does [insert my name here] think she is coming to our event! Alpha didnt want her so i guess she thinks she has a chance with us! That bitch better not talk to me!" Her sister said "I dont really think its fair to hold that against her. I mean, its not like we invited her to pref night. And a lot of the the sisters really like her a lot. You should give her a chance". Kristin's response was "Whatever!"

Wow! What a witch! I'm so sorry you had to hear that when you were in such a vulnerable state! Just remember...your stepmom is right! In a group of girls, you will always find one you don't like. The most amazing thing about this story, though, is that the other sister stood up for you against an apparent bully. That's wonderful! Maybe Kristin has realized that she's the odd man out in her opinion...that may be why she's come by to say "Hi!" Good luck with the rest of rush! I'm rooting for Alpha. I had a similar experience with a PNM when I was a Rho Chi (ie Pi Chi or what ever they call themselves now!), and she became my Lil Sis!

[twinkle555]

prospective88 you are such a sweetheart!! im really proud of you good luck with recruitment and i cant wait for sunday!!!!