Frustrations with Rec's - Page 2

DeltaBetaBaby · #1 05-09-2007, 09:19 PM

If you can't find contact info, there is a GC thread somewhere with women you can PM for help. PM one from each org, and do it nicely, and maybe they can get you the local chapter info.

beachlover · #2 05-10-2007, 11:06 AM

The same thing is happening to me!

Hopeful_Bubbles · #3 05-10-2007, 12:44 PM

Yeah, I'm awaiting a response too. I hope it all works out for you!

adpiucf · #4 05-11-2007, 03:03 PM

You can also make an effort to contact your family's Christmas Card list, and your email list, teachers, etc., to give them an update on what's new with you, that you're going to XYZ college, going through sorority recruitment and seeking alum recs from sororities A/B/C/D if anyone can assist. You'd be surprised at how people can pop out of the woodwork.

OrangeJuice · #5 06-03-2007, 01:11 PM

At my school, recs are NOT important at all. I've even heard that some chapters don't even look at the recs they get. They go straight to the trash.
Even as a sophomore, I don't think recs are necessary at some schools--especially if you say that Greek life at your college isn't a big deal.

If I were you, I'd be more concerned about talking to friends who are already in the Greek system. Make sure they know that you plan to go through rush. I mean, it can't hurt. (But know that having friends in a house isn't a guarantee that you'll receive a bid from that chapter.) And know what you're going to say when they ask why you didn't rush as a freshman. Also, I think that campus involvement is very important, too. In my pledge class, there were only 3 sophomores and one junior out of 61 pledges. The upperclassmen were very involved on campus before going through rush. So, I guess play up your activities.

My point is that I think there may be a little too much emphasis on getting recs.

SWTXBelle · #6 06-03-2007, 01:21 PM

There are GLOs which have a national/international policy that you cannot pledge a girl without a rec. It is far better to have one, and not need it, then need it, and not have it.

33girl · #7 06-03-2007, 01:25 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by OrangeJuice

At my school, recs are NOT important at all. I've even heard that some chapters don't even look at the recs they get. They go straight to the trash.
Even as a sophomore, I don't think recs are necessary at some schools--especially if you say that Greek life at your college isn't a big deal.

If I were you, I'd be more concerned about talking to friends who are already in the Greek system. Make sure they know that you plan to go through rush. I mean, it can't hurt. (But know that having friends in a house isn't a guarantee that you'll receive a bid from that chapter.) And know what you're going to say when they ask why you didn't rush as a freshman. Also, I think that campus involvement is very important, too. In my pledge class, there were only 3 sophomores and one junior out of 61 pledges. The upperclassmen were very involved on campus before going through rush. So, I guess play up your activities.

My point is that I think there may be a little too much emphasis on getting recs.

In the OP's situation (search on all her posts for clarification), it would behoove her to do all the things you say AND get recs. She may be having some stormy sailing. Plus, as SWTXBelle said, some groups have a national policy that the girl must have a rec to be pledged. She may have limited options already due to being a sophomore, and it would be a shame if the group that she could have clicked with blew her off because she didn't have a rec.

UGAalum94 · #8 06-03-2007, 01:29 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by OrangeJuice

At my school, recs are NOT important at all. I've even heard that some chapters don't even look at the recs they get. They go straight to the trash.
Even as a sophomore, I don't think recs are necessary at some schools--especially if you say that Greek life at your college isn't a big deal.

If I were you, I'd be more concerned about talking to friends who are already in the Greek system. Make sure they know that you plan to go through rush. I mean, it can't hurt. (But know that having friends in a house isn't a guarantee that you'll receive a bid from that chapter.) And know what you're going to say when they ask why you didn't rush as a freshman. Also, I think that campus involvement is very important, too. In my pledge class, there were only 3 sophomores and one junior out of 61 pledges. The upperclassmen were very involved on campus before going through rush. So, I guess play up your activities.

My point is that I think there may be a little too much emphasis on getting recs.

This is really interesting to me. What school has 61 member new member classes but would have a number of chapters who threw recs right in the trash?

The schools that I know of that have classes that big also have super competitive rushes in which you would NEED recs.