Trying Again, Informal recruitment

[skerbow]

Be comfortable with you are, no matter who are you are talking to. One of the most impressive things to me, shy or not, are those women that walk in and are confortable with themselves, their bodies and their accomplishments. There are many ways to present yourself and your accomplisments without coming across snooty or "holier-than-thou". It is my opinion, and advice to all PNMs, to be yourself 100%. if you don't get a bid, then it wasn't meant to be.

Remember that you are interviewing them as much as they are you.

One more note: I think honestly that there is a good change the engagement and class year played a big roll in this. If you didn't make a point to slip into the conversation that you just changed majors and will still be one campus for 2-3 more years and not getting married until you graduate, then you might have shot yourself in the foot. Your application states how many credits you have, they do the math and realize you are a junior by credits, not a sophmore. I know that when we look at PNMs, we pay a lot of attention to what they can add to the chapter, how active they will be able to participate and how long they will be around. Engagments and Upper classman status have always been concerns. BUT i do also know that they girls that made a point to mention they just changed majors, etc were not discounted because they would be around long enough to add and impact the chapter.

You sound like a great catch so try it again!

[guardedbystars]

Originally Posted by skerbow

Be comfortable with you are, no matter who are you are talking to. One of the most impressive things to me, shy or not, are those women that walk in and are confortable with themselves, their bodies and their accomplishments. There are many ways to present yourself and your accomplisments without coming across snooty or "holier-than-thou". It is my opinion, and advice to all PNMs, to be yourself 100%. if you don't get a bid, then it wasn't meant to be.

Remember that you are interviewing them as much as they are you.

One more note: I think honestly that there is a good change the engagement and class year played a big roll in this. If you didn't make a point to slip into the conversation that you just changed majors and will still be one campus for 2-3 more years and not getting married until you graduate, then you might have shot yourself in the foot. Your application states how many credits you have, they do the math and realize you are a junior by credits, not a sophmore. I know that when we look at PNMs, we pay a lot of attention to what they can add to the chapter, how active they will be able to participate and how long they will be around. Engagments and Upper classman status have always been concerns. BUT i do also know that they girls that made a point to mention they just changed majors, etc were not discounted because they would be around long enough to add and impact the chapter.

You sound like a great catch so try it again!

I think you should definitely try it again.

Informal recruitment was how I joined and I wouldn't have it any other way. People are a lot more relaxed [at least on my campus] and they are not stressing out with recruitment and they are usually more open. Versus formal recruitment where you HAVE to talk to x amount of girls that come through the house and usually the girls have to go through ALL the houses.
Be yourself. If it wasn't meant to be, it wasn't meant to be. Some of my best friends are from the house and some of my best friends are from other student organizations around campus.

There are a lot of ways to be a leader.