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Originally Posted by ErinKathleenNJ
I can't believe that! I'm doing everything I can to make them pay the least amount as possible. I've talked to the bridesmaids already and they are all psyched. I will be making it very clear that I will not accept any gifts from the people that come.
I think having a destination wedding is fitting for us. Both have us have traveled A LOT. I'm actually a little wierded out because it'd be a resort instead of backpacking, but I'll get over it.
This is so stressful. I'm the biggest organization freak, and I just can't seem to make this work how I want. Maybe I should just do it at home. We're going to go to a travel agent to see what we can do.
OH!! I also just found out that hurricane season starts June 1...so that'll be another thing to worry about. Sorry about the venting. More happy things to come (hopefully).
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So, you need to visit the area if it is in this country or find a "friend" who is from that town you will be in the destination. Some stuff cannot be done over the phone.
You need to think about using the local ecology. It's cheaper, like the flowers and the kinds. And since your doing somewhere that is humid, you better forget a chiffon dress--too hot. Then your hair can be done up in a way that handles humidity.
To cut your costs, have several venues of activity selection for your guests.
Then no matter what you do, your relatives will show up. All family A-C-K a fool... You can plan, you can decide, but families are psychotic with these things. Even if they threaten you... They just ack a fool.
The other thing is you get married outside the US is you have to be up for anything. They will lose your baggage, on purpose. They will have all kinna crazy delays. Lose paperwork, then find it, they make you see someone else that's on break...
So your best bet, if you are already are crazy and you are just starting, do a JP in the states, and have a nice ceremony at your destination/honeymoon...
A travel agent might help, but I would want one specializing in destination weddings. Or if you make "friends", you will have a more cultural wedding, but you will make some really good "friends" that will give you the shirts off their back... You will get memorable freebies and it will be incredible.
I read somewhere that you should get insurance, in case you actually do have inclement weather.
And folks giving gifts: That's why you do a monetary registry or a charity registry. Then folks are forced to adhere to your desires. Otherwise, if you both are young, you should register for big ticket items.
Then have a reception somewhere later, sometime later.
Lots of folks do that...