Should I rush?

[archangel689]

Originally Posted by icicle22

Hey, I've been thinking quite a while about possibly rushing next semester, but I have brought it up with my parents and they don't really like the whole idea of me even joining a sorority. I've tried to explain to them that I only want to do it because I want to meet people and get involved in campus life, but of course my parents don't really understand that...they're focusing too much on the typical sorority stereotype.
So, what should I do? Should I just go ahead and rush next semester...or should I not?

1. See if your folks would be willing to have some friends over for dinner. Don't let them know they are a sorority. If they can win over your parents, then you should have no problem joining. We did this with one of our brothers.

2. Find a relative thats a greek and get them to convince the folks.

[nlauren]

Originally Posted by icicle22

Hey, I've been thinking quite a while about possibly rushing next semester, but I have brought it up with my parents and they don't really like the whole idea of me even joining a sorority. I've tried to explain to them that I only want to do it because I want to meet people and get involved in campus life, but of course my parents don't really understand that...they're focusing too much on the typical sorority stereotype.
So, what should I do? Should I just go ahead and rush next semester...or should I not?

I think you should have a full sitdown with your parents over break and show them the greater good. Sororities have strayed away from the typical "Animal House" behavior and are more then ever active in community events and fundraising.

Hope this helps
<3 nicole

[icicle22]

Yeah, I pretty much know that I have to talk with them about it.

[icicle22]

Originally Posted by icicle22

Yeah, I pretty much know that I have to talk with them about it.

I'm just rather nervous about doing it.

[AChiOhSnap]

Originally Posted by icicle22

I'm just rather nervous about doing it.

The more you prepare, the more you can counter any concerns they may have about Greek life.

If your mom and dad are worried your grades will drop, you can talk about how sororities have mandatory study hours/weekly study breaks/tutoring programs with older sisters or whatever you have on your campus. Talk about the disparity between Greek GPA and overall campus GPA (if it's higher).

If they're worried about money, lay out a specific plan on how exactly you're going to pay for sorority membership.

If they're worried about you partying, you can tell them that you could easily find people to party with, even outside of Greek membership.

Tell them how excited you are about the philanthropies and how much time Greeks on your campus give to charitable causes. Get excited about all the things you're looking forward to in a potential sorority membership, and if their fears are alleviated, hopefully your enthusiasm will catch on. Good luck!

[icicle22]

I think they're pretty much worried about all of the above, but nevertheless, I hope I can try to convince them that sorority life has good benefits.

[violetpretty]

Originally Posted by AChiOhSnap

If they're worried about you partying, you can tell them that you could easily find people to party with, even outside of Greek membership.

I definitely second this. You do NOT have to be Greek to party, especially when you're a girl.

[DaffyKD]

Back many moons ago when I went through rush, my mother did everything in her power to discourage me. I had no intentions of pledging. I was the HS geek, had few friends and knew that "those" girls would never want me to be a part of their organization. I only went through rush so that I could go move out of the house a week early since rush was the week before dorms opened. I had planned to go to the required first day parties, drop out of rush and spend the rest of the week on the beach. Well... best laid plans..... I ended up pledging, loving it and have been the President of my Alumnae Association for the last 3 years.

My parents came down to "Pledge Presents", met the sisters and really liked what they saw. When my sister started college it was almost a forgone conclusion that she would rush whether she wanted to or not. She never pledged, Mom realized that every campus is different.

Today, Mom is right there supporting our philanthropic fund raisers.

Good luck

DaffyKD