No more open flames...

[HBADPi]

Reading adpi*nurse's thread got me thinking to the year I was FRC in my chapter. We had a little satin pillow made and we pinned the president's pin in the middle and passed that around. This gave the PNMs the chance to look at our pin up close. We used the president's pin bc it was the nicest one. I'm thinking my girls could do something similar and pass a pillow with the nicest pin the girls have and have chapter members hold the pen lights for the lightening effect. They do their pref ceremony outside at night so some sort of lightening is necessary!

Zillini - I dont want to be the mean advisor but I also dont want to run the risk of a recruitment infraction or other trouble if this is going to be an NPC guideline.

[honeychile]

HBADPi, I love that idea - it sounds beautiful! Our Chapter's President's Pin was given to us by the estate of our local founder, and is lovely. Maybe they could do something simular. Although, it would be nice to have a universal word for the ceremony, like Candle Pass.

The lights of which I was speaking are here, but more expensive than I had bought. They look like this:



(The yellow looks the most natural, but they all have the little switch.)


PS - She was a client of ours during her final illness - what a card! Miss Heatherington was a teacher when that meant you didn't marry, and you best know how to be respected! I'll treasure those moments forever.

[adpiucf]

Or just do away with it entirely and serenade the celebrant.

ETA: I do wish advisers the best in enforcing this...

[Zillini]

Originally Posted by HBADPi

Zillini - I dont want to be the mean advisor but I also dont want to run the risk of a recruitment infraction or other trouble if this is going to be an NPC guideline.

I agree wholeheartedly, I don't want to risk an NPC infraction either. My point (which I didn't make very well) was that I wonder if our Panhellenic and the other sororities Inter/nationals will enforce this. ADPi at the University of Alabama will be following the guidelines.

Actually, since I came on board 10 years ago we've become known as the "rule followers" in Panhellenic. My women often ask why we have to do this or can't do that when everybody else does/doesn't. My response is because that's ADPi or NPC policy or even the law (thinking about underage drinking). Some day one or all of those rule breakers will get in trouble, possibly even busted. We'll be able to stand proud (and safe) because we abide by the rules/laws.

It's also a great lesson for these young women to learn. It's better in to do what's right than to do what's popular.

ETA: I decided to take the bull by the horns and called our Asst. Dean of Students, aka Greek Advisor. He said this was the first he'd heard of this but he would investigate. (While I'm a bit surprised, I'm not entirely shocked as this is not the first time he's been out of the loop.) I reminded him that since NPC will be sending a delegation to our campus for Formal Recruitment, it would probably be a good idea for all of Panhellenic to be following the rules. Now I don't have to be the bad guy.

[adpiucf]

Question: If one chapter violates this mandate (meaning there is a publicized incident), does the entire sorority lose insurance coverage or do premiums rise for the entire sorority?

[Adelphean]

Yeah, and dry fraternity houses NEVER have alcohol...

You're more likely to have a house fire from someone leaving their flat iron on than passing a candle around for 2 minutes to congratulate someone for being dropped.

[violets1211]

to answer ADPi*nurse, "did the sister get to keep the candle?"

when I had both of mine, yes... I got two different candles for each one I had (i was lavaleered and pined)

the battery operated tea lights are cute.... and i'm sure the battery operated tapers will look nice too... i like the idea of the "rose passing", and violets usually aren't that expensive, so you could always do violets.