SoCal sororities and age limits

[BabyPiNK_FL]

my pledge class had 2 young mothers and a pregnant young lady as well as a 25 year old married woman (who i'm not sure if she had kids or not). I pretty sure some of the other girls who left during their pledge period had children as well, it can happen. It depends on the chapter, etc. etc. etc. We also had a pregnant older sister. And NOT ONE OF THEM had a girl! Darn! (No legacies)

[Dionysus]

I can see being active in campus life period in your mid or even late 20's, there's several of us at my school....but 32? I don't think she knows what she is getting herself into.

[kddani]

the fact that she already has an undergraduate degree and is going back for her second BA is going to severelly limit her options. Only a very few sororities allow members who already have an undergraduate degree to continue to participate on the collegiate level. Look through the rush forum, i'm sure there are some threads identifying which.

[Drunkie679]

ITo tell you the truth...you never know @ CSULB...I go here and I was a tranfer when I rush...I am a fraternity...just for the record...and I see many girls that rush when they were 25 and they get into a good house...It all depends on the house

[Duchovnysfan]

Originally posted by Drunkie679
ITo tell you the truth...you never know @ CSULB...I go here and I was a tranfer when I rush...I am a fraternity...just for the record...and I see many girls that rush when they were 25 and they get into a good house...It all depends on the house

But a transfer is different from someone who is getting a 2nd bachelor's degree.

[Erik P Conard]

While this thread seems to deal mostly with sororities, let me
yinvade your space a second, see what you think.
I do think, though, there would indeed be a difference between
pledging an older man than a woman, but hear me out, please, and then 'to each his own'
I pledged in the fall of '54 and there were a lot of vets on campus
a few from WWII and a lot from the recently ended Korean conflict. There were mixed feelings, the vets generally had money, were not hazing oriented, and sometimes did not mix well
with the younger ones. But on the other hand, they gave us an
image, a father figure and older brother one, and over all, a level
of maturity we needed.
We pledged a 59 year old career vet, he'd been a highly decorated hero, an officer and was nearly a scratch golfer. He
had lost his wife the year before. We loved that man; he graduated, was popular, and is still alive at 98 years of age. He
was admired by almost all the greeks.
The only thing he took with him after graduation was a lovely
housemother...she lives yet.
And we were all better for it. Another memory from the old codger who occasionally misses the bus.

[lilalb]

Originally posted by Erik P Conard
While this thread seems to deal mostly with sororities, let me
yinvade your space a second, see what you think.
I do think, though, there would indeed be a difference between
pledging an older man than a woman, but hear me out, please, and then 'to each his own'
I pledged in the fall of '54 and there were a lot of vets on campus
a few from WWII and a lot from the recently ended Korean conflict. There were mixed feelings, the vets generally had money, were not hazing oriented, and sometimes did not mix well
with the younger ones. But on the other hand, they gave us an
image, a father figure and older brother one, and over all, a level
of maturity we needed.
We pledged a 59 year old career vet, he'd been a highly decorated hero, an officer and was nearly a scratch golfer. He
had lost his wife the year before. We loved that man; he graduated, was popular, and is still alive at 98 years of age. He
was admired by almost all the greeks.
The only thing he took with him after graduation was a lovely
housemother...she lives yet.
And we were all better for it. Another memory from the old codger who occasionally misses the bus.

Wow! That's wonderful.

My sister has decided to go through and try to rush anyway. She was in the military and she really misses the camraderie. I think she could bring a lot of valuable life experience and guidance to the younger members and they could give her a lot of perspective on what it's like to be 19/20/21 years old again.

I personally think it's beneficial to have a good mix of ages in any group.

[kddani]

Originally posted by lilalb
Wow! That's wonderful.

My sister has decided to go through and try to rush anyway. She was in the military and she really misses the camraderie. I think she could bring a lot of valuable life experience and guidance to the younger members and they could give her a lot of perspective on what it's like to be 19/20/21 years old again.

I personally think it's beneficial to have a good mix of ages in any group.

Make sure she fully discloses her situation (i.e.this is her second BA) and does her research on which groups would even allow her to join. If she doesn't discose it, she runs the risk of being depledged, both because she is not eligible for membership in most groups, and because she lied to her potential sisters in leaving out that very important info. Just a warning that she needs to be upfront about things!

[lilalb]

Originally posted by kddani
Make sure she fully discloses her situation (i.e.this is her second BA) and does her research on which groups would even allow her to join. If she doesn't discose it, she runs the risk of being depledged, both because she is not eligible for membership in most groups, and because she lied to her potential sisters in leaving out that very important info. Just a warning that she needs to be upfront about things!

Oh, she knows that. She wouldn't lie to become part of a sorority because that would pretty much create a relationship based upon a falsehood, which is crap in her eyes and in mine.

[kddani]

I'm sure she wouldn't lie, but just advising that she should be very clear about her status.

From what has been said on GC in the past, it seems like AXiD, PhiSig and possibly DG accept grad students into their chapters. Out of those three, only DG is at your friend's school. I would advise her to do some research about the policies of the sororities at her school. And also, she should check with the school's greek life office, perhaps they may have a rule at the university that only undergrads/first BA/BS candidates may join.

Here are some other threads that may be helpful:
http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...ht=bachelor%2A
http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...ht=bachelor%2A

[Rudey]

I would seriously question the sanity of any man or woman that joined a fraternity or sorority as an adult. I can't even believe there are people out there that are willing to put up with that stuff at this age.

-Rudey

[ragtimerose]

Originally posted by Rudey
I would seriously question the sanity of any man or woman that joined a fraternity or sorority as an adult. I can't even believe there are people out there that are willing to put up with that stuff at this age.

-

Then consider me insane! I didn't "go Greek" until I was in my 40s, and I'm loving every minute of being in my sorority.

[adpiucf]

You're not insane. There's a big difference between NPC and NPC-style sororities and the other conferences.

In this case, a 25 year old woman is a stretch and might be successful. Again at 32, I know for myself, my chapter and the chapters I have worked with, there would be some question of her maturity, intentions and how the chapter would be perceived for taking someone who is so much older than the typical sorority program caters to.

All the luck to her. But if I were 32 and going to college, I'd have other priorities. Being stuck with a group of 20 year olds and their daily drama would make me insane.

[33girl]

Originally posted by adpiucf
All the luck to her. But if I were 32 and going to college, I'd have other priorities. Being stuck with a group of 20 year olds and their daily drama would make me insane.

Drama doesn't end when you stop being 20. For damn real. Sometimes I think my workplace is worse than the sorority house was.

[Dionysus]

And, is all drama bad?