What if you found out he was bisexual?

[Conskeeted19]

MIDWESTDIVA, I must agree! I would have to wave bye to the bi!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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You are the master of your own destiny!

[blueberi1920]

I would leave him. I know that I am heterosexual and I expect him to be as well. Besides who needs competition from every woman and every man?

[blueberi1920]

I would leave him. I know that I am heterosexual and I expect him to be as well. Besides who needs competition from every woman and every man?

[Zetaphied]

After reading many of E. Lynn Harris's books the idea of falling in love with a man that may possibly be hiding his sexuality from me, posed some concern. I have met a few men that were bisexual and gay and alot of them aren't the stereotypical image most of us may imagine when we think of gay men. They aren't "flaming" as some may call it. I would think that if a man would be secure enough in his bisexuality that he would not keep it a secret from me, that he would respect me enough to allow me to make the choice of whether i want to continue seeing him or not. I would definitely not want to continue a relationship with a guy that was bisexual. I wouldn't want/expect him to deny apart of himself, not would I believe that he could do it. I would appreciate his honesty for telling me and not take it as a personal blow to who i am.

[SoTrue1920]

You don't *care* whether someone is faithful to you? So.. if he cheats on you with a passel of women, that's somehow more acceptable to you than him saying "I am attracted to men, but I've decided not to act on that attraction in order to settle down with you"?

Originally posted by MIDWESTDIVA:
I must disagree. I don't care if this person is faithful to me or not. We all have qualifications for the people we date/marry. One of my qualifications is that the person must be heterosexual. If I find out he isn't, he's going bye bye.

[MIDWESTDIVA]

Originally posted by SoTrue1920:
You don't *care* whether someone is faithful to you? So.. if he cheats on you with a passel of women, that's somehow more acceptable to you than him saying "I am attracted to men, but I've decided not to act on that attraction in order to settle down with you"?

Allow me to clarify. Simply put I have high standards. A heterosexual man that cheats on me with a passel of women, or even one woman will get put to the curb like Thursday's trash. I expect EVERY man I date to be faithful to me. I also expect every man I date to be heterosexual. If I find out the man I am currently dating is bisexual, I'm not going to say "OK, well he HAS been faithful to me, he IS a good person. So I guess we can stay together". NOT! There are plenty of respectful, faithful, hetersosexual men out there and many of them can't be with me either. He must meet ALL of my qualifications. Bisexuality, is means for immediate and permanent dismissal. What is it that greeks say? "Just because you meet the minimum qualifications, doesn't guarantee you will be offered membership"? "Membership has its privileges"? "By nature, our organizations are discriminatory"? OK, I'm discriminatory too. Just because a man is faithful to me doesn't guarantee that we will stay together, bisexual or not.


Also, I found this interesting. A lesbian said on another sorority's board that she is only interested in lesbian women, no bisexuals. Noone even batted an eyelash. But when a heterosexual woman says she only wants a heterosexual man, no bisexuals, people automatically think HOMOPHOBE. Why is that?



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[SoTrue1920]

If I knew about that other board, I'd have weighed in my $19.20, but since I didn't....

People have all sorts of arbitrary rules set up as far as who they will and won't date. It's just as prejudicial for a lesbian to say that she won't date bisexuals as it is for str8 folks.

But it's your world, you have to live in it, not me.

Peace!

Originally posted by MIDWESTDIVA:
Allow me to clarify. Simply put I have high standards. A heterosexual man that cheats on me with a passel of women, or even one woman will get put to the curb like Thursday's trash. I expect EVERY man I date to be faithful to me. I also expect every man I date to be heterosexual. If I find out the man I am currently dating is bisexual, I'm not going to say "OK, well he HAS been faithful to me, he IS a good person. So I guess we can stay together". NOT! There are plenty of respectful, faithful, hetersosexual men out there and many of them can't be with me either. He must meet ALL of my qualifications. Bisexuality, is means for immediate and permanent dismissal. What is it that greeks say? "Just because you meet the minimum qualifications, doesn't guarantee you will be offered membership"? "Membership has its privileges"? "By nature, our organizations are discriminatory"? OK, I'm discriminatory too. Just because a man is faithful to me doesn't guarantee that we will stay together, bisexual or not.


Also, I found this interesting. A lesbian said on another sorority's board that she is only interested in lesbian women, no bisexuals. Noone even batted an eyelash. But when a heterosexual woman says she only wants a heterosexual man, no bisexuals, people automatically think HOMOPHOBE. Why is that?

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