I_Love_Penguins' Rush Experience - Page 2

KSUViolet06 · #1 02-10-2006, 12:25 AM

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Originally posted by I_Love_Penguins

Anyone have any tips on how to cope with not getting in? Especially since two girls I live closely to got in and I have to see them in their letters and listen to their convos about pledging and everything?

* Go home and visit your family for awhile if you can! That will help get your mind off of it for a bit.

*Remember what you DO have. I'm sure there are many things in your life that you are proud of. Thinking "I don't have DPhiE=I have nothing" is only going to depress you. You do have something.

*Do not avoid your neighbors/roomie just because they got bids. Chances are that they are happy for themselves, but also sad because you didn't a bid with them. They are probably feeling a bit awkward about the situation but they still want to be your friend. So try not to have hard feelings, because avoiding them or being mean will make life in your room very awkward.

*I know it's hard, but don't become bitter and hate Greeks. If you walk around saying/thinking, "Stupid DPhiE's for not bidding me. What were they thinking?!" and being mad, you're not moving on and you'll be consumed with bitterness.

* Also remember that sororities have the right to their own selection processes, therefore it's useless to obsess over why you didn't get in. You can speculate, but you'll never really know.

*Although other campus activities are NOT meant as a substitute for Greek Life by any means, check out some campus orgs and see if any of them appeal to your interest. You might find something you never thought you'd like before.

tunatartare · #2 02-10-2006, 12:42 AM

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Originally posted by I_Love_Penguins
I'm going to wait a couple days before summing up how I felt about the whole experience, only because I don't want something angry and anti-sorority to come out of my mouth.

I don't post in recruitment threads very often, but I just wanted to compliment you on your class, level-headedness, and maturity in all of this. I hope that your college experience will still be a great one!

I_Love_Penguins · #3 02-10-2006, 01:17 AM

Thanks Daisy. I don't feel very level headed right now...I'm still pretty upset...but thank you for the compliments! I am trying my best to remain classy and mature instead of totally trashing the Greek system.

Buttonz · #4 02-10-2006, 02:18 AM

*hug* You really are very level headed about this, which is good. I'm sorry things didnt work out how you would have liked.

I_Love_Penguins · #5 02-10-2006, 09:32 AM

I talked to my roommate last night after she returned from her bids night party. (It was after 1 a.m. or something but I had a frozen coffee to cheer me up, so that's why I was still up.) Anyway, she told me that she got called about her bid as she was headed to catch the shuttle bus to go to the parking lot for her car. When she asked about my status (I mentioned we were roommates), she told me that the girls said I was very close to getting a bid, but then someone else got one. That made it hurt even more and my roommate told me she was unable to enjoy her party as much as she liked because she felt bad that I wasn't there with her.

I'm feeling a little better this morning, but still upset. I guess I need to move on though especially since I am going home this weekend and seeing some friends I haven't seen since before going back to school from winter break. I also get to do one of the things I love more than most things in the world...going to a hockey game. So I'm hoping to be feeling better by the end of the weekend.

SouthernSweet · #6 09-09-2006, 08:27 PM

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Originally Posted by I_Love_Penguins

I talked to my roommate last night after she returned from her bids night party. (It was after 1 a.m. or something but I had a frozen coffee to cheer me up, so that's why I was still up.) Anyway, she told me that she got called about her bid as she was headed to catch the shuttle bus to go to the parking lot for her car. When she asked about my status (I mentioned we were roommates), she told me that the girls said I was very close to getting a bid, but then someone else got one. That made it hurt even more and my roommate told me she was unable to enjoy her party as much as she liked because she felt bad that I wasn't there with her.

I'm feeling a little better this morning, but still upset. I guess I need to move on though especially since I am going home this weekend and seeing some friends I haven't seen since before going back to school from winter break. I also get to do one of the things I love more than most things in the world...going to a hockey game. So I'm hoping to be feeling better by the end of the weekend.

Well, it does help that your roommate did ask for you and you know the truth. I would definately join other organizations and try to go back the next time they have formal recruitment or COB...this time you will have people (your friends) from the inside pulling for you that know you extremely well. You'll also have other organizations under your belt the next time you go through.

You ARE handling this extremely well....just coming on here to post takes courage. You are to be commended!

AChiOhSnap · #7 09-09-2006, 11:15 PM

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Originally Posted by SouthernSweet

Well, it does help that your roommate did ask for you and you know the truth. I would definately join other organizations and try to go back the next time they have formal recruitment or COB...this time you will have people (your friends) from the inside pulling for you that know you extremely well. You'll also have other organizations under your belt the next time you go through.

You ARE handling this extremely well....just coming on here to post takes courage. You are to be commended!

SouthernSweet, the post you responded to is over 6 months old. I would hope she had time by now to join other campus orgs. She said she's going through COB again in a more recent post

I_Love_Penguins · #8 09-10-2006, 08:23 PM

OK girls/guys...I've made a decision...

I hope I'm not disappointing anyone, but I've decided to NOT COB and remain a GDI.

The reason for this is not because I have anything against the sororities for not bidding me last year. It's just that I've decided between a job and the 17 credits I am carrying that I shouldn't take any risks by pledging. I don't want to disappoint a sorority by acting like I was committed but then having to drop out for whatever reason. I talked to a girl who is in Alpha Phi Omega (not the same thing as a sorority I know but I'm making a point here LOL) and she said someone dropped out of their pleding last semester and it was a big inconvenience to the brothers and she explained it's also disappointing for yourself if you drop out of pledging. What she said really opened my eyes and I realized that although rush was a great experience, I shouldn't take risks to pledge if I feel like I may not have the time. After all, I do try to listen to my instincts. So although she's not in a sorority, obviously she understands the pledging process and that just really woke me up.

However I do have good news. Tonight I went to the general meeting for the school dance ensemble and I decided that seemed like a ton of fun. Once I saw the recital last year, I knew this is what I wanted to be a part of. We could sign up to try out for up to four classes, so I am trying out for Latin, modern, jazz, and swing. I'm hoping to make at least one of the classes. Classes meet for an hour a week and honestly, I just felt like that worked out better in my schedule.

So sorry if I disappointed anyone. I'm still glad I rushed in the spring and met some great sorority women and learned more about Greek Life, but I guess it's just not meant to be. But if anyone wants to know if I make dance ensemble, I will definitely update on that! So let me know if you guys want news on that. Tryouts are this week and next! Wish me luck.

Oops ETA: The dance ensemble actually has a rule that you are not allowed to be in the group if you're pledging. So that also kind of helped my decision. Dance has a strict attendance policy where you're only allowed two misses in fall semester and one miss in the spring. So that also helped me in my decision.

FSUZeta · #9 09-10-2006, 08:31 PM

you have not disappointed anyone. we all want you to do what is best for you!! the dance ensemble sounds like a lot of fun(and hard work). i hope you have a great time!!

AlphaFrog · #10 02-10-2006, 09:48 AM

Ali * I sent you a PM

Peaches-n-Cream · #11 02-10-2006, 12:52 PM

I'm sorry that you are disappointed. I suggest that you spend this time focused on improving your grades. You can try again next year if you really want it. I know some wonderful women who went through a similar experience before getting a bid.

I also agree with JocelynC's suggestions.

irishpipes · #12 02-10-2006, 12:53 PM

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Originally posted by I_Love_Penguins
When she asked about my status (I mentioned we were roommates), she told me that the girls said I was very close to getting a bid, but then someone else got one. That made it hurt even more and my roommate told me she was unable to enjoy her party as much as she liked because she felt bad that I wasn't there with her.

And we wonder why MS is supposed to be CONFIDENTIAL.

Honey, keep your chin up. Join things on campus, do well in school, and get the last laugh.

I_Love_Penguins · #13 02-10-2006, 12:56 PM

I am not sure if I am trying again next year. We'll see if I really want it. I am already a second semester sophomore...however...I know both D Phi E and one of the local sororities have pledged juniors without an issue. The one girl I met who's in D Phi E pledged as a junior. But as I said...we'll see if I really want it next semester.

A Random DphiE · #14 02-10-2006, 01:00 PM

i know you don't want to hear this now, but

"everything happens for a reason"

i know we ALL hate to hear that phrase,
but it proves to be true...
trust me.

let your heart heal, sit back, enjoy life, enjoy your friends,
and in due time you'll see there is something
bigger and better in store for you. &hearts;

KSUViolet06 · #15 02-10-2006, 02:10 PM

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Originally posted by I_Love_Penguins
.....she told me that the girls said I was very close to getting a bid, but then someone else got one. That made it hurt even more and my roommate told me she was unable to enjoy her party as much as she liked because she felt bad that I wasn't there with her.

I feel compelled to say this. I hope no one flames me. Do keep in mind that membership selection is the business of INITIATED members only. If your roomie is a New Member, chances are she has no clue why you didn't get a bid and is purely speculating. No one except initiated DPhiE's from that chapter know why you didn't get a bid.