If I'm happy, then why am I crying?

[adpiucf]

My boyfriends lives 15 minutes away and we only get to see each other on the weekends. We're busy during the week, but still communicate by phone and email. So your situation isn't unusual. People are busy-- grad school, 12 hour workdays, personal errands, life.

You're probably crying due to 1) other factors you're not realizing, or 2) you're just anxious because things are going so well and you're waiting for the other shoe to drop.

Talk it out with your girlfriends. New love can be overwhelming.

Most guys I know don't understand the female psyche, and so I wouldn't recommend talking to your bf about uncontrolled sobbing or trying to have a deep conversation about feelings unless you've been dating a very long time. At this point, the feelings are there, but that connection to just share anything isn't solidified. It will just confuse or freak him out, unless he is one of those rare guys who understands why girls cry for no immediate reason. It's perfectly fine to share that you're happy being with him, and if he does do something to upset you, you should communicate that to him (except in this case, it doesn't seem that he has done anything wrong).

Rely on your girlfriends, enjoy your new relationship, communicate and turn off any Lifetime TV movies!

[BobbyTheDon]

Originally posted by valkyrie
That's just rude.

Ahahaha. Ok. you calling someone else rude? What do you always say? Pot meet kettle?


Why don't you go to Alabama and climb a mountain or something.

[valkyrie]

Originally posted by BobbyTheDon
Ahahaha. Ok. you calling someone else rude? What do you always say? Pot meet kettle?


Why don't you go to Alabama and climb a mountain or something.

Eh, whatever.

[amanda6035]

Originally posted by PM_Mama00

Enjoy what you have and don't worry about what is to come in the future. Worry about that when it comes. It sounds like you have a great relationship so just enjoy it!

I totally do not agree with this. Reason being, in my experience, and from talking to my friends - if it seems too good to be true, then it probably is. In almost ALL of my previous relationships, if I got that sick feeling in the pit of my stomach, I just KNEW something was about to happen. I didnt know when, I didnt know why and I didnt know how until it actually happened. But I would always try to ignore that feeling and not discuss it with him because I didnt want HIM to get paranoid, and lo and behold, something crappy always happened.

One of the reasons I knew my fiance was the right guy for me was after 3 months into the relationship, and still no sick gut feelings...

Trust your gut. You're crying for a reason. You dont know what, but there is a reason. It might not be bad - it might not compare to what I said above....but definitely trust your gut.

[AGDee]

Originally posted by amanda6035


One of the reasons I knew my fiance was the right guy for me was after 3 months into the relationship, and still no sick gut feelings...

This kind of cracked me up. Put in simpler terms "Honey, I am marrying you because you're the only man who doesn't make me sick"

[amanda6035]

Originally posted by AGDee
This kind of cracked me up. Put in simpler terms "Honey, I am marrying you because you're the only man who doesn't make me sick"

Heh - PRETTY MUCH! hahah!

[KSig RC]

Originally posted by amanda6035
I totally do not agree with this. Reason being, in my experience, and from talking to my friends - if it seems too good to be true, then it probably is. In almost ALL of my previous relationships, if I got that sick feeling in the pit of my stomach, I just KNEW something was about to happen. I didnt know when, I didnt know why and I didnt know how until it actually happened. But I would always try to ignore that feeling and not discuss it with him because I didnt want HIM to get paranoid, and lo and behold, something crappy always happened.

One of the reasons I knew my fiance was the right guy for me was after 3 months into the relationship, and still no sick gut feelings...

Trust your gut. You're crying for a reason. You dont know what, but there is a reason. It might not be bad - it might not compare to what I said above....but definitely trust your gut.

Just for the record, this is the most pessimistic post I've ever read on this site - and that includes all of the crap on the Hazing forum, as well as Hoosier's posts. That's not necessarily a bad thing, but this level of pessimism may not serve others as well as it has served you.

[amanda6035]

Originally posted by KSig RC
Just for the record, this is the most pessimistic post I've ever read on this site - and that includes all of the crap on the Hazing forum, as well as Hoosier's posts. That's not necessarily a bad thing, but this level of pessimism may not serve others as well as it has served you.

Looks like you just trumped me.

There is nothign wrong with trusting your gut. It's alot better to trust your gut than to be stuck in a relationship that you're always anticipating the "What if?" scenario - and then when it actually happens, you blame yourself.

No sir, not for me. That crap is for the birds.

[KSig RC]

Originally posted by amanda6035
Looks like you just trumped me.

There is nothign wrong with trusting your gut. It's alot better to trust your gut than to be stuck in a relationship that you're always anticipating the "What if?" scenario - and then when it actually happens, you blame yourself.

No sir, not for me. That crap is for the birds.

I can't imagine those two things being the only two options - it's a false dilemma, which was pretty much my point. It's great that it's worked out for you - but there are other issues at play, and as such this strategy (and yes, it is a 'relationship strategy') may not work for others.