s0phie's spring rush '06 thread

[Buttonz]

Often, your first choice before rush isn't your first choice after you go through a round or two. You still have a few more parties to go, but in the end, just go with who you feel more comfitable with. I'm glad you found a house you really like and click with

[alum]

It sounds like you're having a great experience! It sounds like you would feel comfortable at both groups.

[s0phie]

So, the last update was from the first open round of events. Well, I said I only attended two parties, but I actually ended up deciding after that to attend three more parties: Aubrey, Dawn, and Denosh. I actually had an enjoyable time except for at Aubrey. I felt ignored. So, I continued to rush the others and skipped Aubrey, but they ended up giving me an invitation to their closed round, in addition to the other four sororities that I rushed. Even though I got closed invites to Dawn and Denosh, I declined but I did decide to give Aubrey another chance. I ended up having a good time. However, upon attending another one of Aubrey's events, I felt the way I did at their first one again. But I will go to another one of theirs tonight.

But the real contest is between Aundrea and Dominique. They kept going back and forth for me, back and forth, back and forth, but something just clicked at the last event of Aundrea's for me.

I know everyone here talks about just knowing where you would be right. And I think I had that moment at the last Aundrea event. Of course, that doesn't mean I will get a bid and that doesn't mean that I am dropping Dominique, but I think my mind might be made up. But it has changed before, so we'll see!!

[PhoenixAzul]

good job on keeping an open mind!

Being local greek is awesome

[honeychile]

Originally posted by s0phie
...and all I could think was: "Do I really see myself here?"

You've captured the entire essence of recruitment right here. Go with your gut, go where you feel you belong, go where you'll want to return to when you're coming to a Homecoming Game 25 years from now!

Good luck!

[Duchovnysfan]

I'm glad you are keeping an open mind the entire time, it's very important in recruitment. I don't know how many times you can back to the 2 that you are most inclined to but the more times you go you'll find your fit. The best way I see it is that the parties where they have been consistent; e.g you always had a great time @ this sorority. It becomes clearer when you see it from that perspective.

Much love and good luck!

[s0phie]

When I first made this thread, I was so excited to post my rush experiences. I had been reading about other people's experiences since the Fall and I was so sure that I would come back here every night and post as much as I could.

However, when the process started, I felt a little like I wanted to keep it to myself because I was unsure of how it would turn out. What would happen if no one wanted me? Would I jinx myself by putting my thoughts out into the universe or whatever?

Anyway, I have been documenting my process and I feel like now is an appropriate time to share with you guys. I have been going through rush for a while now and next week is when bids are given out. I am not afraid to give a more in-depth look at what has been going on with me and I hope that you guys will enjoy it. (These entries are taken from a private online journal of mine.)


ROUND ROBIN
1. DAWN: This was the first sorority that we visited. Instead of going to sorority cottages like we did last time, we went to different places on campus. These girls were in a conference room. They had little booklets on the seats with their information and little pins for us. Then they went down the line and introduced the girl next to them. After that, they showed a slide show. Then, they let us just walk around and look at the posters and stuff they made. I started talking to the other girls in my Round Robin group, and a couple of girls from the sorority. Soon, it was time for us to leave to go to the next stop.

2. DENOSH: They handed us little information booklets when we arrived and then told us to take a seat. They welcomed us and then turned off the lights and showed us this really long slide show. And then we stood and talked to different girls. And then we got in a circle and they sang their friendship song.

3. DOMINIQUE: We walked into a difference conference room and it reminded me of Aubrey from rush events last semester because they were greeting us as soon as we came in. And I knew a lot of the girls so I was talking to them and then I met some new ones and so I was talking to them. And I was just having a really good time. It was nice to interact with people instead of seeing a slide show. And I was surprised at how many Dominique members I knew and it was just a lot of fun. And then they had a skit and a girl was just so funny... she had me cracking up. They did a parody of a TV show and it was great. And then after that, we sung their friendship song, which was really long but funny, and I was really getting into it and laughing and having a good time. And then as we were getting our things to go, a girl who I was rushing with was like, "Do you want to be a Dominique?" because I looked really comfortable there. And as we left, I was thinking, "I wish I could be there longer..." I wanted to like, stay behind and hang out.

4. AUNDREA: We walked down the stairs to the next place and they were screaming and standing in two lines and we walked through them. Then we took our seats and they did a skit. The skit was okay.... I ended up talking to some girls I had already met, even though there are still some I have never talked to and I think that they are slightly intimidating still. We then sang their friendship song and they were all in harmony and everything and it was cute. I left them just feeling plain happy and I know this is a little sappy, but I almost felt like crying (I didn't of course, and I didn't tell anyone this either).

5. SHANNON: I know this is bad, but I had to use the bathroom and since I knew I didn’t want to rush their sorority, I decided to use the bathroom at the beginning of Shannon’s. When I came in, they were playing a slideshow. My mind was sort of wandering off into space, thinking about the Aundrea. Then after that, we were told to sort of walk around and talk to people. And I did and I met some nice girls, but it's like I knew right then that I wouldn't be rushing them. But I still had a nice time.

6. TAQUITA: This is a really small sorority and they only have about 4-6 people in it. They had us just ask questions and it was a little awkward.

7. AUBREY: We walked in and they were all really dressed up and just sort of standing there. At first, speaking to them was really awkward because it was like there was nothing to say or something and it's like us rushees had to be the ones to speak to them. And then they did a dance thing and that got me a little bit more into it, but more and more I was starting to feel disappointed. And then we did their friendship circle song and then after that I started talking to more people and then I had little rays of hope for the Aubrey, but I dunno, they seemed kind of cold. And even though they were dressier than the other ones and intimidating, it also felt a little forced or put on...

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Dominique really surprised me. I didn't expect to have as much fun with them as I did. Of course, I loved Aundrea and they were so consistent. Even though it would seem easy to figure out who would be on the top of my list, the way I felt while around the Dominique was different. I felt really comfortable and at ease and I was having a good time and I felt like I could be a part of the group. With Aundrea, I felt like I could be a part, but I didn't feel like completely a part of the inside. Like, they still have a big intimidation factor for me. They are in-between the Dominique and the Aubrey in terms of style and demeanor. But the girls there are so nice. Everyone wants to join Aundrea, and I just want to make sure that if I join them, I am not doing it because of the Dominique reputation. Like, I want to pick the place I like best.

So, right now, I am very interested in the Dominique and Aundrea. I will give Aubrey another chance, but if I don't feel better about it after their first event, then I will drop them. I think it might be a fight with the Dominique and Aundrea until the end, so I guess it is a good thing we have two weeks to decide.

[s0phie]

FIRST OPEN
I decided not to rush Taquita or Shannon.

1. DOMINIQUE: I walked over to their house by myself and stood in line to get inside. I was feeling a little self-conscious because right after dinner, I went into the bathroom to put on lip gloss and I noticed I had this big black thing sticking out of my teeth. I tried to get it out and I got most of it out, but not all of it. Anyway, I signed in and got a nametag. I was sort of just hanging back and not really speaking because we were all squished in the house. But then we went to a different location and were split into two different groups. My first group did an activity and it was so much fun. I was laughing with the girls so much and it was a REALLY good time. It was just FUN. And then we had to switch with the other group and so we did a different activity and I did okay at it, but I still had a really good time and I felt like I really fit in.

2. AUNDREA: I was in the front of the line with some other people when Aundrea opened the doors of this conference room. I took a nametag and made an info card and then I just sort of had to go up to someone and start talking. So, I made the rounds and people would talk to me (some I knew before, some I didn't) and they would just tour me around and sort of pass off. You could tell it was somewhat orchestrated, but there were TONS of girls. There were a nice amount at Dominique, but there were TONS at Aundrea. I mean, a crazy amount. So, I felt okay but I didn't really feel like I was connecting with anyone. I mean, I did connect with some of the first people I talked to, but after that, I felt like everyone did the sort of required name-year-dorm-major-hometown thing and then passed me off. But it IS understandable, seeing as how they had so many girls and it does get sort of exhausting. Anyway, after meeting three billion Aundreas, we were separated into groups according to our color coded nametags. So we did these icebreaker type games and I kinda wasn't feeling it. It looked like everyone was more excited than I was and I dunno... I just felt a little awkward, a little unsure of myself. We headed back to the auditorium and they did a skit, and it was funny, but not as funny to me as it seemed to be to everyone else. I stole glances at the crowd sometimes and I would see everyone laughing and having a great time, and for me, it felt kind of forced. And suddenly, I felt like, "Is Aundrea even for me?" I felt like I was making myself have a good time. And then they showed the slide show and more and more throughout it, I was thinking, "I'm not an Aundrea. I don't fit in here." After the slide show, a girl talked about Aundrea and how she felt like they were right for her after the first week. And I just felt sad. I felt somewhat disappointed and let down. I mean, I think the girls in there are great, but I don't know how well my personality meshes with theirs and I don't know how well theirs meshes with mine. There are some people who I think are just awesome and who make me want to join Aundrea really bad, but then there are quite a few other Aundreas that I met tonight that make me feel like, "So what?" So, it was not a good feeling to have.

3. DENOSH: I walked over to their house and went inside. There weren't a lot of girls there that weren't in the sorority, but it was still cool. I looked at one of the nicest scrapbooks I had ever seen, and then we sort of simmered down and we got split off into two groups. My group stayed in the living room and we played a game. Then we switched it up and went to their basement and did a different game. And then we were given a tour of their house, and then we went to the living room and played another icebreaker game. After that, it was time to go. It was a lot of fun, the girls are funny and I had a good time, even though at times, I felt my mind wandering.

4. AUBREY: We got there and they had made us these cute nametags. I went inside and I knew almost instantly that it might have been a mistake to go. I really wasn't wanting to go to Aubrey because after Round Robin, I just got the feeling that they were snobby. Now, there are some really nice girls in there individually, but I feel like when they get together as a group, they kind of give off this “superior” vibe. They didn’t really talk to me, they just stayed together in groups and I had to be the one to make conversation. It was kind of awkward. Well, after that, we did an activity that was okay. But I felt really glad to have left.

5. DAWN: This is the smallest sorority on campus besides Taquita, and I knew there was no chance that I wanted to pledge them, but I decided to go to their event, mostly because I knew I could probably have a good time. I was right! Even though there were some awkward moments, it was still a really good time. They had a themed party and we played games according to the theme. I think I had so much fun with them because I was comfortable. I still don't think that they are right for me as a sorority (they aren't exactly what I am looking for), but they were fun and I want to rush them until the end because I think I would have a lot of fun. And they seem like fun girls to be friends with.

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I definitely am going to rush Aundrea all the way through, and Dominque too, but I feel like Dominique has inched ahead. Of course, things that scare me about Dominique is their reputation: both in general on campus and for their hard pledging. Also, they have a lot of drama. But I also have felt the most comfortable there, like I am already a part of their sisterhood. I feel like if I joined, I'd make a difference to them as a person. Perhaps the Aundreas can't do that for me right now because there are a billion people. A big part of me says to be patient and see how things play out, because feelings can change. When things dwindle down, I may feel a lot more comfortable with Aundrea and a lot more like one of the group. So, I'll go to the next event, I'll hope to get invited to the closed event, and then we'll see.

[s0phie]

SECOND OPEN

1. DOMINIQUE: So, we walk in and we're handed nametags and then we're given different costume things. Oh my gosh, these costumes were ridiculously hilarious! After some girls from Dominique did a skit, we were split into groups to prepare a performance. My group was fun and when it was time to perform, we went, did it, and did an awesome job. The other groups were great and hilarious. It was so much fun. And then we did their long friendship circle and I was starting to catch onto some parts. We finished out with having time to converse a little before it was time to go to the next event.

2. DAWN: We just played different games. It was interesting. Instead of thinking of them as a sorority, I thought of them as just people I was hanging out with. I think they're fun and everything, but not necessarily what I want out of a sorority. But I do want to attend more of their events, as much as I can.

3. AUNDREA: This event also required costumes, but we had to get ready before the event. Everyone there had such interesting costumes on. People really liked mine, so that was fun. Anyway, we were split into groups and had to make up a performance. At first I didn't know if I really liked it, but we really made it work. It became a lot of fun and we had a lot of laughter. Finally, we finished practicing and it was time for all of the groups to perform. They did and it was fun.

4. DENOSH: I was debating whether or not I would go to their event because their activity was something that I usually despise. But I decided to go anyway. We were divided into groups and worked on the activity. I was participating sort of, but not really talking like I normally do. I sort of pretended to laugh and have a good time. And while other girls were talking, I was not paying attention at all. I left early.

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So, man, it was a good night! Lots of good times. And now I feel more comfortable with the Aundrea. It was a more fun atmosphere and they seemed to have let loose as well. I could more picture myself being one of them and it was just good times. And then Dominique, that was a lot of fun, too. Lots of fun. There are little differences between them, but now they are more even. Honestly, I do not know which one I would pick or feel more comfortable at. At Dominique, I feel like I would be a more significant member and I think their sense of humor is a little bit more like mine. When I got up onstage to do the performance and I introduced myself, people actually cheered loud. And when I was at Aundrea and I introduced myself, a few people cheered. I guess I feel more noticed in some ways at Dominique. But I still like both of these sororities the best and I hope I get invited to the closed events to get to know them better.

[s0phie]

FIRST CLOSED
This was an invitation-only event.

1. AUBREY: So, I surprisingly got an invitation back to the Aubrey house for the next event. I got to the house and it was kinda awkward because I didn't really know who to talk to. Anyway, I was thinking of randomly talking to a group of them when the meeting was called to order or whatever and we were split into our different groups. We went a did a very fun activitiy and I had a great time. But I think it was more because of the activity rather than the people there. I didn’t really talk to many of the Aubrey people.

2. DOMINIQUE: We gathered at their house and were split into groups. We were originally supposed to do a different activity, but it was changed into that certain activity that I despised. At first I was thinking, “Is this an omen?” But actually, it ended up being fun. We had a good time and were really competitive about it. After the activity, some of the Dominique members stood and told us why they joined Dominique and how much they liked it. It was really touching and you could tell that they genuinely care about each other. Then we did their friendship song and then it was time to leave.

3. AUNDREA: There were a billion girls there when I arrived at the Aundrea house and I was thinking, “Who got cut (if there are this many girls still here)?” Anyway, we stepped in and talked to some Aundrea girls... it was fun, good chatting, more like everyday stuff than the whole introductory stuff that we're used to. One of the seniors spoke and her speech was really good. Then, we were split up into groups and did their activity. It was just a lot of fun. I didn’t get to talk to as many people as I wanted to, but I just felt comfortable for the most part.

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So, Dominique and Aundrea are constantly neck and neck, but I feel like the Aundrea pulled ahead tonight. I like Dominique, but I have concerns over whether or not I will have the ability to carry on an actual conversation and how will that be. I think it will be fine, but I do have a lot more personality traits associated with members of Aundrea individually and like, a fun fact or something about a lot of the girls or a sense of their personality, whereas with Dominique, I think they are funny and cool and everything, but most of the girls, well, I wouldn't know what to say about them individually. Overall, I had more fun at Aundrea’s event than Dominique’s, although that was surprisingly fun, too. Tonight, again, I felt more like I would fit in with the Aundrea more than Dominique.

[s0phie]

THIRD OPEN

1. AUNDREA: I was so pumped to go and see them because they were doing an activity that I was really excited about. It ended up being a good time and I really had fun. I was standing with some of the other girls and I just thought, "I feel comfortable here." I just felt like I could have fun and be myself with Aundrea. So, our game ended and we went inside and then we were split into groups. We went around and introduced ourselves and then did some icebreaker stuff. A lot of the girls in the sorority actually spoke and the stuff that they were saying really hit home for me. It felt like everything that I was looking for in a sorority. Then one of their seniors spoke and then it was time to leave.

2. AUBREY: Of course, Aubrey also did the activity that I hate. We were split into groups and it was just a big contrast between them and Dominique. Dominique actually made the activity fun but with Aubrey, it was kind of blah. Anyway, when it was done, we had another activity but it was not anything where you could actually talk to other people. It was okay, but I just did not really feel comfortable there. Anyway, that ended and then we went outside to do their friendship circle.

3. DOMINIQUE: I had to run and get changed for Dominique’s themed party. I had a good time at Dominique, but I think already decided in my mind that I wanted to be an Aubrey. I could tell that the girls at Dominique really liked me and they really wanted me there, and I did have a good time, but I think my mind wasn’t all there because of the experience that I had had at Aundrea earlier that night.

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I think I like Aundrea the best. I am still rushing Dominique as much as possible and everything, but I know soon it will be time to make the ultimate decision (when all of the third closed parties take place at the same time). I think my decision will be Aundrea, but of course, that can change.

[s0phie]

SECOND CLOSED
This was an invitation-only event.

1. AUBREY: This was a themed party, the same as the last Dominique theme. I got to their house and I just sort of "mingled" (meaning I didn't really talk to anyone REALLY and I was feeling uncomfortable, as usual with Aubrey, but then after a while I started talking to people). Anyway, soon we got sorted into our groups because we were going to do a performance. At first, I was really quiet and in the background, but as time went on, I opened up more. Anyway, we made up our performance and then we sort of chilled and then it was time to perform. We performed and then a prize was given to the group of winners, and then it was time to go to the next party.

2. AUNDREA: Aundrea was also having the same theme as Dominique and Aubrey. It was pretty chill and fun. I had a really good time because it was the most open that the Aundrea girls had been and I just talked to a lot of them and was feeling like they were starting to be my friends. I felt really comfortable there and I felt like I was really able to see myself as a member of their sorority.

3. DOMINIQUE: We got nametags and then split into groups for our activity. Our activity was simple, but it was still fun. With them, I felt really comfortable and really at ease. I didn’t really talk to many of the girls as in having conversations, but it wasn’t like I felt ignored or anything like I do at the Aubrey house. It was just comfortable. Anyway, I still feel good about them, too, and I think I could still have a place with them and they would be true and good sisters and friends.

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I actually had a good time at all the parties, even though Aubrey was somewhat awkward at times. Anyway, Aundrea was TONS of fun. I really just liked hanging out with them in that atmosphere... chill, laid back, fun... and finally there was enough room and less people so we could feel like we were actually personally connecting. I really hope that I am invited back to their Third Closed. Same with Dominique, I hope I am invited back to theirs... even though I would have to make a choice between the two for that closed.

[s0phie]

FOURTH OPEN
All events overlap for at least 30 minutes of time.

1. DOMINIQUE: I arrived at the Dominique house, went inside, and sat down. I didn't really chat because I was a little sick and had just taken medicine and I was also cold, but it was a comfortable silence for me. So, anyway, the first part of the event was very cute. Anyway, after that, did an arts-and-crafts project. Mine sucked, but it was fun. And then we just sort of did that for a while, and then a Dominique Alum came back and talked a little bit and that was really cool. And unfortunately I had to go to the Aubrey party because it was almost time for it to start, and it was really hard. Like, other people were going, so it wasn't that bad, but I still felt really bad because I know that Dominique likes me. I really like Dominique and so it sucked when I left. You can tell that they genuinely care about each other. Each sorority has a different dynamic and Dominique just seems to be so much fun. After going to their event, I felt like my decision got a lot harder.

2. AUBREY: I kind of didn’t really talk to any of the girls in the sorority… just the girls that were rushing. I don’t know if I cared much. I pretty much gave up trying to mingle with them. Anyway, after that, we sat down, and the seniors gave us a talk about why the sorority meant a lot to them. It was really touching. However, as they spoke, I was thinking about Dominique and all of a sudden how I didn’t know if choosing Aundrea (if I received an invite) would be the right choice. It wasn’t so much of the experience that I had with Dominique, but the feeling that I was getting during the Aubrey meeting. I felt like crying because I felt like if I chose Aundrea over Dominique, the girls in Dominique would be really upset about it. But if I chose Dominique over Aundrea, the girls in Aundrea wouldn’t really care but I would ruin my chances with them. I didn’t know what was going on. But soon, it was time to go to Aundrea and I had to leave Aubrey early but I didn’t really feel bad about it.

3. AUNDREA: I arrived at Aundrea and I was a little nervous and I felt awkward. I went to go get a drink of water and gave myself a pep talk. I just told myself to be myself and then I went back. I talked to some people I had never met before and there were some arts-n-crafts going on. I really like the members of Aundrea who are juniors and seniors, but I felt disconnected from the ones that were sophomores. There were a couple of awkward moments, but for the most part, I had a good time. At the end when they were doing their friendship circle, I was thinking, “Do I really fit here?” and I was thinking, “If I join Aundrea, I’ll really miss Dominique’s friendship song.” But I pushed those thoughts aside and felt like Aundrea was the group for me.

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I am not going to go into this too much in-depth because I want to see if I actually get invites back, but I think at Aundrea, I am able to have more conversation. Like, I like Dominique and I can tell that they like me, but I still haven't really had much conversation with them. Like, I don't know really anything about the girls, but at the same time, you can still see their personalities. It's weird. Aundrea is much bigger, but I like a really big percentage of the girls. And I don't dislike anyone, although I try to avoid one. It's just... I don't know if Aundrea wants me. I think it's an easier decision to pick Dominique because I know that they would love me because I know that they already do. But for Aundrea... I feel like, because they are so big... I just don't know. But I feel like even though they are bigger, I know more girls' names, I've had more fun with them, good conversations and everything. I don't know if they see me fitting in with them, but I would love to be a part of their organization. At the same time, I really like Dominique, too.

[s0phie]

THIRD CLOSED (Part One)
This is an invitation-only event. All events are at the exact same time. Only one sorority event can be attended on this day, so this is essentially choice day.

HIGHLIGHT TO SEE WHICH INVITATIONS I RECEIVED AND WHICH PARTY I DECIDED TO ATTEND.

START HERE: Before the event... Last night, I received closed invites to Dominique and to Dawn. I stayed up later than I wanted to, waiting for Aundrea invites. I was hurting a little last night when Aundrea didn't come. Even though there was still a chance, when I woke up this morning, there was nothing.

However, I'm not sad. I think I am a little disappointed, but the more and more I think about it, the more and more I think this is the right thing. It's hard to explain how you feel or everything that goes on in your head in a journal, but maybe I got caught up with that whole Aundrea-craze thing, too. I mean, it's not to say that I didn't have fun with them, but I think when I was with them, I was always "ON." I'm glad that they made the decision for me. I knew that if they didn't give me an invite, I would go to Dominique. If they did give me an invite, it would be hard for me, but I probably would have picked Aundrea (which, I think now would have been a mistake).

Last night, I said a quick prayer to God and I said, "Lord, let your will be done, but if the Aundreas aren't going to ask me to join their sorority in the end, then please don't let them invite me to their third closed."

The Dominiques aren't perfect. But if I look back, I know where I have felt the most comfortable and the most accepted since Day 1. I may not even know much about them through conversation, but I know what I can SEE of them. They're crazy, they're loud, and they are comfortable. They like me for me. When I'm around them, I'm not really thinking about what I'm wearing or making the rounds or really trying to impress them, like I did with the Aundrea. I would get a little boastful around them. Nope, with Dominique, I don't try; I'm just there.

I'm sort of disappointed I didn't come to this conclusion myself, but I'm still glad it came down to this. I was so sad last night when I had to leave Dominique. I really felt like it was going to be a hard decision between them and Aundrea. But then I got around Aundrea and then it was like I was entranced, even though I still felt awkward. I should have taken that as a sign in the beginning: if I am still feeling awkward, then maybe it isn't a good thing. With Dominique, I feel like I never had to try. I always just was.

Maybe it seems to you like I am rationalizing. But I am just trying to be completely honest in the ways that I wasn't when I was writing my entries, because I wanted so badly to want Aundrea. I can't ignore the feelings I had last night in their friendship circle. I was thinking about how I didn't know if I fit in there, how their friendship song isn't as fun as Dominique’s. (Of course, I was also thinking: I can't choose a sorority based on their friendship song. But I have been thinking the whole time that if I didn't join Dominique, that I would miss their friendship song.)

For the first few Rush events, I was feeling Dominique all the way. I just really liked them and I was surprised that they were so cool. With Aundrea, I had constant doubts and fears. And even when I was having a good time there, if I look back, that still doesn't mean that I am meant to be an Aundrea. (Actually, I never felt like I could be an Aundrea. I mean, it was a possibility, but when I think of actually saying, "I'm an Aundrea," it doesn't really seem right.) I think they made the right choice in not giving me an invitation. I wish that I could have made the choice, but then again, I think I would have made the wrong one, so I am glad that they made it for me.

I have to admit, I think I got a little caught up in that whole "You don't turn down Aundrea" thing that everyone has. Even though before I went there, I was really struggling with the decision between Aundrea and the Dominique almost to the point of crying (I kept thinking... I know Dominique really likes me...) when I got to Aundrea, I guess I still did that thing where I got caught in the hype. I was being myself, but also not. It was like I was in performance mode. And maybe because of that, they saw me as a caricature and not a real person.

I've been holding back this whole rush time because I didn't want to get hurt or I didn't want to put all of my eggs in one basket. I think I have also been holding back from liking Dominique as much as I do because they party hard and because their pledge is hard. But, I feel like even if I don't party, it's okay because they like me for me. I feel like they will accept me. I also feel like if I was in their organization, I would make more of an impact and I think I would have a tighter sisterhood.

I am going to go to Dominique and I am going to have a good time. I'm not going to worry, I'm not going to perform. I'm just going to be, like I have before. They have accepted me at every single round, have showed me they liked me and want me around. I can't say the same for Aundrea, even though they have great people in there.

Don't know what else to say except for I think that this is a really positive thing and more and more I think, "I'm a Dominique." And I kinda like the sound of that.

[honeychile]

You are mature beyond your years! Have fun, SOphie!!