Would You Move For Somebody?

[MTSUGURL]

I think I'm just move-happy at the moment... I could be persuaded to move to another state/city fairly easily right now by a pleasant aquaintance.

[princessnerdy]

it seems like many people have this situation going on...myself included. I have had someone move to where I am living, the primary reason being to be with me. However, he hated the city and had few friends so he was miserable but wanted to try and see if things would get better. Well, they didn't and we ended up breaking up, and he moved back to where he was from.

However, I am currently on the other end of the situation (thinking about moving somewhere else) for a guy. A guy who I have been "talking" to for over a year, but we are not together. He originally lived in NC and now lives in NY, while I have been in IL the whole time. Visits have ensued as well as tons of time on the phone. Every visit has been great and always makes me wonder why don't I just move?

But it isn't a decision to make quickly, you really have to think about what you will be gaining/losing by moving. Just because you want to be with a person does not guarantee happiness. It also shouldn't be an out of a crappy situation you might currently be in. If you do it for the right reasons--ie good job, city you like, maybe some friends you already know, then probably you have more of a chance to be happy and successful than just moving for 1 reason and 1 reason only.

Just my opinion though

[PlymouthDZ]

I did.

I move 8 hours south (650ish miles) away from my family to be with my fiance. We've been dating for 6 years too though.

I don't think it is smart for her... with a brand new relationship. I would be willing to bet that she would regret the move if she did. I have had friends move for a new relationship (even an in-state move) and they regretted the choice IMMENSELY.

[Boodleboy322]

I think that they should probably meet up and date a few more times before doing anything drastic like moving. Bottom line is that no matter how much people like to fantasize there is no such thing as fairy tale romance. I'd get to know the person's ins and outs before moving. I dated a girl in XYZ sorority and thought she was the one after a month of dating. She ended having co-dependency issues, eating disorders, and was manic depressant. I'm glad I ran! There was definately way more baggage in the situation than I bargained for.

Regards,